I'm going to go bonkers with the 4 yo in the house all day. Tons of new toys everywhere and she still follows me around the house whining.
My ILs wanted to keep her overnight one day this week (wahoo) and I've been keeping her away from public places because she can't go if she's even mildly ill. Last night she started coughing dramatically and it sounded like she was forcing herself to cough (she is the ultimate hypochondriac drama queen and I'm so sick of it). She's still doing it. I think there's a 90% chance it's fake, but MIL will probably not want to take the risk and cancel. Ughhh.
katelou does she know that she's going to spend the night at your MILs this week? Do you think it'd make her stop if you told her "you don't get to spend the night at grandma's if you're sick!"?
Post by sarcaztic10 on Dec 27, 2016 10:39:34 GMT -5
Ugh sorry for the sick/"sick" kid katelou it sucks when you have kid free time just within reach and it's ripped away.
I'm back at work today and I don't want to be. I am still the only one doing my job and I just can't make a dent in the work. I am still sick and am so tired. I wish I could take a nap.
I'm off until the 8th so just spending time with the boys. Our middle dude has a play date this afternoon, probably going to go visit my grandparents tomorrow. Gotta start planning a party for New Year's Eve also
I'm trying to get my house/life back together after the sickness, sleep deprivation, and holiday madness of the last few days. Working tomorrow and Thursday, then off again til next Tuesday. Oh, and sleep training starts Thursday night. 🙏
Hugs katelou. Hopefully she'll still be able to go! Also hugs sarcaztic10. It really sucks that when you're good at what you do you end up doing other people's jobs for them. mcktymck, yay! for short weeks!! Ray, enjoy your time with you boys! That sounds awesome prvc678, I hear ya on the getting life back together. My house is a total disaster right now and I don't even know where to start!
AFM... back to work today after a whirlwind of a weekend traveling. We didn't get home until 6:30 last night and emptied out the truck load (literally) of stuff we came home with and didn't get any further. This is the first full week of DH being home on paternity leave. Crossing my fingers, toes and anything else that crosses that he's able to get some stuff done around the house for me. The thought of coming home to the disaster that was in my living room when I left this morning gives me heartburn.
We are driving home now. I've never been so happy for a 10 hour drive. I'm just not a fan of seeing all of my family at the same time for hours upon hours. I'm also disappointed that R's first Christmas got lost in the shuffle.
Home alone with the boys. Everyone but my H has off this week. DS1 has been fighting his nap hardcore these days, but is totally not ready to drop it.
This was the conversation just now. Me- "L close your eyes and try to sleep. I'll tuck you in." L- " no thanks mom! I'm all done listening. I'm being fresh now."
Oh. Ok. At least he's polite? Naps are great dude.
We are driving home now. I've never been so happy for a 10 hour drive. I'm just not a fan of seeing all of my family at the same time for hours upon hours. I'm also disappointed that R's first Christmas got lost in the shuffle.
Hooray you're on your way home! Sorry you felt like his Christmas was lost in the shuffle though.
FWIW, this was the first Christmas DS1 really understood and cared about what was going on (he's almost 3). This Christmas was so much more special because he actively participated and enjoyed himself. The first Christmas is special too...but try not to dwell on it. It just gets better from here ;-)
Dropped HK off at DC and just adulting today. Currently getting a mani/pedi and it's delightful. Already did more paperwork to get things transferred from my mom to me and gave my car a bath (which hasn't happened since HK was born). Calling it a win
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Post by littlesthobo on Dec 27, 2016 14:50:14 GMT -5
DH is off all week so we did some shopping today. Got lots of Christmas craft stuff on clearance, woo-hoo! We need to seriously overhaul our laundry room this week and we're trying to figure out how to do it for cheap/free. Storage is our main issue, so we will start by purging.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Dec 27, 2016 15:43:01 GMT -5
Christmas was a bust for me. I fought with DH and cried in the bathroom. Sometimes being the mom sucks.
So I woke up yesterday and took down the tree and cleaned the living room. I just wanted to shed the season and be rid of it.
Today DH has the day off and took DD4 to the library and shopping. I got groceries and I'm doing laundry. My life is so boring it's laughable. I think I have SAD this year. I had to cancel my gym membership because they doubled the rate by charging for childcare after including it in the price and it's unreasonably expensive now. So I have seriously no break from the kids except DH and no exercise and I'm on the verge of checking out all day. I need to figure out a way to be more present for my kids and find something for me. My H wants to help but he's at work 6 days a week and we have no extra money. None.
Post by rungirlrun on Dec 27, 2016 17:10:09 GMT -5
My H is working Tues-Thursday this week so today was just the boys and me. We went to story time where E had a major poop explosion where it got all over him and his carseat so that was fun. Then errands and groceries where once again, someone asked DS1 if he liked his little sister. I need a sign that says, I'm a boy! Now both kids are napping in their rooms - last night we started putting E down awake. He fell asleep last night and for his nap with fewer tears than I expected. Sleep is still not good, but I'm going to say we are making progress!
katelou, hope your daughter gets over her illness (real or not) soon so you can get a break!
I'm sorry cabbagecabbage , it's hard when the holidays turn out like that SAD is a real thing and you should call your doc and ask about ways to help.
I wish I had advice but I don't. I can relate, I also don't feel like I have anything for me at this point in my life. I get breaks from DD1 but I've been away from the baby a total of like 10 hours since she was born. It helps to remind myself that in the grand scheme of my life, this is a relatively short season and this is the most dependant they will ever be.
