Post by sophiegrace on Dec 27, 2016 18:24:09 GMT -5
I have so much fun with M when she's happy and smiley too goldenlove3! Has C started happy yelling at you yet? Mia just started making tons of new noises over the weekend. Feel better soon!!
I hope C is having a great time with all of his toys danib!
Ugh our DMV is a cesspool too kleigh. Pee stains on all the chairs and all. I can't wait too see if M likes the beach, are you guys close enough that it's an easy trip to get there?
Yayyy L cheshie6!!! Does this mean no more waking to eat? You've done such an amazing job getting all that food in him.
I'm glad your DS kind of just 'got it' eventually shedreamsincolor. Knowing that it will eventually get better is keeping me going. I'm so glad you're feeling like yourself again and I hope your PP appt goes well.
LizInFL, thank you! She's 50/50 in the car. Either calm as can be or full on nuclear breakdown. I haven't tried the car lately because the one time I did get her down in there the dogs lost their bananas when we got home and woke her up. I never thought to just hang out in there and snooze.
6 month clothes over here as well waitwhat. Her 2 month appt isn't until next Friday and I can't imagine what she's going to weigh.
I hope you start getting all the long stretches tgrimes1980. It's only been in the past week that the lack of sleep has hit me hard.
sophiegrace Yes! We have four beaches in town, three of those are about 1-2 miles from me (two different directions). So not close enough to walk but very convenient. But I mean it's Long Island Sound (two of them, the other one is like man made lol)... So going in the water is not my favorite but sunbathing is what I go for. Now with kids, one has a splash park and the others have playgrounds.
We don't swaddle for naps since she is still napping on me, in the car, or in the ktan, and I know she won't be swaddles a daycare.
H is napping on his tummy on the boppy newborn lounger. I'm afraid I'm ruining him for daycare...
DS never, ever slept on his back for me, ever. By the time he started daycare at 3 months old, I had him tummy sleeping at night (swaddled from armpits down). They didn't do swaddling there and definitely no tummy sleeping, but managed to get him to take naps on his back in the Merlin suit. They have their methods, don't worry!
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 27, 2016 19:54:58 GMT -5
sophiegrace He hasn't done that yet! He still just coos and makes small noises right now. He's really moving his mouth though so it seems like we're close to more conversations. I can't wait!
DS never, ever slept on his back for me, ever. By the time he started daycare at 3 months old, I had him tummy sleeping at night (swaddled from armpits down). They didn't do swaddling there and definitely no tummy sleeping, but managed to get him to take naps on his back in the Merlin suit. They have their methods, don't worry!
I am worried though. M barely slept at daycare. I'd get lucky if she took two 30 min naps a day. Hopefully H will be different.
I'm being a huge brat and feeling super impatient for D to start smiling. I mentioned yesterday that I saw her first smile in the morning but it was soooo quick and she hasn't done it since. DS gave me his first smile at 5 weeks 2 days and then every day after that. She's 5+4 today. Like I said, I'm just impatient and it's making me jealous of everyone getting smiles, laughs, and coos even though I know your babies are older!
I'm being a huge brat and feeling super impatient for D to start smiling. I mentioned yesterday that I saw her first smile in the morning but it was soooo quick and she hasn't done it since. DS gave me his first smile at 5 weeks 2 days and then every day after that. She's 5+4 today. Like I said, I'm just impatient and it's making me jealous of everyone getting smiles, laughs, and coos even though I know your babies are older!
L has only smiled 1-2 times so far and I'm pretty sure both those times were gas. No coos either. You aren't alone, hang in there!
dashook For every smile and coo I have 30x more "WTF mom I'm not happy" cries lol. And Adeline smiles a ton but Alec almost never smiles or coos (not necessarily crying just blank stares) and he also still sleeps a ton more during the day, so I spend half the day analyzing their differences and wondering if he's behind in some way - then the other half of the day I feel guilty for comparing them.
dashook For every smile and coo I have 30x more "WTF mom I'm not happy" cries lol. And Adeline smiles a ton but Alec almost never smiles or coos (not necessarily crying just blank stares) and he also still sleeps a ton more during the day, so I spend half the day analyzing their differences and wondering if he's behind in some way - then the other half of the day I feel guilty for comparing them.
It must be so crazy to have two at once. I don't see how it would be possible not to compare them!
dashook For every smile and coo I have 30x more "WTF mom I'm not happy" cries lol. And Adeline smiles a ton but Alec almost never smiles or coos (not necessarily crying just blank stares) and he also still sleeps a ton more during the day, so I spend half the day analyzing their differences and wondering if he's behind in some way - then the other half of the day I feel guilty for comparing them.
It must be so crazy to have two at once. I don't see how it would be possible not to compare them!
Not that I'm a SS, because I know others with multiple children (of different ages) do the comparing too... But I just feel bad about it for whatever reason. I think because they are at the same age/same time. But yeah it's crazy that these two babies grew within me at the exact same time and yet are so different - we'll see if it remains, they're still so young but we already see striking differences.
H goes back to work on January 2nd. He will have been home with me for just over 8 weeks at that point (since the day I was admitted to the hospital). I am SO SO SO nervous. How the hell am I going to do this alone? How do the mothers of multiple kids (toddler + baby) do it?
What do I do when both babies cry? Or scream? Or need to eat or be changed or burp/spit up or want to be held?
