Monday Monday

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How's everyone's Monday going so far?

[macaronmama]

Sleep-deprived chaos. First day dropping off DS at daycare. I asked DH to help me out, but he woke up late and couldn't find his work ID to swipe into his building, so we barely made it out the door (without his ID) and only because I prepped almost everything for me and the baby the night before. DS is still in the middle of his 4mo growth spurt so lots of fussy wakeups last night. I haven't cried yet only because I'm dead exhausted. ;_;

I did forget all my winter accessories so walking across campus this morning for work with 25mph wind was a b*tch.

[jwinct]

Our town has yet another school delay, so I'm still home with my girls. They're starting to get on each other's nerves, which means they're getting on my nerves, so I'm glad the bus will be here in a half hour.

[becole]

I can't believe that I've been able to get out the door. So far it's been chaotic but not impossible. I bring the baby into bed and nurse and he falls asleep. Then I get dressed. H gets up before me and gets himself ready and the cars packed and then gets the oldest up and dressed and in the car. Once the oldest is in the car watching his iPad- he's good and out of the way. So then I can finish with the baby and we head out. So far it's only taking about an hour.
I also have enough pump parts for every day of the week so I take all of them on Monday after dishwashing over the weekend and then I only have to deal with the dirties. I also pack enough diapers, extra clothes, coats for the week and take it all on Monday. Sunday nap time is when I prep is all. It also helps to
Lay out clothes. It almost helps that only two pairs of pants fit me right now. Not a whole lot of choice.

[hikingmama222]

macaronmama Sorry for the rough night and morning.

Still in bed feeding DS. DD is still asleep.

Library/babywearing meeting this morning. Preschool for DD this afternoon and dance tonight.

Anyone brought their babies to the chiropractor? DH and I are going this afternoon and thinking of having DS checked out.

[macaronmama]

jwinct, sorry for the delay, but yay that it wasn't cancelled completely?
becole I was telling DH that if anything, having a baby is gonna make us more organized. Hopefully DH will keep track of all his personal stuff now instead running around going, "Where's my wallet?!"
hikingmama222 Not here - just curious, what is the purpose of taking LO to the chiropractor? Or benefit, I guess?


Quick rant, feel free to ignore::

DH and I had to have a conversation about sex last night. As in, no, I'm not initiating more because sorry, I just don't feel the need for it. I'm happy to DTD when he asks for the most part, as it's stopped hurting as much, but I'm tired and it's not really on my radar with nursing, lack of sleep, and my PPD. He said, "But it's been four months." I kinda wanted to scream into a pillow because I told him before we got pregnant even and multiple times throughout the pregnancy that sex was probably going to be off the table for the most part for awhile.

Then he got grumpy proceeded to write off having a sex life for the next five years. I mean, WTF?! Yeah, right now we're new parents and I'm still hormonal, so it's gonna be sparse for awhile and not exciting. Sorry. But to say you're giving up on it for the next few years? I don't even know what to say to him at this point because it seems like he just wants to be grumpy and butt hurt about it.

[hikingmama222]

macaronmama I've heard it can help babies that had rough deliveries (mine was so fast it falls under that category), shallow latch (he has, although not causing me pain, he's kinda lazy and relies on my letdown, so freedings are really short but frequent) and other things. Hoping it "might" improve his sleep a bit. It's just so bad I'm desperate to try a few things.

[becole]

hikingmama222. I think it's a "can't hurt" situation with the chiro. I took baby the first month and they got all his squished womb stuff a little less stuck. His jaw especially.

[hikingmama222]

Feb 13, 2017 10:21:52 GMT -5 becole said:

hikingmama222. I think it's a "can't hurt" situation with the chiro. I took baby the first month and they got all his squished womb stuff a little less stuck. His jaw especially.

This was my thinking "can't hurt". And it's convered by our insurance, so might as well try.

[becole]

macaronmama my H has a drawer where he gets dressed and undressed and that's where his wallet keys watch belt- all in the same drawer.
Yes they force you to organize and also to play as a team.

I will tell you also that re: sex and relationships- the first year after a baby is hard. This second time is easier because it's less of an upheaval of our lives. I think the men think that it's like- oh she's not pregnant and the 6 weeks is up so let's go! But really we are different people now. We are different humans with children and we will not be the same. I know I prioritize sleep over sex. Sorry H. But he pretty much knows that until sleep is happening, the sex is going to be on the back burner. I also feel very icky about breasts when nursing. He knows that they're off limits and honestly, even once I'm done nursing, they will probably still be a bit off limits for a while. It's just not easy to adjust your mindset from completely asexual to completely sexual.

[becole]

Feb 13, 2017 10:23:33 GMT -5 hikingmama222 said:

Feb 13, 2017 10:21:52 GMT -5 becole said:

hikingmama222. I think it's a "can't hurt" situation with the chiro. I took baby the first month and they got all his squished womb stuff a little less stuck. His jaw especially.

