Rude or Not?

[14joa31]

Ladies - it seems like nothing brings out crazy rudeness like the holidays. I try to let things roll off of my back as much as possible so I feel like I am losing my rude-dar.  Does anyone else feel this way?

So I am starting this thread so people can put things here and get other's opinions on whether or not something was rude. 

Here is my first one:

My MIL will bring wine to a family event - Christmas, Thanksgiving, or whatever. If the bottle of wine is unopened at the end of the night, she will pack it up and take it home with her. Rude or Not?

[NellieOleson]

I think it depends on where you are bringing the wine, your relationship with them. I guess I don't find that rude, unless she made it seem like a hostess gift or something.

I brought a few bottles of bubbly to my sister's for Christmas Eve brunch, and took the one that was left unopened home with me. I also took the remainder of the key lime pie I made, but left the bottle of Irish cream I gave as a gift (obviously). Maybe I am rude?

[14joa31]

NellieOleson - I think that you may be right that it depends on the situation. If you are bringing something as a host/hostess gift, then it's okay to take the unopened stuff home.

[NellieOleson]

Jan 6, 2017 13:25:16 GMT -5 14joa31 said:

NellieOleson - I think that you may be right that it depends on the situation. If you are bringing something as a host/hostess gift, then it's okay to take the unopened stuff home.

Also... I'm the only one who ever brings/provides booze for any family function. Maybe if people started bringing wine to my house I'd start leaving bottles at theirs. Is that rude, too?

Well, I guess my mom always has Coors Light at her house, but that doesn't really count now, does it?

[pinktartan9]

NellieOleson if you are the only one who supplies, I think you are in the right to take it back at the end of the gathering. Like you said, if people start leaving things at your place you may be more inclined to do the same. It's hard when it is always one sided.

I think it really depends on the relationship and the type of gathering.

Personally, if I bring a bottle of wine to a dinner, I assume it is not coming home with me whether it is consumed or not. However, if I went to a party and it's BYOB and I brought a few bottles of wine: one for the house and a couple for DH and I, I would bring home what we didn't consume (minus the bottle for the house)

I also think if multiple bottles are brought and not consumed and the host insists you bring a bottle home, then that is okay too.

[pinktartan9]

14joa31 great topic for a thread!