It's TFAS Check-In day! 12/27

[jax1182014]

This check-in is for those of us who are or will be trying for a sibling.

Age of LO(s):
Month/Cycle:
CD/DPO:
RRCS:
GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS?

[cnf2013]

Age of LO(s): 13.5 months

Month/Cycle: 1/1

CD/DPO: 24/5 according to FF, I say 4.

RRCS: I ovulated over a week later then usual and I'm really crabby about it. I also don't think I agree with FF on my O date, but it feels like a wash at this point, so I don't care. I'll just continue to side eye it angrily while I bitch at my ovaries for not getting their shit together this cycle.

Rave: DD Only woke up once last night and not until 4am. A quick shush got her right back to sleep until 5:30. While I'm still desperate to get at least one day's sleep past 5:30 this week while I'm off, I'm taking this as a win and enjoying actually getting a real night's sleep, more or less, for once.

GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? We know we want at least two, likely three kids. I'm over the hump of FMLA eligibility at my new job, so we dove right in despite the fact that I really don't want to return to this job come fall. Let the chips land where they may, I suppose.

[jax1182014]

Age of LO: 2 yrs old
Month/Cycle: 15
CD/DPO: 14/1 I think
RRCS: just curious how this month will go. Will I have a short cycle, or longer cycle, or will this be the month?! So many unanswered questions.
GTKY: we started TFAS when my daughter turned 13 months old. We've always wanted our kids to be closer in age.

[RoLoMa]

Age of LO(s): 14 months tomorrow

Month/Cycle: 2/2

CD/DPO: CD 8

RRCS: I am already stressed about this cycle and we aren't even to O yet. I will be calling the RE to schedule a consult and hopefully move forward with testing if this cycle is a bust so that we can do a treatment cycle by March at the latest.

GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? We know we want 2 and I am not getting any younger. I will be high(er) risk with a 2nd pregnancy and would like to get going on that so that we can be done with babies before I turn 38.

[obscurereference]

Age of LO(s): 4, 2, 1

Month/Cycle: 6/6

CD/DPO: 19/4-5

RRCS: We had ok timing this month. I usually O the day after a positive OPK but I think I O'd the same day this time. I'm not temping, just making educated guesses but it caught me off guard. I really hate the TWW. My oldest announced a few days ago that she would like mommy to have twin babies....not sure I could handle that!

GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? Well H and I want three or four kids. I'm old so we decided to go for a fourth and see what happens. I've never really been optimistic about GKU so I don't know how long we'll try before settling down with three. Im thinking a year. TTC is really tough on our sex life.

[RoLoMa]

I hear you obscurereference on TTC being hard on the sex life. We are good the 1st couple of (TTC) times each cycle but we get pretty snippy and frustrated by the 3rd or 4th. The added pressure just sucks the fun out of it after a while, especially when you add IF into the mix.

[jax1182014]

Pressure sex sucks.. TTC is no joke..

[cnf2013]

Plus a million to ttc sex being sucky. And given I O'ed a week later then usual this cycle we HIO for a whole extra week. No fun. I like fun sex. TTC sex is not fun.

[jax1182014]

Dec 27, 2016 20:09:57 GMT -5 cnf2013 said:

Plus a million to ttc sex being sucky. And given I O'ed a week later then usual this cycle we HIO for a whole extra week. No fun. I like fun sex. TTC sex is not fun.

So when did you end up O'ing? Did you get a positive opk or temp rise?

[andi]

Can I join?!

Age of LO(s): 12.5 months
Month/Cycle: 4/4
CD/DPO: 21/4 supposedly
RRCS: Just nervous to see how this cycle goes! It's been a rough few months to this point.
GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? We know we want 3 or maybe 4 kids and I would like them to each be a couple years apart so no time like the present!

[hoosiermama76]

Age of LO(s): 26 months
Month/Cycle: 7 / eight
CD/DPO: 9/?? I had a weird positive OPK on day 7 and we had sex. Took one on day 9 and completely negative. Will keep testing to see if it was something weird. I usually o on day 16-17.
RRCS: none really about TTC. I could have throat punched my DH... long story. He basically received a FB message from an old female friend at 11 pm on Christmas. I was getting his phone for him. I flipped out and demanded to see all their communication. It was mostly innocent and about work, having kids, etc, but there was one place where she asked him if he ever liked her more than a friend. And he said he thought she was attractive. I lost my shit. Brought up divorce. He said he didn't tell me because I never let him have any female friends. I will say that I am rigid, inflexible, and have anxiety, and sometimes I totally understand him not telling me things. But this... umm no. He called her and told her that they could no longer communicate. I told him he could keep her as a FB friend but that I didn't want to see them communicating via messenger. I don't have the energy to check his devices and am choosing to trust him. But that whore better watch herself. It was totally her initiating everything.
GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS?
I wanted to start as soon as I could, but I had surgery and needed to wait until this past summer.

