H pushes me for all the babies, he would be happy if we never stopped TTC after each baby.
Now me being the realist out of us both, I would like 3. But if we ended up with twins on our second pregnancy, then I would most likely have a fourth when the twins would be 3/4. But ideally I would like a single second pregnancy, and single third lol, then we would be done.
(Talking about twins as high possibility on both sides, my grandad was a twin and H aunt/uncle are twins, and he actually conceived twins with his ex but 1 unfortunately passed away before birth. We were surprised when #1 wasn't a twin)
I voted 4, barring financial limitations, because that's always the number that sounded right to me. DH wants to be done at 2, but I find myself already daydreaming about a third. I really want to know what it's like to have a single baby, but not for a few years. I'd like them to be around 3 or 4 before we have another if we are so fortunate. Time will tell.
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
Post by housecarder on Jan 19, 2017 7:14:10 GMT -5
I always wanted as many as I could have. Then after my first being an emergency c section and my chronic conditions determining that only RCS for the future I was told only 5 pregnancies total and maybe not even that. After the twins we had a long hard talk about our extra frosties. I was cleared to transfer again, but each pregnancy has been harder and while we could afford 7 kids, we could give our four more time and experiences if we stopped. H made me promise when we donated our last 3 that I wouldn't rule out doing IVF again, but I don't think my body would handle it well again. I'd be lying if I said I don't struggle with being done some days and feeling like I'm broken. But I also realize I'm way more fortunate than most to have gotten this far.
I still don't know what my ideal would be. We have two already and go back and forth on having more. Before the first we both said 2-4. So we're in range, but don't feel 100% complete. My first is just such a tough customer (maybe ASD) she feels like too much some days. My second is so much easier I feel like I could handle 4 of her. But you don't get to pick what you get and I'm scared of the possibilities.
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