Post by thechickencoop on Dec 6, 2016 18:44:22 GMT -5
Am I missing this this week? If not....
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Post by thechickencoop on Dec 6, 2016 18:54:49 GMT -5
Vent ahead.
I've just had a hair pulling few days between our insurance and RE and I'm about to head to both a issue throat punches.
When we had our initial consult, we were told that all IF testing is covered but not treatment. I took it at face value. Upon researching, turns out IF treatment is covered (no IVF or freezing though) as long as it's pre-authed and deemed medically necessary. I have no clue where the disconnect was but while yes, our testing was all covered (uh, after having to have some procedures resubmitted several times) our IUI cycle was never even submitted for pre Auth because the RE was under the impression that we didn't have coverage. But...we do.
So I just left them a message to submit the retro-pre Auth and all IUI codes so that the insurance can run them and then if they still tell me otherwise, we can get our broker/rep involved. But since nothing was submitted, there is nothing to review yet 😠
I'm like. Raging.
We've done nothing this cycle, just had random sex so I think I'm a few dpo (based on previous cycles) and will probably just start crinone tomorrow for shits and giggles.
QOTW: I'm excited to get myself a Roomba for christmas and also a few kitchen things we really need to replace (some spatulas, microplane)
I'm excited to give H a USMC license plate frame for his car (so lame, lol) but he just bought his new car that he sort of loves more than me so I think he'll like it And I framed a signed jersey he bought earlier in the year. DS and I wrapped it together and hid it under his bed, he jumped on it last week and I heard some th ing hit so I'm crossing everything that the frame isn't freaking cracked under there. I'm scared to look so we'll find out the 25 th.
Post by thechickencoop on Dec 6, 2016 19:02:11 GMT -5
Omg also, our neighbor friends had a party saturday, I got WASTED. Like, oof. I was talking to one neighbor about why I didn't vote for trump and the abortion comments came up that he made and how sickening it is, blah blah, you guys know what he said.
ANYWAY, another friend was standing there too and he was like, 'yeah it's fucked up, DW and I had to terminate a pregnancy at 21 weeks because of a medical issue'. And he told the other guy that he wouldn't wish that decision on anybody but was thankful that it was one they could make.
And I died. Like. I started tearing up and he was like omg, do you need a hug? I was like, no YOU need a hug!! Ugh. He was like, are you ok? 'I'm off my freakin zoloft, dealing with hormones, and am drunk, I'M FINE!!!!'
I'm glad H didn't noTice the conversation and ask what we were talking about. It's not my place to share that :/
I've been doing acupuncture for the last 5 weeks. I'm not sure if it is affecting much, but I just ovulated on CD 31 which would be a second "short" cycle in a row.
I'm excited to see what I get for Christmas. I didn't ask for much, so it will be a surprise
I made some homemade crocheted items for presents, and I'm very excited to give them.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
I'm a week away from my RE appt (yay!) and I'm so ready for it to get here. I didn't temp for the first time in over a year because of vacation, I've been pretty regular and of course this cycle has been super long with no period in sight and several bfn's, I don't know what my body is doing.
I'm a week away from my RE appt (yay!) and I'm so ready for it to get here. I didn't temp for the first time in over a year because of vacation, I've been pretty regular and of course this cycle has been super long with no period in sight and several bfn's, I don't know what my body is doing.
How much longer is this cycle running? Stupid bodies. I'm usually like clockwork but I had a couple random cycles last year that were like 3-5 days longer than normal when I was really sick (stomach bug type sick) so of course I was all like....am I KU? Oh no, just sick. 😂😂😩
thechickencoop - sorry for all of the insurance frustrations and complications. I hope everything can get worked out for you guys to get the IUI covered.
@sparky85 - I'm glad the acupuncture seems to be helping.
bex15 - good luck at the appointment next week! I'm sorry for the long, confusing cycle.
AFM, no real news on the IF front. My old clinic is being annoying about sending my records to our new clinic. They claimed to have faxed them last Wednesday but my new nurse hasn't received them yet, so... I don't know. I'll have to contact them again. I'm hoping to get any missing testing and bloodwork done on this year's insurance so we are ready to go with IVF next year if we decide to do that.