[cnf2013]

Dec 27, 2016 22:31:39 GMT -5 jax1182014 said:

Dec 27, 2016 20:09:57 GMT -5 cnf2013 said:

Plus a million to ttc sex being sucky. And given I O'ed a week later then usual this cycle we HIO for a whole extra week. No fun. I like fun sex. TTC sex is not fun.

So when did you end up O'ing? Did you get a positive opk or temp rise?

CD19 according to ff but I think CD20. I had darker than control line positive opks both of those days then a temp rise. We started ttc sex CD10, so that was a long stretch for us to still be HIO on CD20. So about 5-7 days later then expected. This will be my longest cycle ever. Not long comparatively to some people, but frustrating for me.

[kensie5226]

Age of LO(s): 14 months
Month/Cycle: 5/5
CD/DPO: 28/14, I Oed a little late this month so I'm expecting a later period. Our timing was fine, but I don't even care anymore.

RRCS: I had to wean my kiddo cold turkey b/c I have to be BFing free for a month before we can start IUI. That being said, everything is pretty much in place for us to do the IUI at the end of Jan. We could have gotten in under the gun in Dec, but this it less stressful this way.

GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? I was actually a little surprised since I thought we wanted to be OADBC, but after seeing her little personality develop and seeing how she interacted with other kiddos we wanted one. We started TTCA when she was 8 months old, but only because our chances of conceiving without assistance are like 1%.

[RoLoMa]

kensie5226, can I ask why you have to be BFing free for a month before IUI? I don't mean to be nosy, so I apologize if it comes across that way. I am still breastfeeding am and pm but we are probably going to have to go back to the RE for another IUI. I had never heard that weaning would be necessary for anything other than IVF. I am planning on weaning in early March when I have a work trip but I am thinking March would also be our first treatment cycle. I wonder if I need to wean earlier...

[jax1182014]

Dec 28, 2016 6:56:49 GMT -5 cnf2013 said:

Dec 27, 2016 22:31:39 GMT -5 jax1182014 said:

So when did you end up O'ing? Did you get a positive opk or temp rise?

CD19 according to ff but I think CD20. I had darker than control line positive opks both of those days then a temp rise. We started ttc sex CD, so that was a long stretch for us to still be HIO on CD20. So about 5-7 days later then expected. This will be my longest cycle ever. Not long comparatively to some people, but frustrating for me.

Yes totally frustrating!

[kensie5226]

RoLoMa, feel free to be nosy! Well you can't BF while you're taking the hormones regardless, but I was told that it correlates with increased miscarriage so they want their patients to wean for a month before any type of treatment. Now, there are some studies that show BFing isn't the CAUSE of these early miscarriages, but when it comes to IF clinic's protocol, they don't usually go in for risk. Same reason why I take progesterone after the IUI even though my hormone levels are A-ok. It's a precaution.

[babydsmama]

Age of LO: 19 months
Month/Cycle: realistically 2/2 (decided to start in Oct but DH was gone for a month starting CD 8 that first month)
CD/DPO: 1-2 DPO I believe.

RRCS: we've been home at my parents for the holidays and room sharing with my 19 month old for space but we've been staying in my parents in law apartment and with all the time my parents have wanted to spend with DD since we currently call TX home, DH and I have actually been able to DTD way more than I thought we would this week. I haven't started doing OPKs or temping yet and have decided that if we're not successful this cycle I will start both next cycle.

GTKY: I always thought 2-2.5 years between LOs was a good age difference and DH is worried about getting too old. DH is also active duty and as of right this minute there are no deployments in the foreseeable future. He deployed when DD was 11 days old for 13 months and I think that was the hardest time in my life. Deployments are unpredictable but we're trying to "plan" around them as much as possible.

[RoLoMa]

Dec 28, 2016 12:17:52 GMT -5 kensie5226 said:

RoLoMa , feel free to be nosy! Well you can't BF while you're taking the hormones regardless, but I was told that it correlates with increased miscarriage so they want their patients to wean for a month before any type of treatment. Now, there are some studies that show BFing isn't the CAUSE of these early miscarriages, but when it comes to IF clinic's protocol, they don't usually go in for risk. Same reason why I take progesterone after the IUI even though my hormone levels are A-ok. It's a precaution.

