Post by requiressnacks on Feb 2, 2017 8:58:00 GMT -5
No plans for today. I might hit up Target because I have a couple things to get.
I have my Parents of Multiples meeting tonight! The theme is "pampering" and I can't wait! There's going to be wine, massages, desserts. Also, DH is forced to do bedtime on his own and I really hope he doesn't freak out like last time.
I've been absent because I'm either trapped under a baby getting carpal tunnel from patting her to sleep or out and about. Yesterday I went to my first hot yoga class in almost a year -- it was awesome and humbling. Today I try running (really jog/walking so I don't kill myself). Wish me luck! I have mom guilt thoughts but mostly of the "i need a break" variety and then feel guilty because I know I will miss these baby snuggles soon. And 100% to whom ever said they feel guilty about their interactions with their other kid(s) -- I am no fun and just keep telling him to be quiet.
requiressnacks that sounds awesome!! Fingers crossed your DH steps it up.
Me too. The last meeting he texted me that "all hell was breaking loose". Like, wut? They are babies and it's not that hard if you pack a little patience.
requiressnacks that sounds awesome!! Fingers crossed your DH steps it up.
Me too. The last meeting he texted me that "all hell was breaking loose". Like, wut? They are babies and it's not that hard if you pack a little patience.
And also like "hi. What do you think I do every day alone?"
My DH and I have a rule that we do not send bad text updates when the other person is out having fun. If there is an emergency (never happens) we call but otherwise why ruin the other persons night? They can hear about the poopsplosion and barfing (x2) when they get home.
Me too. The last meeting he texted me that "all hell was breaking loose". Like, wut? They are babies and it's not that hard if you pack a little patience.
And also like "hi. What do you think I do every day alone?"
My DH and I have a rule that we do not send bad text updates when the other person is out having fun. If there is an emergency (never happens) we call but otherwise why ruin the other persons night? They can hear about the poopsplosion and barfing (x2) when they get home.
We implemented that rule recently! And it's not like the person who is out can do anything to help. and it just piles on the guilt.
Post by requiressnacks on Feb 2, 2017 9:49:20 GMT -5
Posted in the wrong thread...
For the BTDT moms.....before you returned to work did you start your daily schedule beforehand? For example, my babies currently eat at 3 am and sleep until 7 am. When I return to work they will need to be up and eating probably closer to 6 so I can get out the door. Should I start doing that soon?
Also, should I try to get myself ready first? Maybe get dressed last? (Since they will inevitably spit up on my nice work clothes)
Post by legalbeagle on Feb 2, 2017 10:04:28 GMT -5
crimpgirl I did chaturanga mostly on my knees so I didn't do it improperly. I fell out of side plank -- oopsie. Overall I just felt wobbly, which makes sense since my core is so weak. But I did half moon with the bind (and a block) so that was encouraging! I tried to just notice whenever I felt frustrated.
requiressnacks hmmm not sure. Maybe at least do a dry run even if not at 6am to see how long it will take you to get yourself/them ready? I'd say feed them first if possible since you are formula feeding. If you were breastfeeding I would say last so you don't have to pump as often at work.
I think we've totally messed up our sleep schedule here. She was dealing with a growth spurt and I was trying to let her sleep as much as possible, which turned into super long naps during the day. Now she's not sleeping more than 2-3 hours at night, and before she was consistently sleeping 3-4 hours at night. So. Tired.
Sorry so many had rough nights! Ours have been ok the last 2 nights. I'd love for her to get back to 4 hours at night, that would be amazing.
I started reading "The Wonder Weeks" last night. They theorize that all the super cranky phases aren't just physical growth spurts but also coincide with cognitive changes. It talks about each one and how to cope with them. It actually makes a lot of sense if I look at Abigail's behaviors and emerging skills.
MIL and I are packing up DH's 101 year old aunt to move her to a new assisted living place because her current one is closing. So Hazel is spending the day snuggling with her great-great aunt while I lug boxes.
