"I can't wait"

[rayray007]

I can't be the only one that plays the (losing) game of "I can't wait", right? I feel bad for wishing away their infancy, but it's hard. LOs are almost 3 months and right now my "I can't wait" is I can't wait for them to sit up on their own. I don't know why, but i seem to think it will be easier when they can sit up and play, and sit at the dinner table with us, etc. First it was a I can't wait until I don't feel the need to go to bed the minute they do. Then, I can't wait until they sttn. Then, I can't wait until they "learn patience" (ie, can wait their turn to eat without screaming bloody murder). Is life with multiples a game of always longing for the next "milestone"?

[rayray007]

Maybe having already had a singleton, I know what comes next and what gets easier as time goes by, so now I'm waiting on those things. A fellow MoM stopped by the other day and says it never gets less busy, but the busy just changes. I guess I find chasing after a 3 y.o. an easier kind of busy than taking care of infants.

[SassyPants150]

Right now, "I can't wait" for my 3 y/o toddler to go to preschool. Especially on days like today. She has dropped her food on the floor and wasted it (probably on purpose after 3 bites to get something else), put lotion on the toilet seat (on accident she says), and opened a package of wipe tablets that you wet to make them expand. All before she had even been awake for an hour. Add that my coffee gave me indigestion so I am stuck with one cup of half caff. But, when she does, I know I will be sad.

I can only imagine how adding my twins is going to add to that. I'm so used to an independent child to having to do everything...times 2! It's so hard to just enjoy the moment sometimes.

I'm also wishing time away right now. I'm over being pregnant. As someone who is super active, it's so hard taking it down several notches and being exhausted all the time. I'm ready to feel like me again!

[anakah]

I think it's normal to think about the "can't waits" because the early days are pure survival. There's always someone wanting somethign from you and you just want a break. I found I was doing that with the twins until they were about 18months - 2ish. I don't think it's gotten easier or less busy necessarily now that they are older, just different. Don't feel bad about how you feel. It's totally understandable.

[bluebonnet22]

Personally I don't like the baby stage at all. I was miserable when DS was 0-6 months, happier when he got to 6 months and have had a ball being his mommy since he turned one (especially 18 months!). I know with the twins I'll be doing the same thing as you - just trying to get psyched for the next stage to keep my sanity. Not everyone is obsessed with the newborn phase and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

[anotherdreamer]

I'm not the biggest fan of the early stage. They're so cute, but it's exhausting and they don't really do much... once they start interacting more, sleeping better, can sit, etc... I like it a lot more. I did the same thing with DS, and my twins were even more exhausting (well, DD1 was/is) so I felt myself wishing to skip ahead even more. There's nothing wrong with that. Things change, babies change, they may get better in some areas but more challenging in other, it's a give and take.

I actually find my 3 year old INFINITELY more exhausting than my twins. I wish he could communicate with me better and listen more (or at all, that would be nice). This age with him brings me so much happiness, but also makes me want to crawl under a rock to hide by mid-day. He is a very "high spirited" child. I find myself torn between wishing he was older or more mature, and wishing that we could go back to when he was my slightly milder snuggle baby.

[rayray007]

Well I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one not loving infancy and looking forward to having an older baby. Thanks ladies!

[macchiatto]

I did that during the first year and especially the first few months since it was so rough.
We went through all that thinking we were going to have a third child a few years later. Now that it looks like we never will, I wish so much I could go back to the infant stage and cherish it more. It just felt like it was hard to enjoy just sitting and snuggling a baby b/c his brother was going to start crying at any moment. Definite survival mode.

[kels09]

I'm still doing that and I think I will for the rest of their lives. Lol. Right now I can't wait til they realize some things are dangerous like trying to run across the couch! They are little dare devils and I must have at least one anxiety attack a day chasing these little guys.

I definitely don't want them to grow up too fast, I just want them to be safe. So I guess I really will be saying "I can't wait". For a very long time!

[julie216]

Mine aren't even here yet and I'm already saying "i can't wait till they are DD's age"! Yikes!