Tuesday

[sanibel21]

What's everyone got today?

[sanibel21]

DD1 woke up saying she doesn't want to go to preschool. Wtf do I do? I told her we'd talk about it after breakfast. Help me parent.

[macaronmama]

sanibel21, maybe start by asking her if she has a reason she doesn't want to go? I found littles more cooperative, as well as they felt more secure, if they felt they had been listened to, back when I was teaching swimming.

Visiting in-home daycares today to find out which one we'll be putting DS in. DH can't make it, so my mom is coming with. I hope it doesn't take too long while we're out because the instant DS gets hungry, he gets hangry. Would rather be able to show off my happy guy instead of a surly one.

ANDALSO I hate periods. The end.

[jwinct]

I am so tired this morning and I don't know why. I am pretty sure I slept okay last night. It was DH's night to get up with the baby, so I didn't have to get up with him. I always wake up with a sore back, so maybe I don't sleep that soundly because of discomfort. I'm really hoping that weight loss will help me to be more comfortable in my bed.

One of my vendors is taking a few of us out to lunch today. I have no idea where we're going or I'd be studying the menu to try to figure out what to get that won't already sabotage my Weight Watchers plan on the 2nd day in. Hopefully wherever we go has a yummy salad with grilled chicken or something.

[britta]

Jan 10, 2017 8:06:25 GMT -5 sanibel21 said:

DD1 woke up saying she doesn't want to go to preschool. Wtf do I do? I told her we'd talk about it after breakfast. Help me parent.

You tell her it's not an option. It's a school day. And then talk it up; how much fun she's going to have, all the new toys and friends she'll get to play with.

ETA: macaronmama has a good point. Ask why she doesn't want to go and try and address any concerns or fears she has. DS1 does this every now and then and when I ask why he gets whiny and says "Because I don't want toooooo" 😐 Toddlers, man. Ultimately though, it's still not an option.

ETA #2: Ok. I'm not as super bitch as I sound. I do believe in giving kids some control over their situations, but a lot of things are nonnegotiable. Maybe tell her she can choose what to wear for her first day. Or tell her, "It's a school day so we're going to Preschool, but when you get home we can ____ or ___? What would you like to do after school?"

[hikingmama222]

macaronmama DS gets hangry as well. He'll go from super happy to screaming in minutes. It's kinda funny but frustrating at the same time. Chill little guy.

sanibel21 hugs. DD still often says she doesn't want to go to her activities (daycare, preschool, dance, or gymnastics) unless she's sick it's not an option. I talk to her about it but she's always fine when we get there. Good luck today!

Busy day for us. DS has his 3 month doctors appt, need to pick up an item I bought, go to school to register DD for Kindergarten 😭😭. Meeting a lady later to trade wraps. Maybe going to a baby wearing meeting if the kids are happy and behaving and I'm not already tired from all that running around.

Need to do some house cleaning (I think this is on the list every day).

Oh and I need to other DS'S birth certificate so that I can go apply for his passport which will 3 need for our vacation in a few months.

[britta]

We're having really crappy weather today, so I think it's going to be a hunker down day. It snowed all night, but the temperature is supposed to warm into the 40s eventually, so the precipitation will change over to all rain. Right now, we're in transition and it's freezing rain. 😖 It's supposed to get super windy too, like sustained winds of 40mph. 😐

I've got a lot of cleaning I'd like to get done today. I really got off my usual schedule during the holidays. Hopefully the boys cooperate. DS2 is down for his first cat nap and DS1 is playing "farm" while watching Daniel Tiger, so I should probably get off TCF and be productive.

Good luck today sanibel21!! (Since I didn't say it earlier)
hikingmama222 OMG. Hugs for kindergarten. I can't even imagine.

[penguin129]

We have Story Time and then Day 2 of cleaning out the garage. It is such a mess. It is so much better than it was. Once I get it organized more the Christmas stuff will come down for good!

[iwantbacon]

Currently pumping and hoping to get more milk than I did yesterday. I know I eat and drink enough, but maybe my boobs are holding out for cake and champagne. Who knows?

I feel so overwhelmed being back at work. I'm not sad my boys are in daycare, but holy moly there is so much stuff to take care of in the short periods of time I am home and awake (and not MOTN). I know I am being a broken record here, and hope to get into a better routine soon.

britta --your first response re: preschool is pretty much what I tell DS1 on the random days he says he doesn't want to go to daycare.

