PGAL/PAIF Check-In (January)

[caer]

Pregnant After Loss / Pregnant After Infertility (PGAL/PAIF) check-in is posted once a month for those of us who have unfortunately experienced a loss or a history of infertility and are now pregnant. Anyone who participates may start the thread each month.

Out of respect to all the ladies here, please add a trigger warning or spoiler if you decide to talk about any living children.


PGAL Mantras:

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Today I am pregnant and I love my baby.



I am pregnant until someone tells me otherwise.



My past does not dictate my future. A previous m/c does not mean I will have another m/c.



Just because something sad is happening to another poster, does not mean it will happen to you. We all know m/c and complications are not contagious!



Hope does not make bad things happen" You cannot jinx your pregnancy by creating a ticker, getting excited, or telling someone. Live in the positive!



There is nothing I can do to prevent a m/c from happening. Worrying yourself sick doesn't prevent a m/c. And if (God forbid) it were to happen again, I know I will survive"

How far along are you?

How are you doing Physically/Emotionally?

Any upcoming appointments or tests?

Updates/Questions/Rants/Raves:

GTKY: Do you have any resolutions this year? If so, what are they?

[mosdub]

How far along are you? 27w2d - last week of 2nd tri!

How are you doing Physically/Emotionally? Doing really well at the moment. I already posted about finding my ultrasound pic from the first pregnancy and how that was difficult, but overall I'm feeling really good. It helps that little boy is moving around constantly, and even when I don't feel him move I can usually press my hand on my stomach and feel some flutters. Physically I feel really lucky to have only minor aches and pains.

Any upcoming appointments or tests? Glucose 1 hour is in a week from today. I'm not anxious about it.

Updates/Questions/Rants/Raves: I posted in the regular thread but I just had a really vivid dream that I had my baby and he was perfect. In my dream my labor/delivery was really quick and I didn't actually dream it - it skipped to having him all cleaned up and cuddled up on my bed at home. I was trying to call people to tell them but no one was answering. I was giving him kisses and it just felt magical.

GTKY: Do you have any resolutions this year? If so, what are they? Not really. I do want to be one of those moms who gets active after baby comes. I feel so unlike myself with the weight I've gained that I would like to control my diet better and walk more at first, then maybe get back into an exercise routine of some kind. I also just miss being fit - going up stairs without huffing and puffing. Being able to bend over. I want those simple things back lol

[skk]

How far along are you? 28w4d

How are you doing Physically/Emotionally? I'm doing okay both physically and emotionally. The sciatica has been more manageable with the standing desk and stretching. Emotionally...I just keep trying to block out any negative thoughts that creep in. It's exciting and scary to be in the third tri and I'm trying my best to focus on the positives.

Any upcoming appointments or tests? Just saw my endo last week and OB check next week. Hopefully I gained the pound I lost back and put on a few more.

Updates/Questions/Rants/Raves: I'm hoping to get a few more things done this weekend to feel more prepared - rearrange some furniture, clear out some drawers, etc. My mom is bringing our infant car seat and the co-sleeper so I think having those things ready to go will help me feel more prepared.

GTKY: Do you have any resolutions this year? If so, what are they? Nothing specific, but I want to focus on being present. I've caught myself overly caught up in my phone lately and I need to cut that habit.

[mosdub]

skk hope you pack on the weight as needed! Being present is something I'd like to be better with too.
. decluttering and donating things feels SO GOOD. I recently did that with my closet and it made me feel like I could breathe better.

[skk]

mosdub I definitely miss being fit too. Not that I was ever totally fit, but I could make it up the stairs without so much huffing. I work on the 3rd floor so it's a daily struggle here.

. That's exciting that people are starting to RSVP and buy off your registry! I hope your stomach is settled and you can gain some weight soon too.

[caer]

Hi, friends. I'm sorry I haven't replied earlier but I'm sending lots of love and hugs to you all.

I wanted to share this article that I saw posted on one of the loss boards. It's about the Japanese tradition of having small "Jizo" statues to commemorate a pregnancy loss. I thought it was really lovely and wish we had something similar in our culture. mobile.nytimes.com/2017/01/06/well/family/the-japanese-art-of-grieving-a-miscarriage.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&_r=0&referer=https://m.facebook.com/