I used to say 4 because I am one of four. It seemed nice, despite my brothers being a big pain. Now that I'm older 1 or 2, but even in an ideal world I would probably just want 1.
Post by penguin129 on Jan 16, 2017 11:39:40 GMT -5
For a little more than a year after AG was born I was pretty much one and done. Mr. P got used to the idea and was secretly afraid of what might happen if I did get pregnant again. He wanted more and deep in my heart I knew I did too. Now that we've been through pregnancy and delivery a second time and had a NICU stay we are 99% done at 2. Our girls are all we need. I do wonder what a little boy would look like, but since there is no way to get a boy... We haven't made anything final yet.
Totally agree with this. I could possibly only want one, but I have siblings and feel like I would want my kid to have that experience too. Of course, ttc #1 hasn't gone swimmingly, so we'll see what happens.
Post by kellybenelly83 on Jan 16, 2017 14:03:39 GMT -5
If I could have an bigger house? Maybe 3. Dh only ever wanted 1, and for a long time I was ok with that. Despite the higher risk of ectopic I seem to have, I think I might be able to convince him to go for number 2. I actually think he might agree but will want to wait a while. I'm aiming to start trying again by 35 so 1.5 years away?
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In an ideal world, where everything falls perfectly into place? I would be quite happy to have 4. The idea of a great big family sounds awesome to me.
In the world that I am currently living in, 2 sounds more realistic. Of course that is only if I can convince my body to cooperate. We actually changed our house plans when we were building from three extra bedrooms down to two. We were pretty sure at that point that we wouldn't need the extra one.
Post by madamewaffles on Jan 16, 2017 21:02:35 GMT -5
Ideal: 2. Preferably one of each sex but I'm not picky.
Reality: I'm likely OAD. It's been a rough time for the Waffleses trying to figure it out. We have 7 frosties in waiting but feeling pressure to decide due to age and ability. Then there's the "what do we do with the embryos" discussion. That's a whole other story. Whew.
Ideal: 2. Preferably one of each sex but I'm not picky.
Reality: I'm likely OAD. It's been a rough time for the Waffleses trying to figure it out. We have 7 frosties in waiting but feeling pressure to decide due to age and ability. Then there's the "what do we do with the embryos" discussion. That's a whole other story. Whew.
And hai, GKU!! 😊
I totally hear ya on the frosties!!
Also, getting LTs/seeing posts from Madame Waffles warms the cockles of my heart...and makes me hungry. 😘
We always thought we'd have four. After three girls we waive red a bit, but then I ended up pregnant. Ended in a loss at 12 weeks, but now we both want four. Probably me more so than DH, but he is happily on board.
DH is an only, but grew up with four cousins. I'm one of three, but come from a huge extended family. Not super close with everyone, but I love it just the same. Over 30 first cousins. Neither of my siblings have any interest in having kids, so we kind of felt like we had to make our own big family.
And now that everyone is stating everything else I realize that biologically the above is never going to happen (Thank you IF....). And with foster care who knows how many kids will be going through our home and if we will ever be able to adopt any.
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We always thought we'd have four. After three girls we waive red a bit, but then I ended up pregnant. Ended in a loss at 12 weeks, but now we both want four. Probably me more so than DH, but he is happily on board.
DH is an only, but grew up with four cousins. I'm one of three, but come from a huge extended family. Not super close with everyone, but I love it just the same. Over 30 first cousins. Neither of my siblings have any interest in having kids, so we kind of felt like we had to make our own big family.
My H is an only as well and my brother will absolutely never have kids, so we're it for our families in terms of grandkids. H's aunt had four kids and between them has 13 grandkids. We always joke that we're going to try and catch her. But all joking aside, 3 or 4 is important to my H because he always felt pretty left out having no siblings but seeing his cousins have so much family surrounding them.
In an idyllic situation, I wouldn't ever stop myself from having kids. And we'd have as many as that yielded us.
Realistically, we want at least two. That's where his limit is right now, my imagination has room for four or more. I'd love nothing more than a huge family, but aside from the financial aspect, MrRama has expressed concern with giving each of our children enough time and personal attention if we have more then two, so we'll just play it by ear if we ever get that far.
Oh god. Not any time soon. ::glares at the general direction of Paragard::
Oh I bet. Take your time!
I just remember your firm stance on OAD, so having a second baby Joy be a possibility is exciting.
Haha. The first one is pretty awesome.
My loose plan is to leave the IUD in until 37ish... then take it out and see what happens. I realize my feelings may change as time goes on here. I also don't think I'd ever permanently end the chances (vasectomy, tubes tied, etc).
I just remember your firm stance on OAD, so having a second baby Joy be a possibility is exciting. :)
Haha. The first one is pretty awesome.
My loose plan is to leave the IUD in until 37ish... then take it out and see what happens. I realize my feelings may change as time goes on here. I also don't think I'd ever permanently end the chances (vasectomy, tubes tied, etc).
Because there may be some on this site... Who have in the past participated on this board.
...ok? It's a question of how many kids you'd like to have, barring time and infertility. So, if you frequented this board previously, wouldn't you still have had a preference of how many kids you would have wanted? Even if you didn't get them?
My loose plan is to leave the IUD in until 37ish... then take it out and see what happens. I realize my feelings may change as time goes on here. I also don't think I'd ever permanently end the chances (vasectomy, tubes tied, etc).
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