This was my thinking "can't hurt". And it's convered by our insurance, so might as well try.

Chiros will tell you they can cure reflux. Idk. I would try anything though.

[iwantbacon]

Today is DS1's birthday! The time has gone by so quickly. In fact, it went by so quickly that I forgot how difficult babies can be--so needy! And adorable and wonderful, but man did we get spoiled with a preschooler that grows more self-sufficient by the day. And also sleeps. I miss sleep.

[britta]

I took both boys to school today and have declared a mental health day for myself. After drop off I went grocery shopping, then made a Target run. I even got my car washed on the way homeI'm enjoying lunch and then am going to take the dog for a long ass walk. It's sunny and mild, so that's helping my mood tremendously. I need a vacation from everyone.

Re: chirpractors...am team can't hurt to try, but I will say, some chiropractors are very...strange to me. MH went to a work conference in Orlando a couple years ago and there was a chiropractic conference going there as well. We were in the hot tub one night and got to talking to some of the people attending that conference. It was all cool till they started claiming vaccines were awful and that most modern day chronic diseases could be avoided and "cured" with regular adjusting. We were very 😒 And LOLing that H was there for a cardiovascular conference...you know, heart surgery and stuff. We probably should just be sending all our patients to chiropractors. I guess. 😳🙄

Re: sex...meh, kids (especially infants and multiple kids) are hard on me, but they're hard on him too. He's an awesome dad and works really hard for us, the least I can do is give it up when he asks. I do tell him when he's interested to start making his way up to the bedroom early. Hell no to giving it up when we just crawling in bed for the night at 10pm. Newp. I'm going to sleep. If you want some, you better start directing things towards bed at like....8:30.....

[britta]

Happy birthday to DS iwantbacon!!

[smallpotato]

I am off from work today because it's a state holiday. We brought the boys to the pedi for G's 4 month appointment and to talk about N. The pedi is referring us to the Child Study Center affiliated with the hospital the boys were born at for an evaluation. She said it could be something or could be nothing, but better to get it checked out if we have concerned. We're taking a ride up to Gillette Stadium later. We're going to check out the Patriots museum there and wander around. I'm speaking at an accepted student event for our alma mater at one of the hotels there. It will be a long day but should be fun.

[ksyknelvr73]

I took an impromptu vacation day - I was SO TIRED from the weekend (girls trip) and I am really behind on stuff around the house, mostly laundry. Also, I need to get everything put together for the Valentine's gifts for my kiddos and also DS1's birthday gifts.

I was talking to DS1 this morning about how today is his last day as a 5 year old and he was just grinning from ear to ear! I'm excited FOR him but I am also wondering where the time has gone. Facebook keeps popping up with memories from when I had him and then also his prior birthday parties and I just can't believe how much of a little boy he is now.

[ksyknelvr73]

Feb 13, 2017 11:32:13 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

Today is DS1's birthday! The time has gone by so quickly. In fact, it went by so quickly that I forgot how difficult babies can be--so needy! And adorable and wonderful, but man did we get spoiled with a preschooler that grows more self-sufficient by the day. And also sleeps. I miss sleep.

Happy birthday little guy! How old is he today? My DS1 turns 6 tomorrow. I was thinking the same thing about time going by so quickly. It's amazing and wonderful but also a little bittersweet. Are you guys doing anything special?

[ksyknelvr73]

macaronmama is your O16 baby your first? I feel like there is a HUGE adjustment, especially after the first kid in regards to not only sex life (I mean let's be real there is a huge adjustment with each kid) but also just your relationship with your H. EVERYTHING changes and it's hard. For us personally, that first year after having a baby is a struggle and we fight a lot and we're always tired and per DH there is never enough sex. At this point, we just kind of accept it. Life will be crazy for a bit - but the quicker he can understand that, and also try to remember that a "new normal" will set in - the better. We've had sex 3 times since DD was born and every single time I have dreaded it and tried to put it off. DH is trying to be patient because he knows how this goes, but he gets frustrated for sure. I keep telling him that things will get better and it will be more frequent later, but right now it's just not. I think because we've been through it before he knows it's true so he doesn't fight me as much on it.

[Deleted]

Happy birthday to your ds iwantbacon.

macaronmama, there are apparently a multitude of issues that can be dealt with through chiros. I have never taken the kids but theres one in town who specializes in infants.

AFM, we went downtown. Walked around, bought spring stuff for the kids. Not much else planned for the day.