Post by catherineoctober on Feb 2, 2017 11:04:05 GMT -5
requiressnacks, I sort of did a test run, but we didn't have to leave the house. Since I'm breast feeding and pumping (crap, which I have to go do now at work) I just started getting up with my husband or a little earlier and Jane did too. Then I'd pump and have my friend feed her with a bottle so I could start that routine. This morning she slept while I showered which was awesome then woke to eat right before we left. It's great that she falls asleep int he car seat as I take my husband to work then her to daycare. I'm all for packing the night before, and I didn't think about prepping breakfast for me. That's going to be a must in the future. I just stop somewhere and pick something up.
I'm still an emotional wreck and I don't think I got good sleep last night. We were running later than before, but no one was really late for anything this morning and I forgot Jane is 2 months old today until my mom txt me "Happy Two Months Jane!" I almost cried again, but I'll just get her pictures tonight when we get home and it will all be better. I'm planning a jammies only weekend until we go to our friends to watch the superbowl, which honestly I might keep us in our jammies for that too. I'm exhausted.
I'm going to find that book @cahistoryteacher, I was just thinking I really miss reading and I mean like a Nora Roberts book or something, but that would be cool also to read about her development and what they think is happening. I'm just not paying attention to the What to Expect in the First Year book. It's a bit overwhelming. They suggest to do everything like you're going back to work weeks before you do and I'm like Nah! I'm going to hold my little girl and just go with the flow. I don't want to pressure myself or her that much and we'll just have to deal with what comes. So far it's worked out.
My mouth has been killing me. I was really hungry one night and tried some crackers I've never had and I think there's something in them that my mouth is rejecting. I have sores all over my mouth and mostly on the top front where everything hits so it's painful when I drink or eat. Ugh! And I just got my teeth cleaned so dang! I'm hoping it's easing up. How miserable!
catherineoctober I can't nap in the afternoons, I usually feel like crap afterwards. While dd naps I rest and read. I try to keep the baby related books to a minimum, I'm reading about the Medici right now. If dd is awake I'll read it out loud, I'm sure she'll develop some power complex from it, lol. I do not care for the What to expect first year book. It's so dense, all the questions and answers, I feel like I have to reread each section to retain anything. I like the Mayo Clinic's book. It's very straight forward and has real pictures of things like skin conditions and such.
Also, totally wear jammies to the super bowl party.
Post by catherineoctober on Feb 2, 2017 11:31:10 GMT -5
@cahistoryteacher, How interesting! I had to look up Medici, but that's totally cool. I'm in a book club and we read one book a month and rotate through whoever hosts picks the next book. I tend to listen to them on Audible at work and this just reminded me to start the next one. I started reading about Feminism before Jane was born and found some very interesting essays and things that I want to pick up again, but I really want to read in the tub with bubbles and silence! :-) that may have to be a part of this weekend as well.
I also like Nora Roberts and her JD Robb books, but I just don't have the time to sit and read those. I'll probably end up listening to some of those too.
My sister and I both decided (her youngest is 10 so she did this years ago) that those What to expect books are reference books and you just use them to look stuff up that you are curious about. I'm going to invest in the Mayo book though. My Dr's office gave us a month by month book for pregnancy that was so simple and easy to get through. I loved it. I actually had time to read both while I was pregant, Wow what difference that is now! LOL
requiressnacks +1 to doing a dry run before your return date. Get a feel for how you'll feel at that wake up time and how traffic is in that area at that time too. With Leo at DC now I wake up at 7 am. When I return to work wake up will be closer to 5:30 am :eek: Poor kiddos have to up, dressed and out the door by 6:25 am. Fx work cuts us some slack the first week back.
Post by catherineoctober on Feb 2, 2017 11:42:14 GMT -5
Oh and I must share something positive about daycare. The lady that's there in the infant room in the morning is named Kotia. And she asked me yesterday to bring 3 bottles instead of 2. So I did and this morning she told me that Jane is hungry every 2 hours, not three like I said. She was right! and I was so happy she said that. I always round out my time and am so glad she asked me to bring more. I feel silly not bringing everything I pumped the day before, but who knew. I'd much rather her have more than not enough. Things are looking up and I don't think I'll ever like the idea of daycare, but this is our choice and whatever I choose will be hard so we'll just deal.
