Things Nobody Me About Being a Mom

[mrswillie]

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[mrswillie]

I'll go first.... I never knew breastfeeding would make me a MILLION times hungrier than I was when pregnant. I eat all the junk food in sight! All.day.long!

[lola]

I never knew I would be okay with the grossness. Spit up on my blanket? Turn it over. Spit up on my shirt? It will dry. Spit up in my face? I'll just use that questionably clean burp cloth. What happened to me!?

[littlelion]

Nobody told me being a good mom to my newborn would make me a shitty mom to my toddler.

[requiressnacks]

Nobody told me how much of a strain this would put on my marriage. No wonder all the relationships on 16 and Pregnant fail....😬😬😬

[requiressnacks]

Also, that I could lose the baby weight but still not fit into my jeans. WTH

[requiressnacks]

Also, that it's ok to still want to hang out with friends and drink wine and not talk about my babies.

[mrswillie]

Jan 5, 2017 23:40:22 GMT -5 @kc295905 said:

I never knew how important it was to have "mom friends" and I never thought some of my best friends would be "internet strangers"

Then there's me who read this in the MOTN while nursing and was like oh, that's sad that she only sees her best friends on facebook now and they don't hang out with her. Deerrrr! She means US!!

[mrsp121308]

That having so much anxiety about my babies wasn't normal, but that I wasn't crazy. PPA is real.

[mrsp121308]

That it's ok to NOT want to leave your baby or big kids. I truly love spending time with them and rarely leave them and I'm okay with that.

[mrsp121308]

What works for everyone else is great for them but might not be best for our family. Parenthood is trial and error. There is no "right" way to do anything.

[Lucy]

- Sometimes you won't be 100% sure when you last had a shower.
-"I function fine on just a few hours of sleep" in your pre-mom life is very different from the lack of sleep you get after a baby. Even if it's the same # of hours of actual sleep per night, you'll still be more exhausted than you can imagine.
- Everyone has an opinion, comment, etc. that they feel just fine with sharing with you -- you, a complete stranger/casual acquaintance/person just buying the coffee or trying to exit Target, YOU get to hear all about what you're doing wrong and how they would do it better.
- Just when you think you've figured it out, the baby goes and changes everything up on you. You have a sleep schedule down? That's funny, baby will now change it.
- Coffee can be a complete meal. So can wine.

[tbonequeen13]

1) I'd become incredibly stingy with my baby. With DD1, I didn't mind sharing her with the grandparents and my sister, but with DD2, I don't want to. I am pretty antsy when anyone but DH is holding her...I probably hold her 90% of the time (granted, I'm at home all day with her while DH works).

2) Transitioning from 1 kid to 2 is actually easier than having the 1st kid. Sure, we have moments when the girls gang up on me and both demand (scream) my attention at the same exact moment, and there are times when my toddler decides I don't want/need her now that I have the baby, but overall it's been much easier for me because I feel like I know what I'm doing this time and DD1 is a pretty good helper (she brings me diapers, wipes, and the paci as needed).

[Lucy]

@kc295905, we used to call it the family chorus when they both cried together.

tbonequeen13, I'm totally stingy with the baby too. I don't like sharing!

[emilie]

I am mostly just shocked at how hard I have been able to work and what my body has been able to tolerate. For the last 3 weeks, I have not slept longer than a 3 hour stretch while recovering from abdominal surgery (usually more like 2 hours) all while breastfeeding a newborn 10 times a day and pumping for 15 minutes after every feeding. And I'm still standing and (sometimes) manage to shower and get dressed. Our bodies are completely amazing.

[lola]

Jan 9, 2017 2:10:22 GMT -5 W said:

HOW hormonal I would be. I was warned I would have pp hormones, but this is INSANE. I wasn't overly emotional during the pregnancy, so I wasn't prepared.

Same. I maybe cried 4-5 times during the entire pregnancy. First two weeks after baby, I sobbed uncontrollably at least once a day. Thankfully it gets better.

[Lucy]

W, it takes a long time for the stupid hormones to settle down too. I still feel like mine are out of control sometimes. And the nauseating PP anxiety is just now beginning to get better, but far from back to normal. I'm 6 weeks out today. My OB said Friday that things should start getting better now that I'm past the 6 week mark, but it blows still.