More Discipline...

[subliminalrabbit]

DH was mad at me tonight because I got mad at him for laughingly correcting my grammar while I had E in "time out" (E kept turning on the dish washer) and was trying to explain to E what he was doing wrong.  (I subb'd "can" for "may".) 

I told DH that we have to be on the same page about discipline and he can't undermine me by making a joke in E's earshot.

Am I being totally uptight?  I feel pretty strongly about this -- why would E listen to me if his daddy is making a joke about what his mommy is saying?

(FWIW of course "time out," which is basically me bringing E to a quiet place and speaking to him for like 30 seconds, doesn't work yet.  But we've got to get in the habit of explaining and correcting, right?)

[daffy2k]

You're totally in the right here. E probably won't quite catch on yet, but it won't be long. And then all bets are off. You guys need to back each other up 100% and if you disagree (or must poke fun) do it in private. Kids are so good at learning how to play their parents, you can't give them any more ammo.

[musicalsilver]

I definitely am of the mindset that DH and I have to appear united. I carefully made myself not react when DH was overreacting to food throwing for just this reason.

So no, not uptight.

[megsw85]

I agree with you. Believe when they get older if they hear H making a joke or laughing. Your chance of discipline is over.

[cl8badb]

Im on your side.
J doesnt take my husband seriously at all bc hes always laughing. I end up having to deal with 2 kids.

[ciahanna]

I agree with you too. My DH would do what yours did if it makes you feel better. But mine just thinks he's right ALL the time!

[ordinaryme]

I agree with everyone else. I think you are 100% correct here. It's good to start these things now, so you both can get on the same page and really understand how you want go go about disciplining. My H and I are also working on this.

[daffy2k]

Jan 16, 2015 23:42:29 GMT -5 cl8badb said:

Im on your side.
J doesnt take my husband seriously at all bc hes always laughing. I end up having to deal with 2 kids.

Mine is the exact same.  And Madeline has her daddy wrapped, so he would never get her in trouble anyways

[sympkin]

I'm the one apt to step in on my spouse with things like this, but I totally agree with the others. I'm getting much better at discussing it after the fact, and if I do step in, apologize right then and there in front of El. You have to be careful about the jokes one parent makes about the other in front of the kids at this age even if it's not a discipline issue in my opinion. They will take everything very literally for a few years