Flick I missed the newlywed info in your intro - congratulations!
And kudos to you for keeping going with quitting! If you don't want to get bugged about it it's fine to tell me to shut up, but otherwise - my mom was a lifelong smoker, so between living with all the effects of that, plus all my students who come in reeking of smoke (even when family doesn't have enough $ for proper snow gear or to send the kid with a snack) ... #invested. And will cheer you on all the way.
I didn't put newlywed in my intro just because it's felt like we were married long before, the ceremony was just quick, sweet, and short. I wore blue. Lol
I actually really appreciate you checking in with how quitting is going, it gives me more accountability. Hopefully it sticks for good this time.
Had a knock out of a falling out with the in laws. DH asked them to apologize for something they had said about me behind my back and they won't do it. He told them it was either swallow your pride and apologize or go without seeing us or your grandchild. They apparently didn't care and laughed at the idea that they should be sorry. I'm just in shock that things blew up the way they did. They've always acted like they loved me until this past Christmas when DH and I got married. It was like a switch flipped.
How awful! I'm so sorry you're being treated like this. My MIL freaked out on me after I had my DD. She would get mad when I wouldn't let her just do whatever she wanted with her. My baby, my rules, so I wasn't worried. Anyways, I hope they realize what they are missing out on and make it right.
My MIL just never seemed to care much about DD. I took it as being a laid back grandparent plus she still has kids of her own at home (DH is adopted and one of 20 something kids).
Flick, my H is the first of 7, and his parents still have 4 kids at home. He and his mom have a messed up relationship and she tends to treat me the same way she treats him. She doesn't like to be challenged and she thinks she can do whatever she wants. My H was kicked out of there house at the age of 16 so she still looks at him like the 16 yo he was when he left. He is very fortunate to be where he is in life with that kind of start.
One day they will look back at these years and realize what they missed and have regret. It's unfortunate, bc your kids won't enjoy a close relationship with them unless they change. Are your parents more involved?
Flick, my H is the first of 7, and his parents still have 4 kids at home. He and his mom have a messed up relationship and she tends to treat me the same way she treats him. She doesn't like to be challenged and she thinks she can do whatever she wants. My H was kicked out of there house at the age of 16 so she still looks at him like the 16 yo he was when he left. He is very fortunate to be where he is in life with that kind of start.
One day they will look back at these years and realize what they missed and have regret. It's unfortunate, bc your kids won't enjoy a close relationship with them unless they change. Are your parents more involved?
DH was kicked out at 16 as well. My parents are very involved, the first thing my dad said to DH when they met was "You can just call me Dad." They've loved DH since meeting him and accepted him into our family immediately.
Flick, it seems like we have a few things in common. I couldn't imagine kicking my kids out at that age. I have a 14 yo and there is no way I would do that to him. I would figure out how to fix the problem.
leviosa we have DHs 17 year old brother staying on our couch because they kicked him out.
ETA I can't imagine ever just deciding to stop being a parent. I try to see things from everyone's Perspective but this one is very difficult for me to do.
My MS is kicking in the evenings. I made these yummy cupcakes today, but now the thought of them make me more queasy. Sad day.
Yes, I mainly get ms in the afternoons/evenings. Dh and I haven't had sex in weeks, I'm trying to hold off on taking my unisom until dd goes to bed so we can at least Dtd and maybe watch a movie tonight.
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Telling the in-laws went great. Everyone is really exited for us and was quite surprised.
DH's grandfather was totally caught off guard. He teared up when he figured out what his shirt meant. My MIL (it's her dad) got a great picture of his face at that exact moment.
PDQ *poof*
My SIL also got video of it. I can't wait for her to email it to us.
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RajahMD you must be a baby yourself because your H's grandfather looks like he isn't a day over 50! I wish I look that good as a great-grandparent!! So glad your family is so excited and loved your announcement!
Haha! He'd love to hear you say that. He turns 85 on Tuesday.
Met in May 2011 Engaged November 2011 Married November 2013 Started TTC November 2015 Began Infertility Workup November 2016 BFP! Lucky #13 Cycle TTC Due Date: 9/5/2017
Flick, my H is the first of 7, and his parents still have 4 kids at home. He and his mom have a messed up relationship and she tends to treat me the same way she treats him. She doesn't like to be challenged and she thinks she can do whatever she wants. My H was kicked out of there house at the age of 16 so she still looks at him like the 16 yo he was when he left. He is very fortunate to be where he is in life with that kind of start.
One day they will look back at these years and realize what they missed and have regret. It's unfortunate, bc your kids won't enjoy a close relationship with them unless they change. Are your parents more involved?
DH was kicked out at 16 as well. My parents are very involved, the first thing my dad said to DH when they met was "You can just call me Dad." They've loved DH since meeting him and accepted him into our family immediately.
Glad your parents are involved and also took your h right in as family.
Adopting a kid and then kicking him out at 16?! Wtf. Really wtf to kicking any kid out (while still a kid anyway .... I'm alright with kicking out 30-somethings), but adopted seems even worse. Also wtf to 20 kids. Is fostering their main source of income or something?
springbedukleviosa I have no idea why they keep kicking them out. They just don't seem to care when the big stuff hits. Most of DH siblings have had falling outs with them at some point. They were told they couldn't have kids but then got pregnant twice and they treat their kids like royalty. It just makes me so angry that anyone can hurt DH, he's such a genuine person and a fierce protector of those he loves.
ETA they've adopted all of their kids, not fostered.
springbedukleviosa I have no idea why they keep kicking them out. They just don't seem to care when the big stuff hits. Most of DH siblings have had falling outs with them at some point. They were told they couldn't have kids but then got pregnant twice and they treat their kids like royalty. It just makes me so angry that anyone can hurt DH, he's such a genuine person and a fierce protector of those he loves.
ETA they've adopted all of their kids, not fostered.
How do you have a falling out with your kid who is a minor? That is not parenting.
leviosa I meant to say they've had falling outs with the older ones as well. They give up on parenting when it gets too difficult. They just don't care about anyone but themselves.
I took a nap today, but now I feel even more tired. Today is also the first day I didn't have my few sips of coffee. We have life group tonight so I'm hoping I can muster some energy.
I made it off the couch today to go out for breakfast with my friends who were visiting from out of town and then to run to Target where I bought a pair of high waisted leggings, 2 tunics, a long sweater, and a flannel. I desperately needed more butt-covering tops so I can keep getting away with leggings at work. Now I need a nap.
I'm exhausted today. L (my 14 month old) got up at 3:30. He went back down for 35 minutes and then was up for the day. Needless to say, it has been a long day. I haven't been able to nap either. Not even when I got both kids down for a nap. I couldn't relax enough to go to sleep. It looks like I will be passing as soon as all the kiddos go to bed.
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