Our foster care case has been unbelievably stressful lately. We thought we knew what direction the case was heading and now we're not so sure. Plus we may or may not be getting a newborn in the next couple weeks and still don't know for sure about that either. This is just a really difficult season for H and I, and I hope the time passes quickly and we can get some clarity about our and our foster sons' futures.
QOTW: I'm not looking forward to anything specific. One of my sisters always gives really thoughtful gifts so I'm excited to see what she got for me and my family. I'm excited to give my aunt her present. I usually just get her hot chocolate or coffee since I know she'd use that, but this year I found her some really pretty personalized stationary on Etsy, and I think she'll really like it.
Post by kawaiikitsune on Dec 6, 2016 23:24:01 GMT -5
thechickencoop Your insurance & RE are giving me all the rage. Seriously, I hope they get their shit together soon and stop causing you all this unnecessary stress. @sparky85 That's pretty great. bex15 That was my cycle last month, to a T. First month not temping in forever, body switches everything up to mess with my head. Hope You get answers and good news at your RE appointment. ceejay My old RE did the same thing and it was so incredibly frustrating. I hope they get your records sent soon. Also, all the hugs regarding your foster care situation. So sorry about all the unknowns.
AFM, nothing new here. Just lots of sex and hoping for the best.
QOTW - I always look forward to MH's gift because it's always something I didn't expect. I have a few things in mind for his present.
Post by thechickencoop on Dec 7, 2016 6:09:10 GMT -5
ceejay I am so sorry that your foster cases are not going as planned. And I forget if you've mentioned it before or not, but will you not know for sure about the baby until AFTER it's born? Or will you have something in place beforr hand?
Hi everyone. H and I were on vacation, so I am late checking in.
thechickencoop, I am so sorry about your insurance. How amazing that everything is covered, though! I hope you're able to get it all sorted out. I am feeling your pain. Nothing is covered for us, but H's job switched insurance providers, and our new plan was active Dec. 1. I still don't have new ID cards and have to go to an appt Friday. Jackasses.
ceejay, I am sorry the foster case is stressful right now. I hope the old RE gets it in gear and gets your records sent. I need to call and make sure that got done on my end, too.
bex15, sorry for the long cycle. I hope you see an answer soon. And I hope your RE appt goes well!!
We just got back from vacation. I had an appt scheduled with a new RE and hoped to move forward with them for IVF immediately (if we liked them). Unfortunately, I got a bad stomach bug the night we got back, and my RE had to reschedule due to emergency surgery, so now I don't think we will get in in time to actually move forward. CD1 started this morning, so now I have cramps to complement my weak stomach. New RE appt is Friday. So...we might be on a natural cycle, but I had really hoped to move on to IVF right now. The migraines are getting worse, and I just don't know how long I can deal with them without hope of a positive outcome.
ironbaby , so sorry about CD1 - big hugs. I hope your stomach feels better soon too. I really hope they can work out something for you this cycle so you don't have to wait any longer
AFM, CD1 today. Cramps for daaaaaays right now. I'm just really tired of everything at this point. Need to talk to the RE about immune testing and considering some alternative treatments before turning to IVF with the money that I don't really have (although it does look like I've figured out a way to finance at least one cycle - apparently I can borrow against my retirement at a low (like 2%) interest rate. I figure I'm far enough away from retirement that I can make up for it over the next 30 years).
QOTW: Dorky, but I'm super excited for the bullet journal my brother is giving me! The siblings and SOs do a not-so-secret santa to save money (one gift instead of 5), and my brother got me. I'm also pretty excited bc DH drew my brother's gf, and we got her the Thug Kitchen cookbook. We also might get my mom a Harry Potter snuggie, because that's just hilarious (and I KNOW she'd use it)
I'm a week away from my RE appt (yay!) and I'm so ready for it to get here. I didn't temp for the first time in over a year because of vacation, I've been pretty regular and of course this cycle has been super long with no period in sight and several bfn's, I don't know what my body is doing.