Gotcha.  Thanks for explaining.  Obviously this wasn't an issue with our first IUI so I had no idea and I have no idea what the requirement is from our RE's office.  I am planning on setting up a consult if our next cycle is a bust and hopefully get moving asap.  I will, of course, follow whatever guidelines our RE puts in place.  We love and trust him.  If he says a month BFing free, it would only be a couple weeks earlier than I figured we would wean anyway. We did femara + IUI last time so I would assume, barring any changes in test results, we will do the same again for #2.

It does make me a little weepy to thinking about weaning though.

[kensie5226]

RoLoMa, Oh I get that. Turns out my kid was more ready than I was. It's gone really smoothly for us. But, it still sucked that it was another decision that IF made for me.

[RoLoMa]

kensie5226, I am sure M will be fine with it. He weaned himself from bottles and from the other nursing sessions before/right around a year. As long as we distract him with some food he probably won't even notice. I fully admit it is me that is not ready.

I am glad it is going smoothly for you! Thanks for sharing with me. Now I feel better prepared IF can suck it.

[euphony]

Age of LO(s): 15 months

Month/Cycle:5/5

CD/DPO:5/-

RRCS: I am feeling more frustrated with this second CP. I shouldn't be really, as it has still only been 5 cycles. But I do hate having that week of feeling all happy and hopeful only to be disappointed.

GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? I had wanted them as close toget her as we could manage. I have always wanted two children because I am close with my sister.

[esgrunner]

Dec 28, 2016 12:49:34 GMT -5 kensie5226 said:

RoLoMa , Oh I get that. Turns out my kid was more ready than I was. It's gone really smoothly for us. But, it still sucked that it was another decision that IF made for me.

Glad to hear it went well! We are working on night weaning this week and my LO isn't so happy about that, but we're dealing.

[kensie5226]

esgrunner, yeah that one sounds tough. I admit I've been lucky, I sent MH in before about 2 am so she wouldn't associate that time with nursing. Then she just gradually started sleeping longer until she wasn't waking to nurse. Good luck!

[charliefox]

Age of LO(s): DS is 15 months

Month/Cycle: 4/4

CD/DPO: CD 13

RRCS: Got home yesterday (after visiting family for 10 days) and I am super sick. I'll have to push through it we want to hit my fertile window, hoping it doesn't mess up this cycle for us.

GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? We knew we wanted our kids to be close together, when I was pregnant we agreed to not bring it up until DS was 1. At that point I started to feel ready, that I really wanted a sibling for DS and H agreed.

[lightside]

Age of LO(s): 20 months

Month/Cycle: 2/2

CD/DPO: CD 12

RRCS: We're relying on secondary signs to estimate O and it seems like it might be early this month (maybe today or tomorrow) based on CM. I have been O'ing around CD 14-15 so we will probably just continue having sex daily until then or until there's absolutely no sign of EWCM. Obviously this isn't the most sustainable approach to TTC so I might start temping next cycle to help with timing.

GTKY: We like the idea of a 2.5-3.5 year age gap so we're getting in early to take the pressure off. I'm loving life with just the three of us and I think that will help me stay positive if it takes a while to conceive. We also want avoid a December/January EDD so if I don't get pregnant in the next 3 cycles, we will probably take a couple months off and end up pretty close to a 3 year gap.

[RoLoMa]

@moonandback141, not that it means much as doctors have differing opinions, but I had my DS at 34 weeks and when I asked my OB about pregnancy spacing, he said he would recommend 12 months between pregnancies. He said it wasn't the end of the world if I got pregnant before 12 months but that it was best to wait if we could. And this was with me already having a pre-term baby. So, I wouldn't worry too much maybe

[jax1182014]

hoosiermama76- guys can not have a marriage and have female friends.. it just doesn't work. I don't blame you for being upset!

[babydsmama]

hoosiermama76 I know we don't really know each other but I totally do not blame you for being upset! Contact from a female coworker that late at night would raise all kinds of flags for me! I think that while possible it is really hard for men and women to remain just friends especially if there are more than friend feelings on either end. Im sorry this happened on Christmas!

[Deleted]

Wow, you guys must really not trust your husbands. Damn.

[babydsmama]

Dec 29, 2016 19:22:48 GMT -5 @led said:

Wow, you guys must really not trust your husbands. Damn.

Definitely not trying to convey that I don't trust my husband. I do think it's possible for men and women to be friends, but not if there have been more than friend feelings on one side of that.