GKU IF weekly check in 12-13-16

[butlerfan]

I didn't see this yet...unless I missed it!

This check-in is meant for anyone on GKU who has hit the 1 year mark of TTC (6 months if you’re over 35), has an infertility diagnosis, or is going through IF testing/treatment. It is meant to be a place for people to share and ask any questions who might not participate on 3T/IF and who would like the company of others going through the same experiences.

If you have any questions about participating, please send amberr a PRIVATE MESSAGE. Otherwise, please share you info and jump on in!!!! This will be posted every Monday. If you have any suggestions or would like something added, please feel free to post.

QOTW: What is your favorite Christmas memory from your childhood?

[wannabmama]

Ahhhh! I'm waiting for MH to get home to head to transfer together...no idea how many we have to transfer and the suspense is killing me. I got up at 5:30 and worked from home bc I couldn't sleep but needed to keep my mind occupied. Now I'm just pacing the kitchen...
QOTW: I have so many! A good one is that we used to get our Christmas tree out of our yard, we had some land and would just walk into the woods (a fun adventure itself) and find a tree, so they'd always be kind of "unique looking" but one year we couldn't find any remotely useable...so we cut two down and tied them together...and tied them to doorknob handles so they would stay upright. It was a Charlie Brown tree for sure...but I loved it!

[MrsRC88]

**TW**






I go here again . I had a loss last week at 5w, 5d. Everything was fine and then I started bleeding. My Dr told me to go to the ER, and my hCG was only 109. I knew my dates were right. They kept telling me maybe I wasn't as far along as I thought I was. But I knew I was right. Either way- this sucks. I have a follow up on Thursday. Then DH is ready to try again- like he is ready. Which is sweet. He said if it doesn't happen in the next couple months he will go get his SA done, which he didn't want to do. I also happened to found out IF treatment is covered (after I meet my deductible) with my insurance. Which shocked me. But it's there, in my plan book! So... We will just keep trying. At least I know I can get pregnant. Maybe one day I will stay pregnant.

[ironbaby]

Good luck today, wannabmama!! I can't wait to hear how it went.

MrsRC88, I am so very sorry for your loss. Take some time to be good to yourself. That's fantastic news that IF is covered, though.

[ironbaby]

AFM, we had the consult with the new RE Friday, and it was fantastic. We start IVF immediately. I go in next Monday for the SHG and mock transfer, and we'll start Lupron on CD21. EEP!!

Our insurance company hasn't issued our policy yet, so that is causing a lot of headache. The clinic is working with us and not submitting claims yet, but I need a policy before the SHG to know if we need pre-auth, so that's frustrating.

With any luck, though, we're looking at a January transfer.

[bex15]

Best of luck wannabmama, I'm crossing everything for you!!

I'm so sorry for your loss MrsRC88.

[butlerfan]

wannabmama Good luck today!

[bex15]

Yay ironbaby, that's such great news!!

[butlerfan]

MrsRC88 so sorry for your loss. Hugs

[butlerfan]

ironbaby eek!!!! Exiting FX everything goes smoothly and insurance gets you cards soon!

[pinkcat]

Good luck today wannabmama! I have everything crossed for you!
I'm sorry for your loss MrsRC88.
ironbaby That's great that your appointment went so well and you get to start right away! Fingers crossed you get a January transfer.

AFM, I have been pretty frustrated with TTC and I haven't been posting much on the boards lately, but I do lurk and LT! We just finished medicated cycle 5. The biggest issue I've been having is short LPs (between 9 and 11 days, usually 10) and this was my first month finally on progesterone supplements. I am currently at 15DPO now so it seems like it worked- my longest LP ever! BFNs which is disappointing but at least I made it to 15DPO. The plan now is 1 more medicated cycle, 2 cycles of IUI, and then moving to IVF in the spring. I have been ready to move forward with IUI and IVF if needed for some time but DH has needed some more time to get used to all of this, I think.

I do have one question on progesterone. I always start getting my "period" cramps around 5-6DPO, and they continue to get worse until 10DPO when I usually start my period. So, I always feel like I'm out early. This cycle on progesterone, I got the same cramps and they have continued until now at 15DPO. I guess I am just wondering what exactly it is that causes my cramps to start so early and if I am wrong in worrying about them and feeling out so early each cycle? Any thoughts?

[ceejay]

wannabmama - good luck today! I'll be stalking you on the boards again to find out how your transfer went and how your little embryos are doing!
MrsRC88 - I'm so sorry for your loss.
ironbaby - I'm so glad you like the new RE and can get started right away with IVF! FX all of the insurance stuff can be figured out in time for this cycle.
pinkcat - I'm sorry you've been frustrated with TTC lately. I'm glad the progesterone seemed to help your LP so much! That's great! I don't really have an answer to your question, but I'm in a similar boat. I have longer LPs than you (typically 12-14 days) but I tend to get period like cramps at 8-10 DPO so I know that I'm out many days before I get my period. I've always wondered why my cramps start early and if that's a bad thing or not. Hopefully someone else here can provide you with a better answer.


