I grew up lower middle class (sometimes barely). I know things can change in a moment, but with the way our lives are going right now, Z will never have to worry about half the things that I did as a kid. I'm just so worried that he's going to grow up in a bubble with no concept of the struggles other people face. Honestly, my H can already be like that (still somewhat ignorant despite educating himself). That terrifies me because of the way that can impact a person's thought processes.
I grew up lower middle class (sometimes barely). I know things can change in a moment, but with the way our lives are going right now, Z will never have to worry about half the things that I did as a kid. I'm just so worried that he's going to grow up in a bubble with no concept of the struggles other people face. Honestly, my H can already be like that (still somewhat ignorant despite educating himself). That terrifies me because of the way that can impact a person's thought processes.
I grew up the same. There were times my grandparents would show up at my house with groceries and things that my parents would never buy for us at the grocery stores because they couldn't afford it. I went to work at 15 in order to be able to do all the junior and senior activities in high school because it would be a stretch for my parents. Babe already has so much more than I did at that age, but I still worry. I worry that I'm putting my family in a situation where if something like H losing his job were to happen again we'd be completely fucked, or just, anything. Anything can happen at any time. I can end up in any of the situations any of the persons on 20/20 tonight is in. These are things that weigh on me and I try to just not think about because it's the kind of stuff that stays with me.
sstwinklinglites - I may be assuming but the impression I get from your situation is it is the company. Take a break, recharge, and after #2 arrives, re-evaluate and if you want to work, look for a company you at least like. True you may have to venture into DC expense, but there's so many good companies in and around Cincinnati. You may be pleasantly surprised with what you find - both opportunities and salary. I'm sure your skills can translate. mominthemaking14 is a guru. I bet she could help point you in the right direction.
Post by mominthemaking14 on Jan 14, 2017 8:21:57 GMT -5
Totally can relate we were lower middle then middle then lower middle again, which was a mind trip as a child. A is definitely growing up in an environment that's unfamiliar to us. The important thing that DH and I is we will always make sure she "gets" it. My dad grew up dirt poor and my mom grew up a farmers daughter and one of 9. We have different "struggles" but what we do is make sure A has as much exposure as possible. For example giving back is so important to us, so we're looking to join Jack and Jill International to ensure A grows up around diversity and seeing others that look like her in the same spot.
@sstwinkinglites single salary is always a risk but your happiness is also very important. It just depends on your H and his skills. I've seen it work really well in single income and I've seen horror stories (just placed said client). I agree with mom2boxers I think it's your company, it's the only place you've worked. After #2 is born you can network to see what's out there. Or even work part time once one of them goes to school.
vlagroupie I've tried different flows. The milk just pours out the end of the bottle when he won't latch on and he either swallows or lets it fall out of his mouth if he's mad. I think it's a texture/ I want mom thing.
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