When does DH/SO join you to appointments?

[caybeh]

He will come to the first appointment and then to the anatomy scan.

[kellykapow]

Last pregnancy he came to every appointment. I usually tried to get appointments for as late as possible, so he could just leave work a little early to go. He wanted to be there. We haven't talked about if he'll come to every one this time. He's coming to this first one and the anatomy scan for sure. The difference this pregnancy is that he had sick time he could use last time, now it's all rolled into one bank, so he will have to use vacation, which I would rather him save for after the baby is born.

[meerkatmillie]

Twice we've had an RE/OB tell us the "I'm sorry..." news, so I'm spooked. I don't want to handle any of that alone so DH will be coming to all appointments so long as he can.

[LittleStarSweeper]

My DH came to the first appointment and all the ultrasounds last time. I think he'll do the same this time around.

[andtheheartbreakers]

MH came to every appointment he could. He liked being able to hear the heartbeat once I was far enough along that we listened at every appointment, and then of course he came to the dating and anatomy scan. It was kind of funny how it worked out because he always seemed to be there for the appointments that something invasive happened to me - PAP, membrane sweep, those kind of things. The membrane sweep was the funniest.

[CK1]

We're planning on MH being at all of my appointments. This is a first for both of us and he's really excited and interested in everything that's happening. I also don't want to go through any of this alone so I'm glad he wants to come to everything!

[laurenash323]

As many as he possibly can...typically though whenever there will be a scan

[salmon2017]

Just the first, the anatomy scan, and any "significant" ones where there will be decisions to be made . . . I will be going almost weekly for a lot of this pregnancy so it would be a lot of time for him to take off work.

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Saying that, I did have to call him bawling twice, once when I found out DD had T18 and the other when I found out I was 2 cm dilated at 24 weeks with DS, so maybe the universe is trying to tell me to take him to every appointment

[leviosa]

It all depends on his work schedule. I will likely schedule the anatomy scan to be when he is off. I like for him to be at the first US too just in case there is no HB. I don't want to face that on my own.

[doodler]

Last time he came almost all of them. I think he will come to as many as possible with this one too and def the early ones. We've also had too many "we can't find a heartbeat" moments and I can't do that alone.

[pascal]

My DH likes to come for any ultrasounds, but other than that I'm not sure if he will be there. I'll probably try to schedule them so he can if he wants to though. I already don't remember exactly what he did the first time around.

[wells2010]

In the past, H has come to whatever appointments he can make. He will meet me at our appointment on Wednesday, where I will get another U/S and bloodwork. Because we have 2 kids now to lug around, we will probably be doing fewer appointments together. I also need to add that I get so many U/S (up to 2x a week during the last month due to being high-risk), that there is no way he could go to all of them.

[mambo]

H comes because he was not at the appointment I found out we lost the twins at or the appointment where I found out I had cholestasis

[leviosa]

Jan 18, 2017 22:00:48 GMT -5 mambo said:

H comes because he was not at the appointment I found out we lost the twins at or the appointment where I found out I had cholestasis

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[savigirl]

Jan 18, 2017 21:39:31 GMT -5 @mattsgirl2004 said:

My DH usually only comes to the appointments when an ultrasound is involved. If he can, he'll come to an appointment here and there, but they start to become repetitive and are usually pretty short.

+1

[Mom2Ms]

Nope. DH is gone for 6-12 months, so he doesn't come. 😞

[Deleted]

H is coming to our first one but I'm not sure after that. Probably ultrasound appointments and whenever we find out the sex.

[saltandvinegar]

Jan 20, 2017 10:56:35 GMT -5 @helgahufflepuff said:

H is coming to our first one but I'm not sure after that. Probably ultrasound appointments and whenever we find out the sex.

+1 This is our plan too. He would probably come to more but he works far away (about an hour) and doesn't get any sick/vacation time. So we lose a crap ton of $ when he doesn't go to work.  

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saltandvinegar, Yes my H is a teacher and works closer to where we live, but my RE is near where I work which is probably a 40 minute drive for him. I also need to find a new OB! Mine left her practice and that practice also doesn't deliver at the hospital I'd prefer to go to so I've got to figure that out soon.

[springbeduk]

Last time he came to all. Probably will again though this time maybe more to take care of dd ( she will have to come to all at least until the summer because of where her daycare is). His schedule is way more flexible than mine so it wasn't hard for him to.

If he were having to use up limited sick leave I'd probably say he should go to just the first ultrasound and maybe whole first appointment, the a/s, and maybe one more if there was something concerning going on.