AFM, good riddance and big TP to my now former RE. I had my consultation at the new RE over a month ago (Nov 10). That day, the new RE office sent over the records request to my old RE. The old RE office sat on the request and did absolutely nothing with it for 2 weeks (nice). Then they called me and said that I had to pay a $20 fee to get my old records sent over. Which I find to be ridiculous, since they are my records and I've never had other doctors (GYN, etc.) charge a fee for records requests, and I already had to pay a huge fee to "cancel" my IVF cycle there. So there was some back and forth between me and the receptionist, and eventually she agreed to fax the records to the new RE and send me a copy of my records in the mail without the fee. Great. Fine. Well, another 2 weeks go by, and I never got anything in the mail (I allowed some extra time since USPS always has delays during the holiday season), and the new RE never got any faxes from them. Finally I'm like, screw it, I'm tired of checking on my records that clearly were never sent. I decided to just go in a pick up the records in person. I went to do that this morning, and the old RE office says "ooops, it looks like you never paid the $20 fee. How would you like to pay that today?" I explained that the receptionist told me I didn't need to pay and that my records were supposedly already sent out anyway. Then they just stared at me blankly and said that I needed to pay if I wanted to take my records. At that point I was ready to punch them all in the face, so I just paid the $20 and got out of there. I was so pissed.

TL; DR. My old RE office most likely lied about sending my records to my new RE so that I would have to pick them up in person and pay a stupid fee that they had previously told me that I wouldn't have to pay.

Anyways, we're going to try to take care of any missing testing/bloodwork/appointments for IVF before the end of the calendar year at the new RE, so that they will go on this year's insurance. Then, depending on what happens with our crazy foster care case, we will probably proceed with IVF next year.


QOTW: It's hard for me to pick one! I just remember the excitement of waiting upstairs Christmas morning before we went down to open presents. My sisters and I weren't allowed to go downstairs Christmas morning until our parents woke up and we took our traditional picture sitting on the stairs. We still take "the stair picture" every year, even though the three of us are way too big now to all sit on the same step like we used to!

[jense927]

wannabmama good luck with the transfer!! I hope it goes well!
MrsRC88 I am so sorry for your loss. Great news about DH and the insurance!
ironbaby, that is awesome that your RE appt went so well and you are able to get a Jan transfer in! Good luck!
pinkcat, I am sorry you've been so frustrated IF is not a good time. I also get cramps at about 7 DPO and it sucks knowing you are out that early. No clue on why though
ceejay, wow thankfully you are no longer at that RE they sound horrible! Good luck with the new RE office!

AFM not much has changed. I met with more doctors and it seems the RE's have the opinion that I should absolutely get the surgery if I plan to carry the pregnancy and that the MFMs think I would be fine to carry the pregnancy. I am leaning toward the surgery because they have said they think this is what is causing our fertility issues. The thought that if I can get this fixed we could have the option to have more children and without intervention is very tempting. I see another surgical RE soon. (still waiting for the official appointment) then we will make a final decision. Surrogacy will be more pricey than we anticipated. Since we don't have a carrier and would need to use an agency it could be around 100K.

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pinkcat, I don't think cramps have much to do with actually getting your period. I always got really bad cramps even on cycles when I was pregnant. Granted maybe that doesn't mean much given the outcomes, but it's totally possible to still be pregnant even if you get cramps early.

[pinkcat]

Thanks ceejay, jense927, and @led!

[goldenlove3]

Hi ladies. I hope you don't mind me posting here. I have an Ovidrel that I'm trying to give away if anyone is cycling soon. It expires in March. PM me if interested.

Free Ovidrel

Sending everyone positive thoughts!

[cjchio]

I'm mobile and running behind on some stuff, but please know I am reading and thinkingredients about you all. Lots of love to everyone that needs it, especially with the Holidays appraching.


AFM, our IUI will probably be January. I haven't started Cd1 yet, so I'm out for this month with travel. And it's probably going to be January because my husband has decided he needs to go to a music conference around when I should start next month. I don't know if he would be back in time to do what he needs to do, and they want both of us in office for the first appointment to discuss mini stim iui protocal.

I'm not too happy about the possibility of another cycle getting delayed.

[Deleted]

I have a small non fertility related update.

I got the results of my EMG and it turns out I have pinched nerves in multiple spots in my spine (left C5-C6, bilateral C6-C7, bilateral C7-T1). It most likely explains the shooting pains I get that starts in my neck and run down my left arm. I have to go for physical therapy for a month or so to help get it under control.

So I guess yay!

Also I go to pulmonology tomorrow morning to figure out this weird breathing thing going on. So much fun. I have one more appointment in January with a genetic counselor which i'm hopeful will get me some solid answers finally.

[thechickencoop]

I'm so sorry MrsRC88

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I'm just hanging out at 11 dpo, trying not to over think every little thing.

My favourite part of Christmas was making cookies and visiting family for the holidays. We didn't always live near my grandparents, but we would travel for Christmas.

