I just need vent over something terribly stupid that has been happening since this baby was born.
Every time someone wants to hold the baby and she spits up, they freak and yell at ME over where the spit cloth is. Every. single. time.
Guys. I brought it and gave it to you when I gave you the baby. If you can't keep track of it, that's not my problem? Why do I have to find it? Why is it my problem? What do you think I do when I'm with the baby? I yell at no one - I pluck up the energy and find the cloth, a napkin, use my sleeve. Come on. Why am I the only one with problem solving skills?
Mostly this upsets me because they are taking the baby to give me a "break," but making me find shit and yelling at me isn't a break.
This is MH 100%. Drives me completely crazy.
My husband might be the worst offender. Followed immediately by my mother.
joy I give my older girl a bath each night, and I keep the baby in the bathroom with us and get her all changed for bed. I only hand her off to H for maybe ten minutes to get the big one in bed. It never fails he calls me back into the living room to get a cloth. Just GET OFF THE COUCH and get one. Grr, I obviously have anger! Ha!
Hope you're having a nice quiet adult day at work!
- Do you like your baby more now that she's interactive? - How could you be tired by this adorable baby? - Are you sure you should be walking outside with her twice a day in the rain/wind/cold? - When I grew up, babies were home with their mother.
I'm sensitive after so many days of no daycare/work and feeling like I'm doing every damn thing for this baby. I'm tired. I'm frazzled. I'm stressed. Just because she's "an easy baby" doesn't mean that I don't need a break. These comments make me feel like other people think I don't like my child and I don't want to take care of her when all I do is everything she needs.
I may have cried all weekend because I just can't handle it.
::deep breath:: Back to daycare today. Back to work. Several hours worth of a break. This mom needs it.
Ugh. DS has started rolling over obsessivly in his crib. As soon as I pit him down on his back he flips over to tummy. That would be ok by me now, I know lots (most?)babies sleep better on their tummy. But he doesn't relax and put his head down, no he's holding his head up and well not much sleep happens in that position. And if I manage to get him to sleep on his back he will flip over in his sleep and wake up by the sudden movement. And then we have a crying screaming baby that won't go back to sleep. I just don't know what to do.
My first did this too. It just took her a few nights crying until she figured out she could sleep on her belly. We had to stop "rescuing" her by flipping her back over, then she got it.
Ugh. DS has started rolling over obsessivly in his crib. As soon as I pit him down on his back he flips over to tummy. That would be ok by me now, I know lots (most?)babies sleep better on their tummy. But he doesn't relax and put his head down, no he's holding his head up and well not much sleep happens in that position. And if I manage to get him to sleep on his back he will flip over in his sleep and wake up by the sudden movement. And then we have a crying screaming baby that won't go back to sleep. I just don't know what to do.
DS is doing this too. Sometimes he'll go back to sleep, other times he just screams. I'm over it.
He's currently fighting naps and I'm slowly losing my mind. Sleep training here we come...
Ugh. DS has started rolling over obsessivly in his crib. As soon as I pit him down on his back he flips over to tummy. That would be ok by me now, I know lots (most?)babies sleep better on their tummy. But he doesn't relax and put his head down, no he's holding his head up and well not much sleep happens in that position. And if I manage to get him to sleep on his back he will flip over in his sleep and wake up by the sudden movement. And then we have a crying screaming baby that won't go back to sleep. I just don't know what to do.
My first did this too. It just took her a few nights crying until she figured out she could sleep on her belly. We had to stop "rescuing" her by flipping her back over, then she got it.
This. If you leave them alone they learn. Check on them, pat a minute if it makes you feel better or calms him down.
joy TP to every one of those comments. I hate when people (even people my age) make judgy comments. You are allowed to want a break. Someone once said something to me that rings true "the women's movement sometimes causes so much stress today." It's true we're expected to do all the Mommy things, "keep house, and work full time. It's exhausting..and yet we can even be tired without judgement. It's hard. Hope return to work helps!
What time do you start the bedtime routine? We've been steadily moving it earlier based on when they start to get fussy. We had been doing around 8 and just a few days ago moved it to 7:30. Tonight M passed out completely around 7:15, before eating. H woke him to swaddle him; he fell asleep again on the changing table, and I couldn't even wake him to feed, so I just put him down in bed. So now I'm thinking we should move bedtime to 7, but that seems so early... and G has been waking up for the day around 5, which is way too early for me, and I don't want to shift it even earlier...
What time do you start the bedtime routine? We've been steadily moving it earlier based on when they start to get fussy. We had been doing around 8 and just a few days ago moved it to 7:30. Tonight M passed out completely around 7:15, before eating. H woke him to swaddle him; he fell asleep again on the changing table, and I couldn't even wake him to feed, so I just put him down in bed. So now I'm thinking we should move bedtime to 7, but that seems so early... and G has been waking up for the day around 5, which is way too early for me, and I don't want to shift it even earlier...
