I voted 1 more however I am way too deep in the newborn phase right now to accurately answer this. 3 weeks in and I can't imagine how anyone would have more than 1 baby!
I called my mom crying when DD was about 2 weeks old that I couldn't do this again and I would have my next one come as a 6 month old. Yet here u sit with 2u2. It does get better.
I have already told my mom to enjoy her only grandchild lol
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Dec 6, 2016 12:20:03 GMT -5
I think I'm weird. I was ready for another basically from the minute we got home from the hospital with our first. I mean, I wasn't even remotely interested in sex, but I knew I wanted another right away. At first I thought it was just hormones, but that feeling never went away. And here I am again, 9 days out from having #2 and already wanting another.
I think I'm weird. I was ready for another basically from the minute we got home from the hospital with our first. I mean, I wasn't even remotely interested in sex, but I knew I wanted another right away. At first I thought it was just hormones, but that feeling never went away. And here I am again, 9 days out from having #2 and already wanting another.
Twins? Like this is SOOO hard, so so hard. BUT I would have another right this second. I think maybe for about a few hours in the hospital I was like "nope never doing it again" but that passed. I think the pain played a part in that feeling. Yes it's super challenging but I know this part is fleeting and one day I'm going to look back and wish I could have it again, hell I already miss what hasn't passed. I think I'm weird too.
I reserve the right to amend these statements when H goes back to work after the new year and I'm doing it solo.
jubilantsquirrel, you aren't weird (or, at least not any weirder than I am, for whatever that's worth).
In the middle of the 5 hours I was pushing with DS I was already making comments to H about "next time." I desperately wanted my period to come back so we could TFAS (which didn't happen til 10 months PP). Part of that was because it had taken us a while to conceive him so I wanted to get started TTC again right away. I was beyond thrilled that it only took us 4 cycles this time and that we'd have 2 so close in age.
This time I feel a little less of that drive, but maybe it's because I know I need a little more time this go-round (mostly because of my career).
H and I always said we wanted two kids. On our way out of the hospital, the nurses joked about seeing us in another year or two. I said absolutely not and DH smirked and said maybe. He's made several comments about wanting a third in the past few weeks. I'm not really sure where this is coming from but we need to discuss it more seriously before I have my 6 week check up.
This last pregnancy was really tough and I'm not sure I want to be pregnant again. I'm ready to move on to the next chapter of our lives with finances, careers, etc.
I'll also admit I want my body back to myself. My plan is to breastfeed DS2 for a year. If we had another I'd want it to be sooner than later due to our ages. The thought of being pregnant or breastfeeding for the next three years sounds very unappealing.
Post by sophiegrace on Dec 6, 2016 19:50:11 GMT -5
kleigh, "I already miss what hasn't passed". YES times infinity. Thank you for saying this because I haven't even said it out loud to anyone because I wasn't sure if it made sense. I may have cried this weekend thinking for too long about it....
I now have the "complete" family that those idiots talk about, one boy and one girl, but it still doesn't feel complete. I want the craziness of that zone defense. I want the challenge of balancing time, energy, and finances for the reward of multiplied love, fun, and support. I want more in laws and grandchildren down the line. I want my kids to be able to divide the responsibility of taking care of H and I.
I love this. You said it perfectly. This is me too, when I really think about it.
Yes! This is why I could be persuaded to have 3 or 4.
My parents have friends with 5 (now grown/married) children. All 5 kids moved back to our hometown with their families and are super close with each other, etc. I look at that and think, the parents must be so happy to have such a large family so close by. DH looks at that and thinks, having more kids just means more risk for one being screwed up, lol.
I think it's just a different perspective based on our own family size. As I mentioned, I come from a large, boisterous family (on both my parents' sides) and DH's family is TINY.
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