Yesterday H and I were just getting beyond whatever stomach bug/food poisoning hit us. I say "us" but honestlyI did not see him vomiting or making a diarrhea-dash so I question what his issue really was lol.
Today, well damn I'm proud of us today. We started the day with a trip to TJ Maxx, CVS, and our local coffee shop. We left the kids home. Just kidding!!! We took them with us and they were perfect angels and slept the whole time. Sure it's cold out but we bundled them and we agree that we need to get more comfortable with taking them out (mostly from our fear of them screaming in a car seat, esp while driving). Then FIL stopped over, followed by my sister. And then we rushed to make it to our friends house - this was our first REAL outing. We both made showers, shaving, hair &makeup work - alhough it was hell getting out the door and we were over an hour late BUT they have a 9mo old daughter and understand luckily - I'm just proud that we didn't cancel when we could have/should have - esp because it was snowing here (which we didn't know).
Anyway tomorrow (today) is my 6wk PP visit and we're going to stop by MILs on the way back (it's about 500 feet away from OB) so another full day ahead of us.
Oh boy hangry, I'm sorry! Sending healing thoughts your way!!
Up at 2am, little L doesn't seem to want to sleep unless my boob is in his mouth. When nursing it's fine but sometimes he seems to be trying to suck other things out too... and that's when it's sore! DH leaves in 12 hours (weather permitting) and I'm scared even more now with L not sleeping tonight.
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 12, 2016 4:14:01 GMT -5
I'm up with C at 3:30 which is probably the worst time he could have gotten up with my alarm set to 5:30. I might be able to get another hour of sleep after he's done eating, if he falls asleep quickly, but I might just stay up and cuddle with him instead. It's going to be an interesting morning with both H and I getting ready to leave. At least the snow is done so hopefully the plows have had a chance to clear off the roads by the time we leave.
hangry lots of prayers and positive thoughts coming your way. Hope E is doing okay! Please keep us posted! goldenlove3, GL today! kleigh really glad to hear you are feeling better! Looks like we randomly got snow last night too.
I caved and introduced the pacifier today. She took it right away and seems to like it. I'm wondering if it might help with some of our nighttime fussiness struggles.
were youhesitating because of nipple confusion or because you don't want to start the habit of using a pacifier?
Mainly nipple confusion because she had a weird thing the first couple weeks where she'd take several minutes to latch on properly. But I think part of me was kinda also hoping that maybe we'd be able to avoid starting the habit with her.
I have no issue with it but MH seems to. I've had to talk with him a couple times about comments he has made to DS (who's not even 2) that were borderline shaming about still using one (FTR he only gets it at naptime and bedtime). So I thought if she could be spared that then great.
Then again H would probably be more tolerant with her because she's a girl. I'll save a discussion of his latent gender biases for another night.
Weird night here. I got a 6 hour stretch, so wahoo! But it is not because D slept nicely.
I left her downstairs, fed and asleep, with H at around 9:30. It took me a bit to fall asleep but then I woke up (with aching boobs) at 4 when I heard her crying loudly.
I got up and found H rocking her in the nursery, which he never does. Normally if she's crying like that he brings her to me. I asked him what was going on and he says, "She's been wide awake this whole time." Huh??
Apparently she woke up around 11:30 or midnight (which btw is when I was expecting her to wake to feed again when I went to bed) and just never went back to sleep. I'm not sure why it didn't occur to him that she was hungry. I'm going to blame the damn pacifier because I guarantee he was stuffing it in her mouth half the night. In fact he did comment on the fact that the paci was a "double edged sword" because she gets upset when it falls out of her mouth.
Ughhhh you guys. It's sweet in a way because I know H is trying really hard to pull his weight and wants to let me sleep, but at a certain point it crosses into martyrdom. Four hours is way too long for a 3 week old to be up. She's conked out on me right now with an extra full belly but I'm wondering what tomorrow is going to be like.
Thank you for all your kind words and positive thoughts. Here's an update:
We have been admitted to the hospital. Given her presentation, they suspect (or at least need to rule out) meningitis. The 3 tests to assess were a urine sample by inserting a catheter, an Iv to get a blood draw and be ready for IV treatments, and a lumbar puncture. The catheter was fine, but the IV was disastrous. It took 3 nurses, 2 IV nurses, and ultrasound 9 TRIES over a 2 hour peroid to get access. She was screaming almost the whole time. She finally just passed out from being so tired, so overstimulated, so much pain/discomfort and that's when they finally got it. They were like , oh good, she's relaxed now. Umm no, she is not relaxed, she shut down. I know it's necessary, and it's no ones fault but difficult veins, but my god that was heart breaking.
