Post by shawnabm1320 on Feb 1, 2017 13:02:21 GMT -5
I'm sorry about your cousin's news loves2shop4shoes. I hope she can get her work to figure something out so they can have time together as a family. That's so heartbreaking.
I found out last night that one of my friends from church had their second failed IUI procedure. They only have one more chance before her husband is deployed for 6 months (and that's only if her cycles work out so they can do the procedure around her husband's pre-deployment training), and they've been tfas for 4 years now. It certainly puts things in perspective for me. I also feel horrible for her because there are 4 of us at church who are pregnant right now, and 3 women just had babies in the last 4 months. It has to be so so hard.
Anyways, I had a really uncomfortable day yesterday and have decided I might be pushing myself too much. I'm taking my list tonight and prioritizing it, focusing only on the important tasks, and either delegating or getting rid of most of the labor-intensive (deep cleaning and organizing) tasks. I need to get more sleep, and be on my feet less so that my back doesn't give out on me completely. It's not worth it to be so exhausted by the time I have the baby that I'm starting out with half the energy I could have.
For now, though, I have to make 90 shower invites by like 3:00 for a girl at church. I really need to work on saying no...
Post by notagoddess on Feb 1, 2017 13:08:28 GMT -5
I took it easy last night and tried to get some rest. I still had trouble sleeping and I feel like a zombie again today. I'm pretty much checked out at work even though I still have up to 3.5 more weeks. I'm super jealous of everyone already on ML.
H and I got into a fight last night and I didn't sleep very well. So I'm dragging today. Work is another sign and date everything sort of day, which is easy, but it's not helping me stay awake!
I think DH is getting anxious, every time I roll out of bed at night to pee or walk around to get feeling back in my legs lately he's all "ARE YOU OK!?!?!
loves2shop4shoes, +1 on the hemi's despite not straining. So obnoxious. I can do nothing right by my ass these days. That is absolutely heartbreaking what your cousin's family is going through. I cannot fathom how unbearable that would be. So many hugs their way.
Nothing really going on over here. I need to grocery shop and get supplies for A's birthday and our Super Bowl get together with a couple of friends, but otherwise I plan to just take it easy.
On this note, since we have so many talented cooks on here-anyone want to share what they're making for the super bowl?? This isn't exactly an all-star recipe but I found it on Pinterest and am thinking of testing it out. Also dh will be making buff chicken dip and Rice Krispies. He never cooks so this seems extravagant to me!
I think DH is getting anxious, every time I roll out of bed at night to pee or walk around to get feeling back in my legs lately he's all "ARE YOU OK!?!?!
This is adorable
It's pretty hilarious because he is not one to panic, even during labor and birth he's been totally cool and my rock. But down to the baby wire, he gets so anxious lol. I stopped telling him about my contractions with DD1 because it went on for days and I thought he might explode from anticipation. Poor guy.
I took it easy last night and tried to get some rest. I still had trouble sleeping and I feel like a zombie again today. I'm pretty much checked out at work even though I still have up to 3.5 more weeks. I'm super jealous of everyone already on ML.
Post by shawnabm1320 on Feb 1, 2017 15:16:19 GMT -5
Woo! I finished the invitations! I had to wrap an invite with a paper doilie and tie them shut with twine. I thought it would never be done. But it only took me about 1.5 hours.
But I'm still saying no next time someone asks me to make invitations for something. Especially if I'm like 8.5 months pregnant.
Woo! I finished the invitations! I had to wrap an invite with a paper doilie and tie them shut with twine. I thought it would never be done. But it only took me about 1.5 hours.
But I'm still saying no next time someone asks me to make invitations for something. Especially if I'm like 8.5 months pregnant.
Definitely say no to doing invitations for others! At a previous job several years ago I had more of a secretarial job and my supervisor asked me a couple of times to do personal invitations to parties I had nothing to do with because my undergrad was studio art. I felt insulted by her and angry at myself for not saying no. Guess I have feels about this.
Other random, I have been having these intermittent back aches throughout the day out of nowhere. Sure would be nice if it were something besides ongoing third tri aches!
