Post by jax1182014 on Dec 29, 2016 20:00:50 GMT -5
lol I guess not.. In all seriousness though, no one is perfect and peoples lives can be far from perfect. People make mistakes. I guess you just never know what will happen in life. We all know marriage can be really wonderful but I'd be lying if I said there weren't challenges at times. Just my thoughts though.
Wow, you guys must really not trust your husbands. Damn.
Definitely not trying to convey that I don't trust my husband. I do think it's possible for men and women to be friends, but not if there have been more than friend feelings on one side of that.
That's bullshit. In the example given all he did was say she was pretty and divorce is thrown around?! How fucking over the top is that! And then you say married men can't have female friends. No stipulations, just flat out can't be friends. That is 100% bullshit.
Definitely not trying to convey that I don't trust my husband. I do think it's possible for men and women to be friends, but not if there have been more than friend feelings on one side of that.
That's bullshit. In the example given all he did was say she was pretty and divorce is thrown around?! How fucking over the top is that! And then you say married men can't have female friends. No stipulations, just flat out can't be friends. That is 100% bullshit.
I actually did not say that but I'm not trying to start an argument just giving the OP some support.
That's bullshit. In the example given all he did was say she was pretty and divorce is thrown around?! How fucking over the top is that! And then you say married men can't have female friends. No stipulations, just flat out can't be friends. That is 100% bullshit.
I actually did not say that but I'm not trying to start an argument just giving the OP some support.
I misread and thought you were jax. But what she needs is a reality check. Who the fuck throws around divorce over something as simple as a friend telling a friend they're attractive. Who the fuck cares? Have you never found another man attractive? Do men and women cease to be attractive once you're married? It's bullshit.
I actually did not say that but I'm not trying to start an argument just giving the OP some support.
I misread and thought you were jax. But what she needs is a reality check. Who the fuck throws around divorce over something as simple as a friend telling a friend they're attractive. Who the fuck cares? Have you never found another man attractive? Do men and women cease to be attractive once you're married? It's bullshit.
I actually did not say that but I'm not trying to start an argument just giving the OP some support.
I misread and thought you were jax. But what she needs is a reality check. Who the fuck throws around divorce over something as simple as a friend telling a friend they're attractive. Who the fuck cares? Have you never found another man attractive? Do men and women cease to be attractive once you're married? It's bullshit.
I think the flag raising aspect of the situation for me would be her asking him if he ever found her attractive. I feel like that is flirtatious of her. I'm sorry if I struck a nerve with you. Not my intention. Obviously I'd be lying if I said every other man instantly became ugly once I said I do.
Post by obscurereference on Dec 29, 2016 20:47:29 GMT -5
Ok but OP said the other woman asked if he ever liked her more than a friend. We don't know the whole story, but that could be getting into some dangerous territory. Especially since he didn't just say "no." He kind of left it open to interpretation....
I mean I think men and women can be friends, but this seemed like it leaned toward something else. At least from other woman's point of view. I can see how OP might get pissed.
Ok but OP said the other woman asked if he ever liked her more than a friend. We don't know the whole story, but that could be getting into some dangerous territory. Especially since he didn't just say "no." He kind of left it open to interpretation....
I mean I think men and women can be friends, but this seemed like it leaned toward something else. At least from other woman's point of view. I can see how OP might get pissed.
This is what I was driving at...words are hard tonight.
Post by hoosiermama76 on Dec 29, 2016 21:59:01 GMT -5
Holy Shit! I didn't mean to start anything. The reason divorce was thrown around is because of the fact that he didn't tell me. This has happened before about a different issue, and we have dealt with it in therapy over the last seven years. I'm upset he kept it from me not that he had a female friend. Again, sorry about the shit storm. I was just venting. I thought that was what that section was for. Sorry if I misunderstand.
Ok but OP said the other woman asked if he ever liked her more than a friend. We don't know the whole story, but that could be getting into some dangerous territory. Especially since he didn't just say "no." He kind of left it open to interpretation....
I mean I think men and women can be friends, but this seemed like it leaned toward something else. At least from other woman's point of view. I can see how OP might get pissed.
Post by ashleymarie26 on Dec 30, 2016 1:41:34 GMT -5
Age of LO(s): DD is 13m Month/Cycle: 2/2 CD/DPO: 1dpo RRCS: we are at the IL this week so it's been hard to find time to HIO. We got one day in, -1. I also have bronchitis which SUCKS and feel like shit so I don't have high hopes for this month. GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? We always planned around her 1st birthday. I would have started earlier but DH wasn't quite on board until she was 1. I love being pregnant.
TTC #1: March 2014 Dx: MFI Medicated IUI #1: March 2015-BFP Baby Girl born 11/5/2015! TTC #2: August 2016 Medicated IUI #1: Feb 2017-BFN Medicated IUI #2: March 2017-BFP Baby Boy expected Dec. 1
Holy Shit! I didn't mean to start anything. The reason divorce was thrown around is because of the fact that he didn't tell me. This has happened before about a different issue, and we have dealt with it in therapy over the last seven years. I'm upset he kept it from me not that he had a female friend. Again, sorry about the shit storm. I was just venting. I thought that was what that section was for. Sorry if I misunderstand.
I definitely think this backstory is important to the original vent though. Its seems like you threw out divorce out of the blue and this context really clears up some of the confusion.