In between IV attempts, they attempted a lumbar puncture. Well, they hit the 1 in 10 chance of a capillary and therefore it wasn't a clean draw. So now we won't know if it's meningitis until they do another draw. But that can't be for another day or two. So they are treating her for antibiotics until we have that test and bacterial culture from a blood draw that takes 48 hours. Any time her foot (where the IV is) bends or is touched or hit she cries in pain. It's going to be a long 48 hours.
On the good side, we came in early, she's on strong antibiotics which will get anything in her, we are in a world class childrens hospital, and I get to cuddle and feed her as much as as she and I want.
Again thank you for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers.
hangry, I'm sorry you're going thru this and I'll be keeping you in my thoughts!
So after I posted, DH gave L a pacifier but can't remember if he took it away or not!?! So we got 4 hours of sleep but I don't know at what cost. I'm still in bed hoping to squeeze another hour nap. Dh is plowing the driveway now and thus far flights from our airport are still on time!
Oh my goodness, hangry, what a night. Poor baby and poor mom. I'll keep my fingers crossed it isn't meningitis; I'm sorry the testing was so difficult and y'all won't have results more quickly.
My heart breaks for you guys hangry I can't imagine her discomfort and pain, and for you to have to watch must be so hard as a mommy. Of course you have some strong pluses on your side with catching it early and being at a great hospital but I wish you could just wake up and it have been a bad dream. I will hope for as much pain free time for her and that this is all resolved soon. Sooooooo many hugs.
dashook Oooh thats tough bc I know he's been trying and you don't want to discourage his attempts but I agree about that being too long for her but also about the paci. H is still learning this one, I've explained the hunger cues to him, I've shown him, and he was also obviously in the same child care classes as me - yet he still tries to offer the paci when I can clearly tell the baby is hungry and I'll correct him but if the baby is still sleeping/just waking he'll be like "no hold on, he/she'll go back to sleep" and give the paci. No dad, back away from the paci.
goldenlove3 BE STRONG mama! I hope these next two weeks fly by! 💜💜💜
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 12, 2016 9:01:35 GMT -5
hangry I'm so sorry you're going through that. Watching them give C an IV and listening to him scream was heartbreaking when we were at the hospital. I hope she is doing better now and enjoying your cuddles. I'll be thinking of you.
hangry I'm sorry you had such a rough night. Sending healing thoughts to E and all the love to you. Watching your child be in pain is by far the worst thing about parenting. I hope you have some support with you today. How is your big kid feeling?
Post by shedreamsincolor on Dec 12, 2016 10:43:20 GMT -5
Oh hangry. I am so sorry you're going through this. I work in an ER (and have previously worked in a Pediatric ICU) and reading your post made me tear up. Getting IV access in a tiny newborn can be so difficult and I can relate to how awful that experience must have been to witness. It will be a long two days I'm sure. Do you guys have family who can come to give you a little break for shower/meals/sleep etc? It sounds like you are in a great hospital that is doing everything right for treatment in terms of a fever in a newborn. Will continue to send prayers that everything checks out and you guys can head home soon!!!
O still has a low grade fever and he asked to stay home today in his jammies but we brought him the daycare anyway. We don't have family here and my H wanted to be here at the hospital. We are somewhat expecting a call to pick him up early. Man this is tough! Thanks for asking buckyb
We did get a good report from the doctor team for E. Despite not having results from a lumbar puncture, they do not think it's meningitis! Likely just a viral cold. They stopped antibiotics and are now waiting and watching. If fever naturally goes down, likely viral and it will run it's course. Fingers crossed for that b
Thanks for all the good energy ladies, it must be paying off!
Post by cookswithwine9 on Dec 12, 2016 11:32:38 GMT -5
I'm not really concerned about pacifier use. We gave O one in the hospital. He's never had a problem nursing or displayed "nipple confusion". I also started giving a bottle once a day starting at 3 weeks. He has to learn to take one eventually, so far no trouble. Only thing with bottle feeding is, it's hard to tell if he needs more when the bottle runs out sometimes.
I'm not really concerned about pacifier use. We gave O one in the hospital. He's never had a problem nursing or displayed "nipple confusion". I also started giving a bottle once a day starting at 3 weeks. He has to learn to take one eventually, so far no trouble. Only thing with bottle feeding is, it's hard to tell if he needs more when the bottle runs out sometimes.
Yeah, DS was on a bottle and paci from almost day 1 and never had any issues or confusion. The only reason I was being cautious this time was because DD had actually shown an issue with latching onto my nipple so I wanted to make sure she had it worked out before introducing artificial ones!
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