When I hear them cry it pierces my heart because I fear that I'm going to screw them up long term if they have to cry for even a second during these first few months. I try to anticipate their needs ahead of time and almost never do they cry for more than a couple seconds before their needs are met (barring them being in a funky mood). So the prospect of having to watch one cry while I'm tending to the other has me on edge, legitimate stress and anxiety.
kleigh, it's nowhere near as bad as you have it with 2, but I worry every day that I'm ruining L somehow! Am I spoiling him when I let him sleep on me after 3 hours awake and all I want is for him to sleep? Should I be saving for his psychiatrist as well as his college? I've never had so many doubts before!?! I think the 1st week will be tough but you'll get the hang of it.
cheshie6 I am not using a waist band or anything. The only thing I'm using is "Bio Oil" and I HIGHLY recommend it. My sisters swear by it and I have seen such huge improvement in my skin in just a couple weeks of using it (really I saw a change after just a couple days). I know parts of me will never be the same - my boobs are so damn saggy and deflated, not wrinkly, just not perky anymore. And my belly button is a hot mess - it is weird and stretched and gross.
That said I have seen both sides and can confidently say there is no recipe or one size fits all - I think everyone is totally different in this regard, but yes I am worried about my saggy tummy and tits lol.
I have a sister who is about 105 lbs who gained 65 lbs with both of her kids (they're only one year apart so no real break to her body) and I've seen her undressed and she is pretty much 100% back to pre pregnancy - no saggy skin, no saggy boobs, no stretch marks, etc (but she did have both right after pregnancy). It took her about a year to fully recover from the sags, stretch marks, etc.
I have another sister who was 16 when she had her son (and about 165 lbs) and she only gained 10ish lbs but she still had saggy skin and stretch marks that wouldn't go away. She's now 33 yrs old and about two years ago she dropped 45 lbs but has always kept the saggy-ness/stretch marks from pregnancy. She recently had plastic surgery and so most of its gone but prior to that she couldn't get rid of it and again had only gained a few lbs compared to the sister who gained 60+ and lost everything. So in my mind, there's no formula lol.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Dec 27, 2016 22:20:02 GMT -5
kleigh, I try my hardest to make sure both the baby and the toddler have their needs met quickly, but that's not always possible. Just today the baby was screaming in the swing when MH got home because I was busy changing DS1's diaper. Or some mornings I can hear DS1 whining in his room because he's awake but I'm in the middle of nursing DS2, so he was to wait before I can get him up. I don't like it, but it OK to let them cry for a couple minutes if you're not able to get to them right away.
I mean, sometimes both kids are crying at the same time because I'm stuck on the toilet and it's either let them cry for a couple minutes or poop my pants. You can only do so much, but you won't cause any long lasting damage by letting them cry for a minute or two.
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 27, 2016 22:32:24 GMT -5
+1 to being worried about ruining my child. I'm always worried that I'm not doing something that I should be. Is he getting enough tummy time? Should we be doing more as far as his development? There are days that I feel like he's been in my arms or swing all day and I worry that I should be letting him lay on the floor more so maybe he can attempt to roll over.
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 27, 2016 23:12:24 GMT -5
waitwhat Having a toddler terrifies me. Like I have always been able to picture myself with a baby, but I still can't picture myself with an older kid. I'm very scared I won't know what to do.
waitwhat Having a toddler terrifies me. Like I have always been able to picture myself with a baby, but I still can't picture myself with an older kid. I'm very scared I won't know what to do.
IMO having a toddler is easier. They are somewhat self sufficient and it's great. They are also a lot of fun! You be great. And by the time C is a toddler you will know so much about him it will be a piece of cake!
I agree with this goldenlove3. There are things that are more challenging, like tantrums and other extremely unpleasant behaviour. But mostly they're fun and you can talk to them. It's really cool watching them learn and grow.
kleigh Other people have said it well. It's a bit challenging to figure out what works and what doesn't for you, but you figure it out fast. I have easy days and hard days. I've definitely had the baby start crying while Lillian had a meltdown. And I've had times where I had to take care of one while the other needed something. It's impossible to always be there for both. But you do your best and it really is ok for them to cry for a few minutes while you do what you gotta do.
Anyone else up? Of course after a day where I couldn't nap when L napped, had to be up early for sofa guy, and whenever I tried to nap, I got asked a question, a phone call, or my mom couldn't take him because these weather changes are wreaking havoc on her body, L decides this will be a 2am-3am kind of night!?!
Post by goldenlove3 on Dec 28, 2016 2:22:11 GMT -5
I'm up but getting ready to put this kid back down. He gave us a nice 5 hour stretch but for some reason H and I stayed up watching TV. We went to bed about an hour ago but I wouldn't let myself go to sleep knowing he would be getting up soon. So here I am. He just finished a 5oz bottle so I need to burp, swaddle and put him back to sleep. He was in his crib so I might keep him in here and see how he does for this next stretch.
Does anyone worry about their body after baby? Is anyone using a girdle/belly trainer? I'm so worried all this flabby skin will stay flabby forever!
Yes. I'm weird and felt extremely uncomfortable in my skin while pregnant and I'm having trouble accepting my body now. I think the nursing is contributing too along with not having any time to take care of myself beyond a two minute shower. It doesn't belong to me anymore.
cheshie6 I feel like myself, but when I look in a mirror, I hate how I look now. It bothers me so much. I'm much rounder than I used to be, my chest is wider, belly is still rounded and the bottom floppy, stretch marks and cellulite abound, and my arms look huge. I don't worry so much about my weight and the roundness. But the squishy gross tummy I do worry about as well as my chest. I was pretty skinny before I had Lillian and I was proud of how I looked so it's been hard the last couple of years. I'm hoping that with work and time I can feel good about myself again.
I do have a binder that I wear sometimes. It's not super comfortable so I don't wear it as much as maybe I should. I know it's helped, but I just can't always wear it.
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