Big hugs to you though. Winter sucks for so many reasons.
My H really wants to help. I Used the treadmill and walked for 30 minutes, which was long enough to stretch out my legs. I told him I needed the kids away the whole time and it was nice. It helped. I used to run a 5k on the treadmill almost every day, so maybe that will be my thing again. I can read, listen to music or an audiobook and recharge.
SAD is real. My dad, sister, and I seem to get it. I should look into a light to help.
And I also try to remember it's a short season of life too. Since we're second timers, we know it really does go quickly.
Post by Susan0utLoud on Dec 28, 2016 0:40:17 GMT -5
We're in LA for the week visiting extended family. It's a family reunion of sorts. This is the first time we've flown with our kids. They slept the whole time, awesome! The only crappy part of schlepping all of the kids stuff. The kids themselves were the easy part. Lol
Post by jewelsofthenile on Dec 28, 2016 8:02:09 GMT -5
Hugs cabbagecabbage having two little ones is a stuggle. I know I feel stretched thin daily especially with a toddler who has multiple meltdowns daily. I am hopeing to get somewhat of a workout/me time starting next week because I need things I enjoy. I wish it was feasible to get outside more but between the cold and the fact that all daylight happens while I am at work, time outside is really limited...come on April Haha.
I will be visiting my family this weekend finishing up the last christmas parties. And maybe getting out without kids for NYE...Hopefully!
Post by littlesthobo on Dec 28, 2016 8:28:08 GMT -5
cabbagecabbage big hugs. I'm glad your H helped out so you could exercise. I've struggled with SAD in the past too and I've found that taking a multivitamin and vitamin D helps. Exercise too. It's so important to take care of yourself, which can be so hard with two little ones!
cabbagecabbage big hugs. I'm glad your H is supportive and helped you get some time for yourself in. I second taking the vitamin D. It's so hard the first couple of years when the babies are so dependent on mom. Hang in there!
Post by madamewaffles on Dec 28, 2016 11:35:20 GMT -5
::hugs:: cabbagecabbage. It doesn't help that it's winter time without as much daylight, it just sucks the life out too.
Hi all. A had his 6 month appointment yesterday which included FOUR shots. He took them like a champ though. It was the first time I could really hear pain in his crying though, that really pulled hard on me. I think his legs are tender today because when I lifted his legs to do a diaper change, he winced and moaned. Bad mama! He's been napping since 8 and I heard him talking to himself so I will go get him in a minute or two.
This is kind of a long one so TLDR: my dad whom I don't speak with sent me a Christmas card with gift cards in it last week, I sent him a thank you text and I now regret it.
So I don't have a relationship with my dad at all. It's been very on and off (mainly off) since I was 15, but the last time I had talked to him in any way was 4 years ago. Well a few days ago I went to get the mail and there was a card from him with a gift card to get Sam something and a gift card for me and H to go out to lunch. I struggled with what to do, knowing that I should text him to thank him but also knowing that it might lead to him wanting to talk to me more which I'm not sure I want. He's just not someone I really want to have a relationship with, he loves to make me feel guilty for no reason. I decided to text him though because I felt it was the right thing to do. Well now I'm regretting it. He had also sent a card to my place for my little sister so he text me this morning asking if it had come and if she had received it, so I said I saw her on Christmas and got it to her. She's a heroin addict which as you can imagine has been really hard on our family, but we were all just glad that she made it to Christmas. My dad responded back saying "Good, I wish you would get her arrested!!!!!!!! " WTF? Just as I thought, the same asshole he's always been.
Post by littlesthobo on Dec 28, 2016 17:57:40 GMT -5
mcktymck I'm sorry about your dad and his text message. I would have sent a text thanking him too, and now that you've done that, I would stop responding. What a shitty and pointless thing for him to say. Hugs for you!
Ughhhh I just fed Flint and the bottle was leaking so much. I wasted at least 1.5oz before I noticed.
Also, flint has been rejecting the boob so much that I think we may have to switch entirely to bottles, and since I can't keep up,that means switching at least in part to formula.
It makes me sad, (and anxious because woah $$)
He just screams and screams because he's so hungry and there's nothing in my boobs or he's too tired/lazy to get it out. I pumped twice today and only got 0.5oz out of each side.
I think I'll still try to nurse when I get home from work, and hopefully he can do a mix of solids and BM by day and formula at bed. Idk. this sucks
Post by littlesthobo on Dec 28, 2016 23:12:41 GMT -5
Hugs Ray! You are doing the best you can. Keep doing what you feel is best for you and Flint! I just wanted to let you know that Costco's Kirkland brand formula is the best deal I've found, $23.99 for 1.36kg. Both DS1 and L have done great on it. But I hope BFing works out for you because I know that's what you want for F!
mcktymck, I'm sorry your dad is a jerk. That really sucks.
Ray, I didn't know pumping had gotten so hard for you! Sorry to hear that. Whatever you decide, you have done great for making it this far, be proud of it!
My DD1 really did end up being sick - but luckily it seems mild. Still, I'm wiping down everything and trying to keep her away from me and the baby.
My H told me tonight. "You're really paranoid about sickness. I don't get it. It's not going to kill them"
no, but spending the entire night in a recliner holding a congested baby upright so she can sleep will make me want to die. So will doing 100% of my normal parenting and house duties even though I'm sick. Sorry you don't get it because sick kids have zero negative impact on your life, and when you're sick, you retreat to your bed for 2 days and completely forget you have children. WTF dude.
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