~~FFFC~~

[salmon2017]

I can already feel myself checking out at work. It makes me mad at myself because I am super pro-women in the workplace, believe in "sitting at the table" and remaining invested in my career while also having a family. But last year I had a great performance review followed by a lame pay increase, and with this baby coming I just feel like I don't give a crap anymore. Kind of disappointed in myself

[salmon2017]

Jan 27, 2017 15:25:46 GMT -5 @mattsgirl2004 said:

I bought a doppler and three maternity summer dresses last week when I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant. 😳 Ridiculously early to buy anything pregnancy/baby related (especially considering my loss history).

I find it helps me to get invested in the pregnancy, no matter what the outcome. I have totally bought maternity clothes already, and then gotten scared that I have jinxed myself, and then gotten mad at myself because jinxing is not a real thing. Craziness.

[saltandvinegar]

DH isn't great with money. I'm thinking of starting a separate (secret) savings account. I think he would be hurt/upset if he found out though.

[saltandvinegar]

@mattsgirl2004, I bought a new maternity shirt and a bouncer from a garage sale before I even got pregnant with this one. I also bought more cloth diapers.

[salmon2017]

Jan 27, 2017 15:44:21 GMT -5 saltandvinegar said:

DH isn't great with money. I'm thinking of starting a separate (secret) savings account. I think he would be hurt/upset if he found out though.

That's a tough one. What he doesn't know won't hurt him? But financial issues cause some of the biggest marriage strains, and the strain can be worse when it's not talked about. Not sure what will be right for you guys......

[saltandvinegar]

Jan 27, 2017 15:48:18 GMT -5 salmon2017 said:

Jan 27, 2017 15:44:21 GMT -5 saltandvinegar said:

DH isn't great with money. I'm thinking of starting a separate (secret) savings account. I think he would be hurt/upset if he found out though.

That's a tough one. What he doesn't know won't hurt him? But financial issues cause some of the biggest marriage strains, and the strain can be worse when it's not talked about. Not sure what will be right for you guys......

It's the biggest thing that we bicker about. We have talked about it a lot lately though and I think we just need to come up with a new solution for our budget. We currently have one main account that both of our checks go into. I think it might be better if we separated it a little more so that we weren't hounding each other for every little purchase. 

[saltandvinegar]

DS was such an easy pregnancy, easy baby, and easy toddler (so far/for a toddler). I'm terrified that #2 is going to be a hellion and I'm not going to love it as much as I love DS.

[salmon2017]

saltandvinegar, my DS was not an easy anything haha, but when I look at him my heart nearly explodes, I love him so much. I can't get my mind around the idea of loving someone else that much. So I am afraid that the second one will get less love too, just because . . . . division.

[laurenash323]

Jan 27, 2017 15:41:07 GMT -5 salmon2017 said:

Jan 27, 2017 15:25:46 GMT -5 @mattsgirl2004 said:

I bought a doppler and three maternity summer dresses last week when I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant. 😳 Ridiculously early to buy anything pregnancy/baby related (especially considering my loss history).

I find it helps me to get invested in the pregnancy, no matter what the outcome. I have totally bought maternity clothes already, and then gotten scared that I have jinxed myself, and then gotten mad at myself because jinxing is not a real thing. Craziness.

I need to do this! All of my previous pregnancies I've done this and this one I just can't bring myself to do it. I'm hoping to go get new bras this weekend (without underwire-my boobs are killing me), maybe I'll buy something baby related. I thought about just starting a baby quilt or something else crafty that can keep my mind off things and get me more "into" this pregnancy.

[sarenu]

I plan on buying good nursing bras this time and a new pump.

[caybeh]

DD makes the cut off for preschool by 5 days but she has to be potty trained in order to attend. I'm secretly hoping she isn't potty trained because I'm not ready for her to be that old. But..the idea of being alone with the baby for a few hours a week sounds nice too. Sigh.

[LittleStarSweeper]

saltandvinegar +1 to new cloth diapers! Can't wait to buy some teeny-tiny ones! 

laurenash323 +1 to baby quilt! I've been thinking about starting one too 

[leviosa]

Jan 27, 2017 16:06:47 GMT -5 saltandvinegar said:

DS was such an easy pregnancy, easy baby, and easy toddler (so far/for a toddler). I'm terrified that #2 is going to be a hellion and I'm not going to love it as much as I love DS.

Aw, I think it's impossible to not love your own child. You may be infuriated at times, but the love will always be there.

[andtheheartbreakers]

We announced it to our parents when we found out we were pregnant, but have held off telling anyone else because I don't want it to get out until my union has me back to work. Well we got an flood of texts this week from MH's aunts and uncles all congratulating us on the pregnancy.

I'm irrationally upset that my MIL/FIL are announcing something that is supposed to be our news to announce.

[springbeduk]

Jan 27, 2017 21:09:13 GMT -5 andtheheartbreakers said:

We announced it to our parents when we found out we were pregnant, but have held off telling anyone else because I don't want it to get out until my union has me back to work. Well we got an flood of texts this week from MH's aunts and uncles all congratulating us on the pregnancy.

I'm irrationally upset that my MIL/FIL are announcing something that is supposed to be our news to announce.

That is a totally valid thing to be upset about!

[andtheheartbreakers]

Jan 27, 2017 22:45:17 GMT -5 @wicky said:

Jan 27, 2017 21:09:13 GMT -5 andtheheartbreakers said:

We announced it to our parents when we found out we were pregnant, but have held off telling anyone else because I don't want it to get out until my union has me back to work. Well we got an flood of texts this week from MH's aunts and uncles all congratulating us on the pregnancy.

I'm irrationally upset that my MIL/FIL are announcing something that is supposed to be our news to announce.

But did you tell them specifically NOT to tell anyone? If you did then I would be equally as upset as you are because it is special news that you should be the ones to share! If you didn't tell them to stay quiet then I can see it as being irrationally upset because as grandparents they want to share the news because they are excited and we're not told to not tell.

It might be since it is their son vs their daughter expecting they don't think it is as big of a deal to share? I don't know, just trying to put a fraction of logic into their thinking to make it a better situation but it is a stretch...

Sorry either way! Hopefully you can still keep it an exciting announcement for your side of the family!

It's their fourth grandchild (BIL has two, and we have one), and their reaction was "is this an oops". They are excited, but also think it was bad timing on our part. And we did ask them not to say anything, that we would contact family and announce down the road. They're just from a small town and HUGE gossipers so of course they just spilt our news instead of respecting our wishes.SaveSave

[andtheheartbreakers]

Jan 27, 2017 23:06:07 GMT -5 @wicky said:

Internet words can be taken in so many ways since there is no verbal inflection or facial expressions to base the words off and I worry I come off as a bitch here. I am an blunt, honest person who says what I think in person but in a polite and nice way. I know that can come off as a harsh bitchy know-it-all in text words but I swear I'm not!

I also tend to use explanation marks a lot to emphasize I'm meaning things in a nice way!

I have this fear too. Except I don't have an inside voice, I don't sugar coat things or bull shit people, and will call anyone out. I'm more cautious on online forums because you can't also see the smile and that it's just me and not me being a bitch. SaveSave