Crazy comments/unwelcome advice!

[yoshijo28]

Is it too early for this? Anyone getting irritated by someone's comments or advice?!

[maddisonrose]

Ummm yes. My MIL, who also extremely irritated me the last time around. She wants to start telling people. Dude no. My pregnancy my call.

[yoshijo28]

My MIL is already asking if I'm going to nurse bc she didn't nurse so everyone who wanted to had a chance to feed the baby (uhm pumping??). Then she talked about using cabbage to dry up her milk. No, please. TMI. so uncomfortable

My family keeps saying I look tired and pretty awful. It's obvious I'm having a girl bc she took away my beauty.. LOL I don't take offense to this but damnn.

I was told I'm going to gain 40-50 lbs bc I'm eating a lot.

I'm going to flip when people start commenting about my body..

[PepperPottsJ]

Not sure this counts exactly... however MH is annoying me. He believes I should just be open and honest with everyone. No thanks buddy... hows about we just keep this under wraps until I am semi-comfortable.

[yoshijo28]

Jan 3, 2017 17:14:55 GMT -5 PepperPottsJ said:

Not sure this counts exactly... however MH is annoying me. He believes I should just be open and honest with everyone. No thanks buddy... hows about we just keep this under wraps until I am semi-comfortable.

it counts 😉

[PepperPottsJ]

yoshijo28

I am sure my MIL advice will be the stuff nightmares are made of.

[yoshijo28]

Jan 3, 2017 17:25:23 GMT -5 PepperPottsJ said:

yoshijo28

I am sure my MIL advice will be the stuff nightmares are made of.

Yess. Mine is so sweet, she means well. I feel badly talking about her. But she's already announced she will be in the waiting room, she doesn't care how long it takes when I'm in labor.

I totally dont want anyone besides MH there.

[jules1614]

Oh just wait! The unwanted advice is just starting...

I tell all my first time mom friends that even if you plan on a drug-free birth just tell people your getting an epidural (unless of course your group of friends are really supportive of drug free) because everyone will tell you not to be a martyr, then in the next breath about how their epidural didn't even work and if for whatever reason you do end up needing drugs they "told you so."

Second- no matter how over-due you are do NOT tell strangers!! You will get so much tmi advice on how to induce labor... I learned that one the hard way when I went 2 weeks overdue (my choosing).

[yellowcat]

Wow yoshijo28, and maddisonrose, your MIL are annoying me!

My entire immediate family and my Hs showed up for DD because it was a planned induction. Thank God the hospital only allowed 4 people in the room including MH because I could not have handled more. I was still pretty high and literally was just put in bed when my in-laws tried to walk in the room. My nurse was awesome and chased them out. MH got an earful too, make sure your H is clear on the rules!

All my in-laws were annoying me over the holidays. They are all lax with babies (like giving the 6 month old McDonalds to gnaw on). I have been making baby food (I refuse to buy jars of stuff and have the baby hate it and throw it out). I explained that this lets me make a little and see if she likes it, then we know what to buy WTF is the big deal? Before I had a baby they NEVER got in my business. I am so dreading letting them know about #2 now that they are comfortable giving advice.

I agree with jules1614, don't tell people your plans in general unless you are willing to just sit back and stay quiet about it. I did get the drugs with my DD and was very vocal that that was what I was doing and some of my friends were very judgy about it. On top of that I bottle feed because I had to go back to work a week after she was born (she was a week late). People were very judgy on both counts.

[cravingchocolate05]

It's my MIL too with the comments. She means well, but when I was feeling sick over the weekend, she told me I needed to rest more. I said it was hard with a two year old, and she just said yep! She has never volunteered to watch him since his birth and they live only a few miles away.

[salmon2017]

This is not really advice, but it is an annoying reaction . . . . My mom was visiting for Christmas when I got my BFP, and I was so excited to be able to tell her in person (we live far apart). She was a TOTAL debbie downer! I got a very mild "congratulations!" followed by many comments about how hard it will be if I end up on bed rest again and how small our house is and blah blah blah blah. So disappointing. I don't even want to talk to her about it anymore because she is so negative!

My PIL on the other hand, are awesome. We told them over skype - they screamed, they cried, and my MIL literally broke out in hives from the excitement. She had to go to urgent care. Quite a contrast!

[PepperPottsJ]

My brilliant H, as I was breathing through a wave of nausea, said 'well this is what you wanted' - I asked him if he had a death wish