A family friend recently had a girl and used a name I really love. I'm debating keeping it on the list. She's a close friend of my sister, but lives states away from me (and probably always will). I do not see her or talk to her unless our two families (our moms and siblings) get together which hasn't happened since we all went to college. So it's unlikely we will ever be in the same place again except once every 10 years maybe. The thing that has me stuck is my sister would be close to two babies with the same name.
Not an issue?
Nope not an issue from my perspective, we are planning to use my cousins little boys name. We see her once every 5ish years and honesty the name means a lot to us. My sister was actually named this way and it was actually really cool that she has a "story" behind her name
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We have decided on Fletcher for a boy already. We've been struggling with girl names but came across Sloane and both love it. We wanted to use June as the middle name to honor my late grandmother but Sloane would probably go better with a longer middle name. We already have a Monty (Montgomery Joseph but Monty for short).
Our name picks are not everyone's style and we heard a ton of negativity before Monty arrived. Thankfully, the name tends to grow on everyone once the child arrives. In light of this, we don't want to share our name choices with people IRL until birth.
Do you tell people the names ahead or just say you're unsure? How do your families respond?
We have decided on Fletcher for a boy already. We've been struggling with girl names but came across Sloane and both love it. We wanted to use June as the middle name to honor my late grandmother but Sloane would probably go better with a longer middle name. We already have a Monty (Montgomery Joseph but Monty for short).
Our name picks are not everyone's style and we heard a ton of negativity before Monty arrived. Thankfully, the name tends to grow on everyone once the child arrives. In light of this, we don't want to share our name choices with people IRL until birth.
Do you tell people the names ahead or just say you're unsure? How do your families respond?
We never discussed our name choices with family or friends. We didn't want to listen to their opinions on why we should or shouldn't use a name. All our family/friends knew was we had a top 3 boys and top 3 girls name, after a few weeks of saying we weren't discussing the name choices with everyone no one asked again. Chances are we will be doing it this way again. It's our child not theirs, I don't care why they think a certain name shouldn't be used. (We figured we would get a lot of "oh I used to know a -----, I couldn't stand them.)
We didn't tell anyone DD's name until she was born. It drove my mom and MIL crazy so we made up a ridiculous name and called baby that until she was born. People had a lot of fun guessing what her name would be and no one guessed it.
We won't reveal this baby's name until birth either. We have a boy name picked out but no clue for a girl name. I feel like it's a boy though, so maybe we won't need one.
For a girl, I love Scarlet But I also am loving Cosette (think Les Mis if you need a reference.). Middle name will be Marie after mine. I don't think DH is on board with either. When we were coming up with girl names for DS1, DHs top name was Claire. I already vetoed it because I don't like how it goes with Cole. Our last name ends in -say, so a lot of the girl names I used to like (pre- DH) are out. I really haven't even started thinking of boys names yet and even less of an idea on middle name for a boy. DS1 is Cole W (just the letter and no period after the W, his middle name is after DHs) But we have 23ish weeks to have our top 3 list ready. We won't have a single boy/girl name picked just in case it doesn't fit baby after he/she arrives. ETA: we also don't care for the names that can be shortened down to a nickname.
Post by applemuffins on Jan 1, 2017 14:30:29 GMT -5
With DD, we had 2 names we liked. I preferred one over the other, but I didn't want to commit until she was born. We didn't share our name choices at all because I didn't want opinions. This time, we just found out we are having a boy and we haven't found the perfect name yet. I think we will just end up with a list of a couple names we like, and see if any of them fit once he arrives. I don't see us finding the perfect name before he gets here, but maybe! I wasn't going to keep it a secret this time because I want to prepare DD, but we'll see. My mom started suggesting a bunch of names that were completely not our style, like Quinlan, and I had to tell her to stop or I'm not going to talk to her about names anymore. So she stopped lol I just don't want input from others.