She seems to think nighttime starts any time after 6:30 and sleeps worse if she goes to bed after 7:15. So we vary based on naps any time between 6 and 6:45 to start a 30 min. routine. She sleeps until 7:15 or 7:30, but interrupted by feedings/gas.
Ugh. DS has started rolling over obsessivly in his crib. As soon as I pit him down on his back he flips over to tummy. That would be ok by me now, I know lots (most?)babies sleep better on their tummy. But he doesn't relax and put his head down, no he's holding his head up and well not much sleep happens in that position. And if I manage to get him to sleep on his back he will flip over in his sleep and wake up by the sudden movement. And then we have a crying screaming baby that won't go back to sleep. I just don't know what to do.
DD has been rolling on to her belly for sleep for a long time now but, diring waje times, flops onto her belly and is royally pissed that she can't crawl
What time do you start the bedtime routine? We've been steadily moving it earlier based on when they start to get fussy. We had been doing around 8 and just a few days ago moved it to 7:30. Tonight M passed out completely around 7:15, before eating. H woke him to swaddle him; he fell asleep again on the changing table, and I couldn't even wake him to feed, so I just put him down in bed. So now I'm thinking we should move bedtime to 7, but that seems so early... and G has been waking up for the day around 5, which is way too early for me, and I don't want to shift it even earlier...
She seems to think nighttime starts any time after 6:30 and sleeps worse if she goes to bed after 7:15. So we vary based on naps any time between 6 and 6:45 to start a 30 min. routine. She sleeps until 7:15 or 7:30, but interrupted by feedings/gas.
This. Bedtime for DD is anywhere from 7-745 depending on naps
What time do you start the bedtime routine? We've been steadily moving it earlier based on when they start to get fussy. We had been doing around 8 and just a few days ago moved it to 7:30. Tonight M passed out completely around 7:15, before eating. H woke him to swaddle him; he fell asleep again on the changing table, and I couldn't even wake him to feed, so I just put him down in bed. So now I'm thinking we should move bedtime to 7, but that seems so early... and G has been waking up for the day around 5, which is way too early for me, and I don't want to shift it even earlier...
My kid asleep - ASLEEP - ar 6:55pm almost every night. She starts to lose her shit between 6 and 6:15pm. We go upstairs, get PJs, play, read a book, etc. She's in her sleep suit by 6:40pm and finished her bottle by 6:50pm.
She wakes up between 11pm and 1am, then again around 4am, but deals well with sleeping until 7/7:30am. Don't be afraid of earlier bedtimes!
Ugh. DS has started rolling over obsessivly in his crib. As soon as I pit him down on his back he flips over to tummy. That would be ok by me now, I know lots (most?)babies sleep better on their tummy. But he doesn't relax and put his head down, no he's holding his head up and well not much sleep happens in that position. And if I manage to get him to sleep on his back he will flip over in his sleep and wake up by the sudden movement. And then we have a crying screaming baby that won't go back to sleep. I just don't know what to do.
DD has been rolling on to her belly for sleep for a long time now but, diring waje times, flops onto her belly and is royally pissed that she can't crawl
DD3 is starting to get irritated about not being able to crawl too. She pushes her feet around angrily and ineffectively. She doesn't roll consistently yet, though. I keep telling her she needs to work her arms in tummy time and her core by rolling if she wants to crawl. Shockingly she is ignoring me .
What time do you start the bedtime routine? We've been steadily moving it earlier based on when they start to get fussy. We had been doing around 8 and just a few days ago moved it to 7:30. Tonight M passed out completely around 7:15, before eating. H woke him to swaddle him; he fell asleep again on the changing table, and I couldn't even wake him to feed, so I just put him down in bed. So now I'm thinking we should move bedtime to 7, but that seems so early... and G has been waking up for the day around 5, which is way too early for me, and I don't want to shift it even earlier...
As early as 5:50 but usually no later than 6:15 we start the routine. Passed out in crib usually no later than 6:45. Both my kids slept/sleep better with an early bedtime. Stinks that it's so early but it works.
What time do you start the bedtime routine? We've been steadily moving it earlier based on when they start to get fussy. We had been doing around 8 and just a few days ago moved it to 7:30. Tonight M passed out completely around 7:15, before eating. H woke him to swaddle him; he fell asleep again on the changing table, and I couldn't even wake him to feed, so I just put him down in bed. So now I'm thinking we should move bedtime to 7, but that seems so early... and G has been waking up for the day around 5, which is way too early for me, and I don't want to shift it even earlier...
Just about 7:00 for us too. Our two year old still gets a bath to start her routine at 6:30. Long live the early bedtime! 😉
DD has been rolling on to her belly for sleep for a long time now but, diring waje times, flops onto her belly and is royally pissed that she can't crawl
DD3 is starting to get irritated about not being able to crawl too. She pushes her feet around angrily and ineffectively. She doesn't roll consistently yet, though. I keep telling her she needs to work her arms in tummy time and her core by rolling if she wants to crawl. Shockingly she is ignoring me .