[thechickencoop]

Dec 13, 2016 14:32:49 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

Hi ladies. I hope you don't mind me posting here. I have an Ovidrel that I'm trying to give away if anyone is cycling soon. It expires in March. PM me if interested.

Free Ovidrel

Sending everyone positive thoughts!

I maaaay be interested. It depends on how our insurance pans out but our next IUI would be next cycle and my ovidrel last cycle was $100 OOP 😕

I'll touch base in a couple weeks if it's not gone already!

[wannabmama]

I'm PUPO!! Now begins the longest two weeks of my life...betas aren't until 12/27...ahhhhh!

[easilyunamused]

Dec 13, 2016 20:08:43 GMT -5 wannabmama said:

I'm PUPO!! Now begins the longest two weeks of my life...betas aren't until 12/27...ahhhhh!

*grad lurking*

Yes!! I'm so excited for you! Everything crossed and sending sticky vibes your way!

[thechickencoop]

wannabmama woohoo!!!! how'd it go??

ironbaby I'm so glad you've got some sort of direction. Sorry about your stupid insurance 😩

pinkcat I don't know anything about weird cramps but woohoo for a longer LP and a plan!

ceejay fuck your old RE. I'm glad you went in there and got every th ing you needed.

jense927 good news then!! I'm happy that everything seems to be working out!

Ugggghhh cjchio this is the worst time of year for scheduling things. Everyone's always got a million things going on. Could they video chat or speaker phone your H in for the consult though? I mean, sounds like it'd be way easier. It's not like they're going to actually be DOING anything at that time.

@wallflwr926 oh my gosh, answers ! I hope the PT helps!

[thechickencoop]

Dec 13, 2016 20:08:43 GMT -5 wannabmama said:

I'm PUPO!! Now begins the longest two weeks of my life...betas aren't until 12/27...ahhhhh!

Aaahhh you were posting this at the same time I was asking how it went.

YYYYAAAYYYYYY!!!!

[cateyes]

Dec 13, 2016 20:08:43 GMT -5 wannabmama said:

I'm PUPO!! Now begins the longest two weeks of my life...betas aren't until 12/27...ahhhhh!

Grad warning-

Grad eagerly following/stalking and so excited for you!!! Yay!!!!

[thechickencoop]

AFM just hanging out in the TWW of a natural cycle. I didn't do any temping, OPKs, nada this cycle, just started progesterone at what seemed a few dpo but...really not sure lol.

Waiting on our RE and insurance to get their shit together before another IUI. Our RE needs to submit the (retro) pre Auth and the claims for our IUI last cycle and they said they would do it last week but as of today, insurance hasn't received anything 😠 I left the billing dept a message this afternoon so hopefully they call me back in the am. Like..wtf.

But...yea. Anger aside, I'm approx 10 dpo so I may poa cheapie tomorrow morning just for shits and giggles. Ya know, it doesn't get old for me after 31 freakin cycles 😒.
I did; however, poas like 2 weeks ago since I had such a wonky period but it was negative of course haha.

<---- clearly losing it.

QOTW Christmas memories....ummm...I have no clue. I mean, we always did the same old same old family stuff but....I don't know. Nothing in particular really stands out. Is that sad? Lol.

[butlerfan]

Dec 13, 2016 20:08:43 GMT -5 wannabmama said:

I'm PUPO!! Now begins the longest two weeks of my life...betas aren't until 12/27...ahhhhh!

Fx!!! Also that's my birthday!

[thechickencoop]

Dec 13, 2016 22:02:20 GMT -5 ****** said:

Dec 13, 2016 20:08:43 GMT -5 wannabmama said:

I'm PUPO!! Now begins the longest two weeks of my life...betas aren't until 12/27...ahhhhh!

are you Beta or bust??!!?

Yeeeeeaaaa....the 27th is like...super far away.

[lilsneezy]

wannabmama Eeek!! Congrats on being PUPO! Keeping everything crossed for you
MrsRC88 I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs!
ironbaby Ahhh so excited for you! Good luck on Monday!
pinkcat Sorry to hear you've been frustrated with TTC, I've definitely been there. Glad to hear the progesterone supplements are doing their job!
ceejay Ughh your old RE office sounds petty AF. I'm glad you're finally out of there!
@wallflwr926 Yay for finally getting some answers! Good luck at your appointment tomorrow.

AFM, I'm 1 or 2DPO of a natural cycle... cycle 39 I think? I'm oddly hopeful this month. No idea why but I'll take it. I was supposed to have my lap yesterday but it got pushed back to 1/9 because my RE went on vacation and forgot to schedule me when she got back 😒. I really wanted to have it done before the year ended but whatever. I did find out that my new insurance plan is going to cover IUIs (I think) so I'm happy about that. Other than that, same old, same old.

QOTW: I don't have any specific stories but my favorite part about Christmas as a child was waking up in the middle of the night and sneaking downstairs with my brother to check out our presents. It was like Mission Impossible since our parents' bedroom door was at the bottom of our creaky staircase. We always got caught but it never stopped us from trying.