Post by trebletrouble13 on Jan 1, 2017 14:43:09 GMT -5
We're fairly set on Eleanor as a first name if baby is a girl, but are still discussing a middle name. We have no idea what to name baby if it is a boy, but my dad (somewhat jokingly) has suggested Angus Bruce. Our last name starts with C, so his initials would be ABC. We also have strong Scottish and Irish family heritage. DS's name starts with Z, so it would also be cute to be "Z to A."
Post by trebletrouble13 on Jan 1, 2017 15:10:43 GMT -5
With DS, MH had refused to talk about names until we knew if baby was a boy or girl. When we found out, he then turned to me and asked what I thought about Z W or W Z. We ended up going with Z W. Z is a family name from my side and W is for both Grandpas.
We have decided on Fletcher for a boy already. We've been struggling with girl names but came across Sloane and both love it. We wanted to use June as the middle name to honor my late grandmother but Sloane would probably go better with a longer middle name. We already have a Monty (Montgomery Joseph but Monty for short).
Our name picks are not everyone's style and we heard a ton of negativity before Monty arrived. Thankfully, the name tends to grow on everyone once the child arrives. In light of this, we don't want to share our name choices with people IRL until birth.
Do you tell people the names ahead or just say you're unsure? How do your families respond?
We are not discussing names with anyone. We don't want their opinions, honestly. Everyone has their own ideas about names and I think it just goes easier when you introduce the baby as "XYZ". Boom, done, it's their name. My grandmother asked us to tell her the names we're going with (since we're Team Green) because I'm sure she wants to embroider a blanket or something, but she'll live when we tell her we aren't giving the name until birth. My family knows the middle name because I've said forever it will be the same as mine (it's a family name and also shared by my mom and grandfather).
When my aunt was pregnant with her first, they shared the names they were considering with our family on my dad's side. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, great-grandmother, great-aunts, etc. They got so many negative opinions on everything. It was a giant mess and upset my aunt greatly. With their next two kids they didn't say anything. People still made suggestions but they just ignored them.
To follow up, I talked with H a little this morning and he's leaning towards going with his maternal grandfather's initial. We could use his first, middle, or last name, so we'll have three initials to go with. It will greatly narrow the options, which makes me happy. Too many choices can be a bad thing for me. H just has to find out his middle name first and then I'll start working on lists!
We definitely will not be discussing/telling anyone names before baby arrives. With DS we didn't decide until we were going to the hospital so it was easy to say we didn't have a name picked out yet. I wouldn't want to tell people because I want to be able to change my mind after I meet the baby, and feel like that would be harder if everyone already knew the name.
I started a list recently and ran it by H, made some changes. We're expecting twins so thinking of names seemed like it required more effort since we don't know what they are yet. But once I decided to sit down and jot these down, it really wasn't that hard.
The name Rory is what we picked out for my last pregnancy if it was a boy, and then I MCed. We don't know if was a boy or girl, but I'm unsure if we will truly reconsider it.
Selah Sloane Harper Kaia Evie Autumn
Amos Kai Luke/Lucas Samuel/Sam/Sammy George Sawyer Rory Miles Gavin
We know we're having another boy, so coming up with a name that goes with--but doesn't match--DS's name AND flows with our last name is super hard. We like David but aren't 100% sold. We were brainstorming middle names today and nothing seems just right. It'll come in time.
We shared DS's first name with family and friends before birth because we decided on it YEARS before starting to TTC. It was just known. We'll probably tell people once we decide for sure this time around; I don't expect anyone to put the name down to our faces, lol.
Like barkley22, we shared our prior names. But I found that saying 'this will be the name' doesn't invite opinions. At least not negative ones. If we had said we were considering a couple, I'm sure people would have weighed in.
I love getting opinions from family, but they also aren't overbearing or offended if we don't like their suggestion. We come up with names before birth but there have been a few times we've decided against a name because it didn't feel right. For a boy, I like Declan and he likes Morgan.