Mine does the dejected penguin crawl. Face on the floor and turned to the side, legs pushing her forward.
Boca - I don't know how true this will be for you, but lots of sleep things that I've read say that to fix an early waker is to put them to bed earlier. It's seems counterintuitive, but keeping them awake leads to worse sleep. Putting them down when just tires lets them fall asleep easier, sleep more soundly and sleep longer.
I was also concerned by the early bedtime but Baby Girl does great. I would try it and see what shakes out.
What time do you start the bedtime routine? We've been steadily moving it earlier based on when they start to get fussy. We had been doing around 8 and just a few days ago moved it to 7:30. Tonight M passed out completely around 7:15, before eating. H woke him to swaddle him; he fell asleep again on the changing table, and I couldn't even wake him to feed, so I just put him down in bed. So now I'm thinking we should move bedtime to 7, but that seems so early... and G has been waking up for the day around 5, which is way too early for me, and I don't want to shift it even earlier...
My kid asleep - ASLEEP - ar 6:55pm almost every night. She starts to lose her shit between 6 and 6:15pm. We go upstairs, get PJs, play, read a book, etc. She's in her sleep suit by 6:40pm and finished her bottle by 6:50pm.
She wakes up between 11pm and 1am, then again around 4am, but deals well with sleeping until 7/7:30am. Don't be afraid of earlier bedtimes!
My boys both needed to be in their beds ready for sleep at 7 p.m. for a long time. Early bedtimes are totally biologically reasonable.
My kid asleep - ASLEEP - ar 6:55pm almost every night. She starts to lose her shit between 6 and 6:15pm. We go upstairs, get PJs, play, read a book, etc. She's in her sleep suit by 6:40pm and finished her bottle by 6:50pm.
She wakes up between 11pm and 1am, then again around 4am, but deals well with sleeping until 7/7:30am. Don't be afraid of earlier bedtimes!
My boys both needed to be in their beds ready for sleep at 7 p.m. for a long time. Early bedtimes are totally biologically reasonable.
And kinda awesome for parents. My husband and I get wine and TV time back! We miss her on weekdays, of course, as we only get about an hour post daycare with her, but we make up for it on the weekends!
What time do you start the bedtime routine? We've been steadily moving it earlier based on when they start to get fussy. We had been doing around 8 and just a few days ago moved it to 7:30. Tonight M passed out completely around 7:15, before eating. H woke him to swaddle him; he fell asleep again on the changing table, and I couldn't even wake him to feed, so I just put him down in bed. So now I'm thinking we should move bedtime to 7, but that seems so early... and G has been waking up for the day around 5, which is way too early for me, and I don't want to shift it even earlier...
We start bedtime between 6:15 and 6:30. He's usually out cold by 7pm, depending on his last nap. He gets up between 1 and 3 times to eat and goes right back out until between 7:30 and 8:30. I try to get him up at 7:30 or his naps suck.
Boca - I don't know how true this will be for you, but lots of sleep things that I've read say that to fix an early waker is to put them to bed earlier. It's seems counterintuitive, but keeping them awake leads to worse sleep. Putting them down when just tires lets them fall asleep easier, sleep more soundly and sleep longer.
I was also concerned by the early bedtime but Baby Girl does great. I would try it and see what shakes out.
This has always been the case with mine. All 3. If a sleep issue arises (outside of illness ) 2-3 nights of very early bedtimes fix it
Boca - I don't know how true this will be for you, but lots of sleep things that I've read say that to fix an early waker is to put them to bed earlier. It's seems counterintuitive, but keeping them awake leads to worse sleep. Putting them down when just tires lets them fall asleep easier, sleep more soundly and sleep longer.
I was also concerned by the early bedtime but Baby Girl does great. I would try it and see what shakes out.
This has always been the case with mine. All 3. If a sleep issue arises (outside of illness ) 2-3 nights of very early bedtimes fix it
I wish that worked for mine. Bed before 6:30 and I get extra night wakes. Took me months to figure that out. Although I guess 6:30 is pretty early Weissbluth's blog had said as early as 5 for a bad sleeper. Works for some kids, not mine.
Post by remylove1011 on Jan 4, 2017 3:31:51 GMT -5
I wish I could get DD to bed earlier!! Last night she went to bed at 9pm! She'll sleep from then until 6am with 1 wake up. She'd sleep until 8am if I didn't have to wake her for daycare, but I'm not sure how to get her down earlier! We've tried earlier and we just end up trying to put her to sleep for an hour... my goal over the next month is to move this earlier. I know she needs more sleep, but honestly she's super happy all the time so it seems to not impact her. I guess this is actually a great improvement from the night owl we started with who would want bedtime to be 11/12.
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Whoa, jealous of these bedtimes. LO will take a nap around 6:45 but it's one of those 35 minute ones. Then he's up until about 9. But then he sleeps from 9-7. About 25% of the time he'll wake up around 4 to eat. I've tried moving bedtime to earlier but it's just not working over here.
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