[iwantbacon]

I should have started with "Good luck sanibel21 with taking DD1 to preschool!" I hope she got on board again this morning and is excited for it. She may be sad when you drop her off, but hopefully she will be smiling with new friends shortly after that.

[iwantbacon]

And good luck macaronmama looking at daycares! I hope you find one you love and that will work well with your commutes.

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It's supposed to be miserable here today. All school buses were cancelled this morning. *looks out the window* It just started snowing. I'm so tired so I dont think I'll be getting up to much today. Purolator tracking now shows estimated delivery unavailable. Ugh.

[jwinct]

Have a great day back, ladystrat!

@snuff9861 - What crap! I hope you get your stroller soon! Can you call them and demand to know where the hell it is?

[ksyknelvr73]

macaronmama ditto on the period frustrations. DAY 14 over here. I swear there is no end in sight for this hell of a period.

britta if you're a mean mom then so am I b/c that was my first reaction as well to the going to school issue. I don't mean it in a rude way either, of course, but some things are just non-negotiable. Whenever my kids tell me they don't want to do something that HAS to happen, I just talk to them about how everyone has to do things they don't want to do sometimes...like how mommy has to go to work even on days I don't want to, that kind of thing.

[vavavictoria]

Jan 10, 2017 8:49:08 GMT -5 britta said:

Jan 10, 2017 8:06:25 GMT -5 sanibel21 said:

DD1 woke up saying she doesn't want to go to preschool. Wtf do I do? I told her we'd talk about it after breakfast. Help me parent.

You tell her it's not an option. It's a school day. And then talk it up; how much fun she's going to have, all the new toys and friends she'll get to play with.

ETA: macaronmama has a good point. Ask why she doesn't want to go and try and address any concerns or fears she has. DS1 does this every now and then and when I ask why he gets whiny and says "Because I don't want toooooo" 😐 Toddlers, man. Ultimately though, it's still not an option.

ETA #2: Ok. I'm not as super bitch as I sound. I do believe in giving kids some control over their situations, but a lot of things are nonnegotiable. Maybe tell her she can choose what to wear for her first day. Or tell her, "It's a school day so we're going to Preschool, but when you get home we can ____ or ___? What would you like to do after school?"

@sansibel21 I agree with all of this. It's how to balance the fact that they do need some validation of their feelings but at the same time it's a non negotiable thing. Their reasons may be totally insane bc toddler but still listen but also enforce that this is something she has to do. If I give #1 even a hint that she can control things (i.e. Water at bedtime one night) she will then run with it and escalate the next night with a bigger request. They are little manipulators if we let them.

[fem]

sanibel21 DD1 has always had tough dropoffs and never wants to go to daycare, but always has fun once she's there. Hopefully that's the case for you guys too!

Went to Target and got a chocolate croissant and diapers this morning. I am really bumming around on this last week of maternity leave. Binge watching Netflix and dishes are all I have planned for the rest of the day.

[vavavictoria]

fem I was just thinking about that. Next week I'm going to chill. I better knock a bunch of my to dos off of my list this week so I can relax. Back to work on the 23rd.

[becole]

I went to a free BF clinic to ask about this bottle rejection. I need to make a sit down appt because what she suggested I don't think will work.

[britta]

Sorry about the bottle rejection, but Happy Birthday becole!!

[sanibel21]

I have been so busy since posting first thing. But I just wanted to come back and say thank you for all the replies!! For a lot of things that are non negotiable I treat things very similarly. It just felt different and more important because it was the first day she's really ever been sway from me with someone who is not a relative. So it just felt a little trickier than like "we have to go to the grocery store, no buts about it" kinda thing. I did end up asking why and she basically said because she wanted to stay home and play with me. So I told her I had to do some work so I wouldn't be able to play anyways and that it would be fun and that we would play a bunch when we got home. She had two serious moments in the car and right when she got out, but no tears the whole morning they sajd. She didn't really participate and they said she looked like a deer in the headlights. But I consider no tears a success and hope as time goes on she'll get more confortable and participate. She told me she had a sad face at one point but I just told her that's ok. And when I asked if she wants to go back she said yeah. So yeah now it's a non-negotiable thing. That KS again everyone for the support! I have anxiety as it is, so it just all felt pretty heavy and scary for me too! Not the I let her see thay of course.