So, my mom is my only postpartum help besides MH. She got an MRI of the shoulder she injured around Christmas today and at a minimum she partially tore one of her rotator cuff muscles and has degeneration of her biceps tendon.
She needs surgery. The doctor said he'd cut the biceps tendon and reattach it and repair the supraspinatus. Then she'd be in an adduction brace (foam wedge and sling for her arm) for six weeks. It's her right shoulder and she's right handed.
The supraspinatus pulls the arm toward the body at the shoulder. That probably means restrictions on things that would require her to keep her arm near her body or her forearm pulled upward, like carrying kids for instance.
I took it easy last night and tried to get some rest. I still had trouble sleeping and I feel like a zombie again today. I'm pretty much checked out at work even though I still have up to 3.5 more weeks. I'm super jealous of everyone already on ML.
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Post by loves2shop4shoes on Feb 1, 2017 16:38:48 GMT -5
Ok. So doctor says I'm 1cm, 50% effaced STILL! Fml.
She did sweep my membranes, so I'm hoping that does something. Does anyone know how likely this is to get things moving?
We talked about scheduling an induction for 41 weeks. She doesn't generally wait later than that unless the patient feels very strongly about not inducing. So... her scheduler will be contacting me tomorrow to schedule an induction... just in case.
nomnom , That sucks about your mom's shoulder! My cousin had a similar issue and it took her months to recover fully. I hope it goes easier for your mom and that maybe it can be delayed until you're all a bit more settled into a new routine with the babies.
loves2shop4shoes , I'm so sorry about the lack of progress! I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you that the membrane sweep works and kicks things into gear for you soon. If not, at least you know your absolute end date with the induction, right?
musicallyinclined , how are you doing with those contractions? Hoping no news is good news!
coffeeonice , definitely! Need a Super Bowl food thread to shoot around some ideas and recipes.
oldbaylover1024 We have a sitter scheduled for while I'm in the hospital, R&G are awake, and R&G are not in daycare. We may be able to schedule her for some later times. It's $15/hour for two kids or $17.50-$18/hour for all four, and the sitter works a regular full-time job and a part-time job on the side. If we could find a mother's helper type person (i.e. someone able-bodied and not afraid of small children), that would be sufficient most of the time once I get home.
ls2012 MH just had a more massive shoulder repair a couple of years ago, so we have some idea of what she's in for and we happen to know a really good surgeon. Surgery is not urgent, but if she leaves it go she's liable to completely tear her biceps tendon and/or supraspinatus or inflict injury somewhere else by compensating for the non-working parts.
ls2012 MH just had a more massive shoulder repair a couple of years ago, so we have some idea of what she's in for and we happen to know a really good surgeon. Surgery is not urgent, but if she leaves it go she's liable to completely tear her biceps tendon and/or supraspinatus or inflict injury somewhere else by compensating for the non-working parts.
Yikes! That sounds really awful. That's gotta be helpful, though, that you're a bit familiar with the ins and outs. I'll be keeping her in my thoughts that she's able to get in soon and get healing, and that you're able to get some extra help when the time comes! SaveSave
nomnom my mom had similar surgery last year. I won't lie. It was rough, and recovery was rough. But it wasn't emergency surgery, if that makes sense. Can your mom schedule it for a few months down the road?
loves2shop4shoes I was asking some friends about membrane sweeps a couple weeks ago. For those who went into labor after the sweep, it was about 36 hours. (I also feel I should tell you that a couple said it didn't work for them.) hopefully it gets something going!
@nomnom- did they say when she will have the surgery? Not sure what her current pain level is but from my personal shoulder injury I delayed mine due to my doctor saying the damage was done and nothing I did could further injure.
loves2shop4shoes- I had my membranes swept with LO1 and it didn't do anything for me. My cousin had hers done and she went a couple days later...so I think it's really hard to say for sure if it will work or not.