How much longer is this cycle running? Stupid bodies. I'm usually like clockwork but I had a couple random cycles last year that were like 3-5 days longer than normal when I was really sick (stomach bug type sick) so of course I was all like....am I KU? Oh no, just sick. 😂😂😩
10 days longer than normal today, it's so frustrating not knowing when I ovulated!
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
ASM: we have been licensed a month as of today! No calls yet and no idea when we will get one. We have a meeting with our case worker on the 15th. That's when we will officially sign off on the prudent parenting and I don't know what else.
I know it can take months to receive a placement but this time of the year is hard when all you want for Christmas is a child.
QOTW: not really H and I are just doing stocking stuffers and then something small for each other's birthday's. I know something H is getting from his parents that he should be happy about-he needs a smaller drill and they actually bought him one.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
I might tag later but I'm always mobile. Hugs for the CD1s.
We had the $200 15 min consult with the Uro last week. H is doing another (FML) repeat SA tomorrow then going back on Clomid. He gained 5# the last time so he is pissed but whatevs. I need to call to get the TESA set up for the end of January. He's pissed but agreed to it.
Our RE appointment is at the end of this month so my goal is to do the TESA in January and go ahead and start BCP soon so I can sync up with the February group. We want to make sure the TESA works before we pay for IVF but since we aren't doing this naturally BCP is no big deal.
rooskie, forgive the intrusion, and you don't have to answer, but why is your H so pissed? Does that bother you? In any case, I hope the Clomid helps and the TESA gets enough for a shot at a successful IVF course.
thechickencoop Ugh why is insurance the worst?! You’re in the U.S., right? I hope that they take care of things quickly so you aren’t paying OOP for anything you shouldn’t have to. @sparky85 I hope that acupuncture keeps helping your cycle out! That sounds promising! bex15 Gotta love the one time you take a break, your body decides to be an asshole. I hope you figure out what’s going on so you can move on! ceejay I’m so sorry about the foster case stress, and I hope you get all the records you need for IVF next year. You’ve been through more frustration than anyone should have to with this stuff. kawaiikitsune In the same boat as you — hoping for the best alongside you! ironbaby Oh friend. A big FU to CD1, rescheduling IVF, and sickness. I’m so sorry. daisy818 ugh how I hope that alternative treatment or something works before having to spend that kind of money. I hear ya. I’d be interested to hear more about the immune testing when you get to it. butlerfan I hope you get a call soon!! Let’s get this show on the road! rooskie I hope you can get all of that sorted out to start cycling at the beginning of the year!
AFM: also just hanging out and not doing anything special. I googled a little about silent endo and am now curious about it. I never thought I had any typical symptoms of endo, but maybe some of the odd ones that come and go. If I’m able to get back to the RE anytime soon, I’d want to ask. Everything looked really normal and average on my SIS but I know that probably isn’t a perfect test to see something like that.
One positive thing that I got excited about that isn’t IF-related — H and I get to go to C.u.ba for work in February! I never expected to have that opportunity. We are working on a partnership with an organization there. Being some of the first people I know to visit since the country was opened to U.S. travel is pretty exciting.
QOTW: I actually haven’t thought much about gifts. I bought H a card game that he really wanted on Cyber Monday because Amazon had it half off, which I told him about and we already played it together lol. I told him a weekend away is all I want, so maybe that’ll just be our gift to each other. If my parents ask, tho, I want a new perfume
Nothing is covered for us, but H's job switched insurance providers, and our new plan was active Dec. 1. I still don't have new ID cards and have to go to an appt Friday. Jackasses.
Omg this was us last year! Our plan year begins Dec 1 also, we never got our cards last year and it wasn't just a new year but a whole new ins co. H had to refill his meds like, Dec 5th or something and he was on a few big ones for anxiety and sleep issues. Because our insurance didn't 'exist' yet we had to pay fucking 600+ oop and then get reimbursed when our insurance went (retroactively) into effect.
I.was.pissed.
Hopefully they can still contact your new insurance to get coverage info!!
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