[sanibel21]

Happy birthdays to DS's of iwantbacon and @ksyknelvr!!
DH luckily is very patient about the sex thing. I need to be atleast somewhat into it, and I'm just not when I'm sleep deprived or have had a day being particularly run ragged by kids.
I've heard the lists of things chiros claim to cure. I went myself once for my knee. They said I was out of alignment and needed adjustments. I got them but it didn't help my knee any. I don't have any experience with my own kids. But know some people who say they've had success with their kids. I'm skeptical.
We ventured out to get DD1s valentine's for her preschool party tomorrow. She has had two days of no tears and she's been talking about how much she likes it and misses it. If she goes well tomorrow, I'll feel like we're over the hump. And that makes me so happy.
LO got formula a couple times yesterday and did not break out into a rash, so we gave it at bedtime and she slept better. Woke at 3 instead of the most recently added 1145 wake up. She wasn't crying so I gave her the binky and she went back down immediately until 630. My supply is crap in the evening, so I'm suspecting she's waking partially from the 4 month sleep regression, but wasn't going down without nursing because she realized she was hungry. So hopefully this continues to help.
No plans this afternoon. I may try to get something fancier than chicken nuggets or frozen pizza ready for dinner.

[britta]

sanibel21 happy to hear preschool is going well!! She'll love her party.
@holachica see??? That's what I'm talking about. I can't deal with that.

[iwantbacon]

Feb 13, 2017 12:53:12 GMT -5 ksyknelvr73 said:

Feb 13, 2017 11:32:13 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

Today is DS1's birthday! The time has gone by so quickly. In fact, it went by so quickly that I forgot how difficult babies can be--so needy! And adorable and wonderful, but man did we get spoiled with a preschooler that grows more self-sufficient by the day. And also sleeps. I miss sleep.

Happy birthday little guy! How old is he today? My DS1 turns 6 tomorrow. I was thinking the same thing about time going by so quickly. It's amazing and wonderful but also a little bittersweet. Are you guys doing anything special?

He's 4! And he almost shared a birthday with your oldest--missed it by an hour and a half. Nothing too special--I got him a dinosaur "4" shirt and he opened one present before daycare. Later, we're having waffles for dinner (his choice) and having cake (that we picked out from the store because I was too burned out to make one). I think I may head out early to buy him a balloon or two as well.

Any fun plans for your DS1 tomorrow?

[ksyknelvr73]

iwantbacon that sounds like a perfect day for a 4 year old! I realllllly loved age 4 for DS1.

We are letting DS1 pick dinner for tomorrow as well - we will probably pick something up since there's no way we can probably even get into a restaurant. We are also letting him pick a cake. We will let him open his gifts tomorrow evening as well. I am letting the morning be Valentine's Day focused - I got them cards and candy. I should get a balloon too - it's amazing how excited kids get about them so it's a simple and cheap way to add something else!

[penguin129]

Happy Birthday to your kiddos iwantbacon and ksyknelvr73!

macaronmama I'm with the ladies who need DTD to happen early or not at all. Mr. P is a night owl and will come to bed past 1 in the morning sometimes. I gave into him once or twice and wasn't able to sleep after so now if he doesn't come in early it doesn't happen.

[saraml13]

macaronmama, +1 to team no sex drive. I'm actually finding it worse the second time around. Now that I have both a baby and a toddler who wants to climb all over me, I'm feeling super touched out. Plus DH usually comes upstairs past the time I want to be asleep. And I'm generally annoyed at him at his lack of proactive helping around the house. So yeah, DTD is not at the top of my list right now.

[Deleted]

We've DTD a couple of times. I try for once a week at least to keep DH happy. He wants more but that's all I can handle right now.
Ever since DS was born, I've just not felt it. Plus has anyone else noticed their nipples aren't super sensitive anymore? No amount of stimulation does anything for me, much to the displeasure of DH.

[hikingmama222]

I really like my chiro and he works with a lot of babies. He's never mentioned any of the crazy cookoo ideas some chiros push. He doesn't push set schedules either, we just go when we feel we need it. We'll see, I'm not counting on it improving anything with DS, but can't hurt to try.

As for sex, we're actually doing it more often than we did after DD was born. We take advantage of afternoon naps. We go to bed really early so it never happens before bed! I think the fact that I'm only on the mini pill is helping my libido, it's pretty much non existent on the combo pill. The fact that my boobs are always on display breastfeeding really turns DH on. Haha.

[becole]

Finding the right chiro is like finding the right therapist. You can't just go to anyone- it's gotta be a good fit. I went to one that is crazy and one not. Both were good and provided different things. But one definitely helped my body feel better.

[fem]

O now has RSV. Pretty sure my toddler gave it to her even though she just had mild cold symptoms. This poor girl can't catch a break.

I also got told my mole that was biopsied came back as a dysplastic nevus (atypical mole). Not a huge deal in itself, they do have to cut a little more out because it's slightly more likely to eventually turn into cancer. The diagnosis also ups my risk of getting melanoma at some point, though I figured this already being pale and having lots of moles. Normally this would be NBD but after losing my Mom to cancer I'm spiraling a bit.


Also team touched out and sleep>sex at this point

[britta]

Oh fem, hugs on both.