First bath day at home for the twins....neither were thrilled by the experience. Lil girls bilirubin was even higher today but pedi is okay with it but wanted another draw of labs tomorrow. Ugh...esp since she's had 3 poops in the last 24 hrs so I'd assume it would be working out of her body.
shellbell, @jacks605, She can delay the surgery until we're settled with L&M, so I guess that's good. Since the muscles/tendons aren't fully torn, she still has to be careful that she doesn't overuse them or fall again and completely tear them. She's done most of the damage, but not all of it.
loves2shop4shoes, I had three membrane sweeps last time. No effect at all besides cramping the night after. From what I've heard, it's really hit or miss. Sorry I don't have more comforting information.
Post by flyinghorses6 on Feb 1, 2017 17:43:18 GMT -5
loves2shop4shoes it's like 20-30% effective in starting labor...every body is different. I know that's not super impressive but it has more to do with if the body is ready. First babies tend to come after 40 weeks. I was 1/80% with my first from 36-40 weeks. I got the sweep at 40w and had K at 40w3d.
You should go home have sex, and insert an EPO tablet. At least that's what I would do. 50% is not very effaced and usually that has to happen a little more first. The prostaglandins in the semen and EPO can help soften the cervix and hopefully some contractions from the sweep and maybe things can get going.
Also 41 weeks is standard for a post dates induction.
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Post by shawnabm1320 on Feb 1, 2017 18:36:39 GMT -5
@wineandcupcakes, being on TCF and reading about so many different women's experiences has really opened my eyes to how hard it is for some - and I can only imagine it. I also know how much I longed for kids and cried about it purely because my husband wasn't ready when I was - and that is absolutely nothing compared to infertility. I do find myself not sure how to act around her. I try to be careful not to complain about my pregnancy when others ask, and I generally don't go into details. She's so friendly and is so willing to talk to me and ask how I'm doing, but I don't want to assume that means she wants me to go on about it or that she's not inwardly grieving while she's smiling. I just hope that I can be a blessing to her through it, even if I can't understand experiencially what she's going through.
@wineandcupcakes, being on TCF and reading about so many different women's experiences has really opened my eyes to how hard it is for some - and I can only imagine it. I also know how much I longed for kids and cried about it purely because my husband wasn't ready when I was - and that is absolutely nothing compared to infertility. I do find myself not sure how to act around her. I try to be careful not to complain about my pregnancy when others ask, and I generally don't go into details. She's so friendly and is so willing to talk to me and ask how I'm doing, but I don't want to assume that means she wants me to go on about it or that she's not inwardly grieving while she's smiling. I just hope that I can be a blessing to her through it, even if I can't understand experiencially what she's going through.
Truthfully, I don't know what to do/say around my other infertile friends. It's hard. You never know what's right or wrong to say because everyone deals differently. I think you are doing the right things...not complaining in front of her (not to say you aren't allowed to complain, I just mean...not in front of her), answer her questions and don't drone on. Some women really love to talk about babies because it makes them hopeful. I SO wasn't that person. You are doing well just by understanding. It's always amazing to me how many hurtful things people would say because they wouldn't just put themselves in my shoes for five seconds. I had friends who knew what I was going through try to surprise me with their pregnancy announcements instead of discreetly telling me, or telling me I was "better off" because they were uncomfortable or having a bad day with their kids, not understanding that I would kill to have a difficult day with my children. I obviously don't/never expected anyone to bend over backwards for me, but I did have higher expectations of close friends who knew of my struggle.
On a more everyday level, I never ask when people are having kids, or say that they should "hurry up" and would absolutely never tell anyone who is struggling that they could "just adopt" or relate to them the story of a friend who had trouble conceiving because it took her 8 or 9 months (I had some people equate 4 months of trying with a struggle). The stabs with my eyes were real!
I just want to consign on all of this! You're being a great friend simply by being aware of her feelings. Follow her lead.
Post by shawnabm1320 on Feb 1, 2017 19:48:02 GMT -5
@wineandcupcakes and dancerspose, thank you for the pointers and advice! I'm sure more women I know have struggled who just don't talk about it much, but this friend in particular has gone through it the longest among our group of friends and is starting to share more of her heart with us. I appreciate your advice now and appreciated others' advice several months ago when I was trying to figure out how to tell her the news of my pregnancy in the least painful way possible.
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