Grieving the end of my pregnancy

[imamandaurnot]

Hi ladies. Maybe this should go in spam, I'm not sure. The last couple of days, I've been a ball of emotions, from sad to scared to super excited. I'm sure part of it is hormones but I kind of feel like I'm grieving the end of my pregnancy. I cannot wait to hold my baby in my arms but I'm so sad that I won't be pregnant anymore. Maybe part of it is because of the fertility struggles that we had but I'm just wondering if any of you are also going through it or did go through it?

[crispywheats]

I definitely felt a bit of this. While pregnancy has its set of challenges, I was afraid that I'd miss the more enjoyable side; baby movements, the suspense of meeting our LO. I only plan on doing this a couple of times and admittedly had some anxiety and blues that this chapter was coming to an end.
I feel much less of this now that we actually have an outside baby. This too comes with its own new challenges. However, it comes with an even greater feeling of amazingness. Now that he's here, I'll take cuddling and loving him over being pregnant any day.
The other benefits to no longer being pregnant relate to my physical side. I can see my toes let alone reach them to put on my own socks. I can comfortably sit up straight. My rib pain and acid reflux are gone. I can pee on my own terms. My boobs look ah-mazing.
I totally empathize with how you feel. In the wake of having a baby, I've found that the benefits far outshine the fears I had about no longer being pregnant. It only gets better, I promise.

[miniwheat]

I also had some sadness at the end of my pregnancy. We have no current plans for a third child so when my pregnancy was nearing its end I was trying to remember how every kick and hiccup felt and I was really sad about not knowing if I will ever feel that again.

Carrying them was an amazing feeling, but being their mom is far more amazing! And I will agree that being in control of my body and bodily functions again is very nice.

[imamandaurnot]

It feels good to know that I'm not alone. Like you both, I'm trying to savor every movement.

[Mom2Ms]

I'm a ball full of emotions. I know this is my last pregnancy because 1) I'm old, 2) we had to go through fertility treatment to get KU, and 3) DH has been 100% unsupportive this entire time & I'd never do this again for him. It's a rough road with the hormones & the emotions, I completely understand. On one hand I'm ready for this to be over, have my body & emotional stability back, but there will be things I miss about being pregnant. It's a double edge sword. You're not alone momma.

[tammynixx]

I was just talking to my DF about this today. I've been very emotional since giving birth and I feel like I didn't enjoy my pregnancy as much as I would have liked. It went by so fast and this is most likely my last baby so I'm grieving it's over. But like others said, it only gets better. I am so happy that she is here and watching my DS interact with her.

[kcrosem]

I was this way with my first. I really missed the inside baby movements especially from before it got really uncomfortable. This time not as much, peeing normal amounts and sleeping on my back are so nice but I am 8 years older than before and this time was a lot harder physically.

[dreemkin]

I was just thinking about this today! This was probably my last pregnancy so I too am sad I won't get to experience the fun parts of it again. And I won't ever grow/make another child (which is a truly amazing thing).

And for FTMs, I think it's nerve racking because of the unknown. Hopefully you will find comfort in raising your precious little miracle and enjoy the new chapter.

[whitfry]

Lurking from March 15 because I like to read your birth stories. My doula shared this on FB earlier and I felt compelled to share, since I think this might resonate for some of you ladies.
www.mothering.com/articles/the-last-days-of-pregnancy-a-place-of-in-between/

[allonsy221b]

My pregnancies are rough, and while I always thought I'd have 3 I'm pretty sure we're done after this one.

I feel bad because I always wanted to be one of those ladies who enjoy every second and just love being pregnant in general. It's hard to love when dealing with hg and complications related to it. I thought my second would be better and it was but it still kicked my butt.

I loved feeling them move, hiccup, stretch, and hearing their heartbeat, I'll always treasure it. But I'll never be able to say I miss being pregnant. I feel guilty for that.

[Rarity]

Feb 17, 2015 0:36:31 GMT -5 allonsy221b said:

My pregnancies are rough, and while I always thought I'd have 3 I'm pretty sure we're done after this one.

I feel bad because I always wanted to be one of those ladies who enjoy every second and just love being pregnant in general. It's hard to love when dealing with hg and complications related to it. I thought my second would be better and it was but it still kicked my butt.

I loved feeling them move, hiccup, stretch, and hearing their heartbeat, I'll always treasure it. But I'll never be able to say I miss being pregnant. I feel guilty for that.

This is me was well. With DS, I was a pregnancy queen. Text book, easy, beautiful pregnancy. I felt gorgeous and fantastic. I loved and enjoyed every second of it. With this one, it was the complete freaking opposite. I feel horrible that I didnt enjoy it, but I was miserable. I will never be pregnant with this baby again and I do have guilt. I tried to enjoy it, but I just couldn't. And as hard as it was, I do miss it and grieved as the end drew near. I also feel I didn't get "closure" and go to 40 weeks. I felt like "surprise" it's over at 38.

[modernfairytale8709]

I definitely felt this way right before my (failed) induction two weeks ago. In my head, I was prepared to be pregnant for another month, and suddenly I was being induced in mere hours. I loved pregnancy; it was a time in my life unlike any other. I felt beautiful and womanly every single day.
Now that she's finally here, and my tummy is doughy and my boobs are leaking, I can't imagine anything else. But I do miss feeling her move on the inside.

[boxerrrmama85]

I was definitely ready (as we all are) for my outside baby, but it really hit me when I was driving to the grocery store and was truly ALONE in the car-- I use to talk to LO and sing in the car and it was just an odd feeling knowing that I was alone. Also the fact that I had to relinquish control and allow others to care for her was difficult because that had been my sole responsibility.