I did notice that Jane smelled like the daycare when I brought her home. It wasn't bad, but I'm terming it the daycare funk. Not my favorite. I just keep trying to focus on the fact that she will be socialized and it will be fine. I did entertain possibly switching to a home care from a friend who takes his kids there. We'll see.
catherineoctober hmmm daycare funk. Maybe it's the detergent they use to wash the crib sheets? Leo would come home smelling like perfume from whoever was holding him that day.
Post by catherineoctober on Feb 2, 2017 11:50:43 GMT -5
littlelion, Ya I think it's whoever's holding her, and it's really not that bad, it's just not me and our smell. I'll get used to it I'm sure. I didn't notice it until I was kissing her head and snuggling with her, so it's really not that bad. Dang I miss her, but I did realize that I can't easily just go get her and take her home to work with me there when I actually have work to do. It's better to keep her there and get my stuff done and then get her. I wonder how I'll do working from home without her if I choose to keep my Work from home days Wednesday and Friday's. We'll see. I might just come into work and use work from home days when my mom's here and stuff. Oh and that schedule is tough, but I'm rooting for you and your Little ones. I can barely get up at 6, but I just need to get into the habit again. I know it's best to do it all days, but I will be sleeping in on days I can and hopefully Jane will too.
The cold temps have returned. I had to turn on the space heater in the living room again.
Leo cried a little this morning but walked right over to one of the teachers. And listened to her when she said "one more hug for mommy before she has to go". She must be the one he hugged yesterday. Makes me happy to know he's ok.
Dh is starting a CDL training class this evening. So I have to go pick up leo later too. Dh will be at class 2 evenings in the week plus during the day on the weekend. I'm hopeful he can finish the class quickly. His schedule will be tough on him and us.
catherineoctober could you also leave a bag or two of frozen BM for hungry days? That way you will always have some extra in case and they can let you know when/if they use it so you can replace. That's what I did with DS1 and she would rotate it out every week, using the freshest first.
That's genius!! I'm totally going to do that. Thank you!
I just got yelled at by a guy at the park for bumping into his Lexus with the rubber tire of my stroller. The baby was screaming and I was trying to get her back to the car. I apologized, and asked if there was any damage. Of course, there wasn't because it's a rubber stroller tire, idiot. He kept saying, "This isn't just any car. It's a $60,000 Lexus sports car." I apologized again and explained that I was trying to take care of my baby and he just kept being a jerk. Then I got in the car and cried. I just wish my husband and his marine personal trainer had seen it happen as they were working out nearby. When they realized what happened they were both really angry but the guy had already left.
D woke up around 3. I fed him rather quickly. Thank goodness he's starting to eat quicker. Sometimes he eats on one side and then not so much on the other before falling asleep and I can't get him to wake up. Then he woke up around 6 and DH gave him a bottle.
Nothing planned today. Getting my hair did tomorrow am! Woohoo!
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catherineoctober I meant to tell you the other day that I was previously an infant daycare teacher and we had similar cribs, except the rails would get pushed up and over (I think). They were great and gave each LO their own little environment without being too disturbed by the baby next to them. My favorite though was the table with the little seats in it.
MC Sept '10, MC Dec '10, DS born 2012 Clomid + TI = BFP #1 March '13, MC April '13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #1 = BFP #2 10/21/13, MC 10/31/13 Gonal F + trigger + IUI #2 = BFP #3 1/16/14, ectopic w/ heartbeat & rt salpingectomy 1/29/14 IVF #1 - ER 5/9/14 transfer cx'd due to high P4 FET #1 - 6/26/14 transferred 1 AA blast BFP!! EDD 3/11/15 Beta #1 13dp5dt - 1548 Beta #2 15dp5dt - 2748 Beta #3 18dp5dt - 7586
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