[macaronmama]

ladystrat , best wishes on your first day back!
becole Happy birthday~~

Another shit day for DH here. If he had been told earlier that he wasn't being considered for this department, turns out another department wanted him hands down but they didn't know he wasn't getting the job (their director thought DH was going to be hired for sure) and they've already hired new folks as of last Friday. The boss of that department is angry he wasn't told, he wants DH. So this new boss has basically screwed DH over for a salaried position twice now. He still hasn't been told why he didn't get one of the positions either yet, just to rub that in on top of having to find out he wasn't offered one during an all-staff meeting in front of all his peers. Seriously, I could just scream at his new boss at the utter lack of consideration and professionalism.

ETA: sanibel21, yay! Glad it went alright! 

[britta]

sanibel21 that sounds like a great first day! Good for her and good for mom!!
macaronmama I'm so pissed for YH. That sucks. I'm so sorry.

I just went outside to check the mail, as it's not raining right now. It feels like spring!! So warm. I was happy to see the snow plow knocked over our garbage dumpster when it went by this morning too. Thanks guys.

DS2 took a fabulous 2+ hour nap, but DS1 is fighting his nap. He's currently locked in his room for mandatory quiet time. He woke this morning sounding congested and has big purple bags under his eyes, so he really NEEDS to sleep. But alas. You win some and lose more, I guess.

Edit because awesome autocorrect.

[smallpotato]

Happy birthday becole!
sanibel21, sounds like she had a great day! N gets like that about school sometimes, but we remind him about how much fun he's going to have and he's usually fine. When he first started going, he was fine the first week, and had a much more difficult time the second week. He likes it now though.

I was in a weird head space yesterday which is why I didn't post at all. I few a lot better today. MH went out to a go cart racing place last night and got home after N's bedtime. It could have been much worse than it was. MH told me today to go out and do some stuff alone. I got myself some lunch, went to Kohl's, and am now getting a mani and pedi. It's so nice to have things so quiet.

[smallpotato]

macaronmama, I am so sorry and angry for YH. That sucks that they jerked him around like that.

[fem]

Jan 10, 2017 11:58:52 GMT -5 becole said:

I went to a free BF clinic to ask about this bottle rejection. I need to make a sit down appt because what she suggested I don't think will work.

DD1 was a bottle refuser and finally took the Lansinoh Momma bottles. I recommended them to a few people on S16 and it worked for them too.

O still won't consistently take a bottle either.

[smallpotato]

hikingmama222, your post made me look up when kindergarten registration is here. I just hope N will decide to potty train so he can go in the fall 🙁. But yeah, how do I almost have a kid in kindergarten? I can't believe it.

[jwinct]

Happy birthday, becole! I hope you can get the bottle rejection resolved soon.

[hikingmama222]

At 3 months DS is 12 lbs 11oz (18 %) which is the weight DD was at 6 months. I make small babies. He's tall though with a big noggin.

Kindergarten registration done. DD wanted to stay at school. Met the principal and she was very sweet.

[becole]

Thanks for the birthday wishes everyone.

The LC suggested the playtex drop ins bottle because it's squishable and soft like a nipple.
I tried the lansinoh - well my sister gave him a bottle .he wouldn't take that but took the little nursers that come with formula today.
So far he has taken a Medela, a nurser, a Dr Browns- but only an ounce at a time and other times he has flat out refused and cried.

The LC didn't do a full eval but thinks it could still be an LT/ TT issue. I already had his cut but the LC thought maybe it grew back or he didn't have full range or needed some stretching/ sucking work with using his toungue. I'm not getting it cut again- that's just dumb. He can suck on a bottle but chooses not too so I don't think it's an TT issue or he wouldn't be able to latch and suck at all. I think it's a preference issue- he wants mom. I don't know how to solve that other than trying bottles over and over.

[sanibel21]

I really wanted to come back and tag everyone but today has been such a day.
I hope everyone's day care searches and first days back to work and registering for kindergarten all went well. I hope everyone's babies and kids behaved decently. And I hope for a good night's sleep for everyone.