TTC #1: March 2014 Dx: MFI Medicated IUI #1: March 2015-BFP Baby Girl born 11/5/2015! TTC #2: August 2016 Medicated IUI #1: Feb 2017-BFN Medicated IUI #2: March 2017-BFP Baby Boy expected Dec. 1
TTC #1: March 2014 Dx: MFI Medicated IUI #1: March 2015-BFP Baby Girl born 11/5/2015! TTC #2: August 2016 Medicated IUI #1: Feb 2017-BFN Medicated IUI #2: March 2017-BFP Baby Boy expected Dec. 1
Age of LO(s): 19 months DS Month/Cycle: 1 CD/DPO: CD17 RRCS: I'm just waiting to ovulate. I've just started to temp, and my OPKs aren't getting any darker, but my CB advanced OK has flashing smiley faces, saying high fertility. I'm just thinking its an LH surge as I've had the flashing smile for 7 days now. Would be REALLY good if I could ovulate soon as we get married in 8 days and a honeymoon baby would be nice. Unfortunately have no idea when I'm going to as my cycles are still getting back to normal GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? Because babies... and that we want 3 kids. But #3 to be later on, like TTC when the second is 3 and a half. I've always wanted 3 kiddies.
Month/cycle: I'm not counting my last cycle and this one. The other ones were just me bleeding for weeks and then not bleeding for a week and then bleeding some more. So 2/2.
Edit: I'm only* counting my last cycle and this one.
CD/DPO: CD13
RRCS: I'm hoping I ovulate this cycle. I have been doing my best to not nurse L from the time he goes to bed until 5 the next morning. It has led to some sleepless nights. I tried to wean him down to 4-5 sessions during the day but that seemed like it was too much for him. So he basically nurses like a newborn during the day. Baby steps I guess.
GTKY: what made you want to start TFAS? I don't feel like our family is complete. I envision us having 2 more kids. So after this one, whenever or if I conceive, we will try NTNP from 6 months pp just so we can get a head start. We are getting older and I don't want to miss my window of time.
Edits: because typing this while drinking my coffee is too hard. Sorry about the typos.
CD/DPO: I got a "peak fertility" reading today on my CB fertility monitor, so we'll go with today (day 17) as O day. We had sex yesterday and 2 days before that. No go for tonight, but I'm feeling good that we did it yesterday. Also, day 17 is pretty good for me, I tend to o late and then have a very short LP.
RRCS: @babylentilbean, we have been working on night weaning this week too! Our DS is such a crappy sleeper, I'm actually hoping this helps him sleep better in the long run. But he gets really mad when he doesn't get the boob during the night! Also, I'm finding myself getting so jealous of friends, co-workers, people I don't even know that manage to have their kids so close in age. It took me 12 months to get my period back and then I had a miscarriage, so I just feel like trying to have a second kid is not coming easy to us.
GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? We want our kids to be pretty close in age plus we are old. I feel like I need to get through these years of major sleep deprivation ASAP since I don't handle it well.
esgrunner, my DS2 had a rough time his first year with ear infections which caused issue with nursing. He actually didn't gain weight from 6 to 9 months. I finally got his pedi to send us to the ENT and it drastically changed how he nursed once he got tubes. My cycles have been so crazy since October because of it. I'm waiting (trying to be patient) for ovulation to return. My CF and position is lining up with ovulation, I'm just not seeing a temp shift. It wasn't this hard last time.
Post by ashleymarie26 on Jan 1, 2017 21:07:22 GMT -5
So I was totally sure I o'd on Wednesday based on CM, but all of a sudden today, a surplus of EWCM. I've been really sick so I'm wondering if I delayed O be cause of it. Gonna try to HIO tonight just in case.
Post by missjenniebean on Jan 6, 2017 20:24:13 GMT -5
Hello all! I am missjenniebean and I have a 19 month old lil girl. I was active in June15 for a while but haven't been there much recently. I am also part of the interracial board.
I've been lurking the last few days and have been learning a lot on here! Things I have never heard of or thought about .... so I have a huge learning curve ahead of me.
Anyway,
We don't want V to be an only child and think that 2.5-3 years is a good gap.
Post by scoutradley on Jan 6, 2017 23:27:28 GMT -5
Age of LO(s): 3 1/2, 21 months Month/Cycle: 3/3 CD/DPO: 28/14 (according to Life app)
RRCS: I'm not sure what RRCS is? I've tried to find the answer but no luck.
GTKY: What made you want to start TFAS? When we realized my PID was reoccurring and that they couldn't tell us why, we decided to go ahead and try incase it kept on coming back. We were planning on waiting a year longer, but we have no idea if I'm able to get pregnant and we don't want to wait and have the issue get worse.
Thank you ladies all so very much for your support over the past year!
It's been 11 months and 12 cycles. (I normally have 26-28 day cycles)
cd 30, DPO 14.
What we did: tracking CM and DTD -1, 0 , +1
Testing: this am after driving home from my parents' house and tested before work. Got an instant faint on an ept then confirmed on a cheaply.
Called MH who's OOT working at 730am and woke him up.
We have a family birthday party with the in laws and my parents tonight. We normally share big events immediately but not sure if I will since mh isn't here to be a part of it. I have to talk to him later and we'll decide together.
Thanks again for all the support! I'll keep lurking and rooting for the bfp's!
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