For a boy we have no idea. We've tossed around Mason but that is a big maybe. Middle name will probably be Robert. Girls I really like Evelyn or Elizabeth. Middle name Sue after MIL (DD's middle name is my Mom's name). I think before we even got married we had our girl and boy names picked out for when we were going to have kids so it was just so easy to name DD. I feel like naming this one will be super hard!!
Give me all the J and S names for boys and girls. 90% sure we're going to use H's grandfather and we can do either his first or last name initial. He had no middle name.
Middle name will be Lynn. Last name starts with C and ends with N.
Give me all the J and S names for boys and girls. 90% sure we're going to use H's grandfather and we can do either his first or last name initial. He had no middle name.
Middle name will be Lynn. Last name starts with C and ends with N.
I would try the Baby Names board. I think you will get dozens of quick suggestions ☺
Give me all the J and S names for boys and girls. 90% sure we're going to use H's grandfather and we can do either his first or last name initial. He had no middle name.
Middle name will be Lynn. Last name starts with C and ends with N.
I would try the Baby Names board. I think you will get dozens of quick suggestions ☺
Yup, posted there too! It will be interesting. I know everyone has different tastes and opinions on names, so I'll weed out what I like.
Give me all the J and S names for boys and girls. 90% sure we're going to use H's grandfather and we can do either his first or last name initial. He had no middle name.
Middle name will be Lynn. Last name starts with C and ends with N.
We will never agree on a name lol. DD is Allison, and we'd like something that goes well but isn't matchy matchy. DH has all these requirements! My current favorites are Matila and Caroline, but he's not really on board. We need to name her so i can start buying them matching monogrammed outfits. #priorities
sabrinaml copied and pasted from a post on the baby names board:
- he's vetoed anything starting or ending in A (especially anything ending in -issa) - all of these names that i like: Clara (my #1 choice but totally out of the question for DH) Cassandra Lauren Caroline (really like this one) Margot Eleanor Lucille Marissa Clarissa Marie/Maria (both are out because Maria is MIL's name and she hates it)
He likes Elizabeth (which I think is a lovely name but is so common) and "good 80's names" <--- eye roll I don't love the 80s names that come to mind or that i see on ssa.gov, except for *maybe* Nicole (but if anyone called her Nikki I'd cry). Edited to add he says "not bad" to Jillian and Melanie.
Edited bc I left out the part about him NOT liking "a" names and it didn't make any sense.
marshian i didn't want to hijack someone else's thread in baby names, but regarding nicknames...i thought i'd be okay with people calling DD ali/alli/allie, but i really hate it. we never call her anything but allison (other than pet names that have nothing to do with her actual name), and our au pair will occasionally call her allie. makes me crazy. so i don't agree that people won't start using a nickname as long as you don't. (i should correct her, but it feels kind of...intrusive? like she has her own bond with allison!)
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Jan 6, 2017 17:49:35 GMT -5
I'm laughing to myself. Last time around we talked girl names before finding out we were having a boy. Since finding out were team pink I assumed we'd would go with one of the girl names we had talked about. Well last night DH started telling me some different names. Hmm ok so I guess I shouldn't have assumed and now we can dwell on choosing one for the next 5 months
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Jan 6, 2017 17:52:25 GMT -5
agm04 I love Clara! Im sorry it's being vetoed. Fun fact, DS has a BFF named Clara at school so he's telling everyone we're naming his sister Clara too. I don't think that will be an option for us, doesn't go well with our last name
Post by applemuffins on Jan 6, 2017 18:48:31 GMT -5
Clara was in the running early on if we had a girl this time aroun, but our last name is a short one syllable name so it didn't make the cut.
I think this baby will be a Dominic or anot Oliver. I go back and forth which I like better. Neither are perfect for their own reasons, but I like them enough. I think DH prefers Dominic and isn't sold on Oliver. We will probably choose once he gets here unless I find myself gravitating toward one.
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