Monday Monday

[erien22846]

fem. Wow, rough Monday. Hugs.

[erien22846]

I'm also unexpectedly home today, but I have a stomach bug. Mild so far but laying on the couch is all I can muster right now. Good thing we made all Valentine's and party treats this weekend so I don't have to parent tonight. I also promised DS1 TV tonight so this is working out nicely.

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fem so sorry. But I feel you on worrying about melanoma. Not so much for me but for DS. I don't know if Ive ever shared here but he has a macro melanocytic congenital nevus. PDQ

[fem]

@snuff9861 that would be so hard to worry about it for your LO. In my Dr. Google spiral today I did read about that kind. One more thing to add to your list of Mommy worries.

DD1 is also a redhead with very fair skin so I try to be extra careful with her skin exposure.

[fem]

Feb 13, 2017 17:45:48 GMT -5 erien22846 said:

I'm also unexpectedly home today, but I have a stomach bug. Mild so far but laying on the couch is all I can muster right now. Good thing we made all Valentine's and party treats this weekend so I don't have to parent tonight. I also promised DS1 TV tonight so this is working out nicely.

When my in laws had it they only got sick a few times but said it took them a few days to get all the way over the wiped out feeling.

[sanibel21]

fem hugs on all accounts.
@snuff9861 that is so sad, it would cause me some anxiety too.

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Feb 13, 2017 20:11:25 GMT -5 sanibel21 said:

fem hugs on all accounts.
@snuff9861 that is so sad, it would cause me some anxiety too.

Thanks. I try not to dwell on it or google too much. He's seen by a specialist once a year and we try to keep an eye o it. Limit sun exposure etc. I'm concerned with the effects it will have on his social life. Theres nothing I can do about the cancer, it's going to happen if it's going to happen.

[hikingmama222]

Hugs fem and @snuff9861
Hope you feel better erien22846

Chiro went well. He just adjusted a few spots on his mid back and bum. Neck and jaw were perfect. Said no need to come back unless there is something wrong or something happens.

[smallpotato]

Hugs to you fem and @snuff9861. MH had a basal cell carcinoma removed a few months before our wedding. So scary.

Hope you feel better soon erien22846. The stomach bug is the worst.

We had a great afternoon. N loved the museum; they had a setup where you could try to kick the winning field goal from the Snow Bowl game in 2002. N said kicking goals was his favorite part. We grabbed an early dinner before the event, and the boys went to Bass Pro shoo while I was at the event. I didn't have to speak which made me happy. Both boys are asleep and will hopefully just transfer to bed when we get home. I'll have to pump since G got two bottles while we were out.

[penguin129]

Hugs to you both fem and @snuff9861.

Feel better soon erien22846.

[becole]

Sorry about the rsv fem. we are still dealing with the bronchiolitis at 2+ weeks. It was mild for us though comparatively. I hope it is for your babe as well.

Also about the skin- I also just had a biopsy done and I have to go back feb 28 to have it removed. It's a spitz nevus which I guess means it looks like melanoma but it's not. They remove it so that I don't get misdiagnosed or re diagnosed and biopsied if it comes back. All skin things are so scary. So so scary. Ladies get a skin check. Melanoma has a 98% survival rate if it's caught before it spreads to another part of your body. If it spreads, it's a 17% survival rate.

[jillian]

@snuff9861, I was born with one as well. I never knew it had an actual name. It was always just a birthmark to me. It covered almost my entire right calf from knee to ankle. Since it was localized, my ped recommended having it removed to prevent cancer later in life. It took 3 surgeries over the course of 18 months to fully remove it. I have a fairly decent sized scar on my leg now, but obviously it was worth it. It was the first thing I checked for on DD when she was born. Not fingers and toes, birthmarks. Its scary, but hopefully your LO wont have any long term issues.

But as someone who also has other very noticeable skin issues that made me self conscious growing up, just remind LO as he grows up that he is super special because he was chosen to have that birthmark. If he is confident about it, when people look or question him, its a good way to educate other people. I have found that most people look or stare because they are interested. Its a nice ice breaker.

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Feb 14, 2017 9:35:05 GMT -5 jillian said:

@snuff9861, I was born with one as well. I never knew it had an actual name. It was always just a birthmark to me. It covered almost my entire right calf from knee to ankle. Since it was localized, my ped recommended having it removed to prevent cancer later in life. It took 3 surgeries over the course of 18 months to fully remove it. I have a fairly decent sized scar on my leg now, but obviously it was worth it. It was the first thing I checked for on DD when she was born. Not fingers and toes, birthmarks. Its scary, but hopefully your LO wont have any long term issues.

But as someone who also has other very noticeable skin issues that made me self conscious growing up, just remind LO as he grows up that he is super special because he was chosen to have that birthmark. If he is confident about it, when people look or question him, its a good way to educate other people. I have found that most people look or stare because they are interested. Its a nice ice breaker.

When he was a baby we discussed surgery. But his is SO large it would leave a horrendous scar. And its over his spine. Also there's a decent chance they wouldn't be able to get it all due to the probable depth, thereby not eliminating the threat of cancer.

[jillian]

Feb 14, 2017 9:45:40 GMT -5 @snuff9861 said:

Feb 14, 2017 9:35:05 GMT -5 jillian said:

@snuff9861 , I was born with one as well. I never knew it had an actual name. It was always just a birthmark to me. It covered almost my entire right calf from knee to ankle. Since it was localized, my ped recommended having it removed to prevent cancer later in life. It took 3 surgeries over the course of 18 months to fully remove it. I have a fairly decent sized scar on my leg now, but obviously it was worth it. It was the first thing I checked for on DD when she was born. Not fingers and toes, birthmarks. Its scary, but hopefully your LO wont have any long term issues.

But as someone who also has other very noticeable skin issues that made me self conscious growing up, just remind LO as he grows up that he is super special because he was chosen to have that birthmark. If he is confident about it, when people look or question him, its a good way to educate other people. I have found that most people look or stare because they are interested. Its a nice ice breaker.

When he was a baby we discussed surgery. But his is SO large it would leave a horrendous scar. And its over his spine. Also there's a decent chance they wouldn't be able to get it all due to the probable depth, thereby not eliminating the threat of cancer.

Yeah his is way too big. Its not worth it. Mine was pretty big, that's why they had to do 3 different surgeries. They needed it to heal and grow more skin to help close it when the next surgery came around. But on his spine like that? I would take my chances too. Just help him embrace his special difference and hope for the best. Maybe as he gets older and has more accessible skin in the area it might be an option. If anything, thankfully he's a boy. Those kinds of things are considered cool for boys.

[ksyknelvr73]

Hugs fem and @snuff9861

[becole]

Feb 14, 2017 10:01:50 GMT -5 jillian said:

Feb 14, 2017 9:45:40 GMT -5 @snuff9861 said:

When he was a baby we discussed surgery. But his is SO large it would leave a horrendous scar. And its over his spine. Also there's a decent chance they wouldn't be able to get it all due to the probable depth, thereby not eliminating the threat of cancer.

Yeah his is way too big. Its not worth it. Mine was pretty big, that's why they had to do 3 different surgeries. They needed it to heal and grow more skin to help close it when the next surgery came around. But on his spine like that? I would take my chances too. Just help him embrace his special difference and hope for the best. Maybe as he gets older and has more accessible skin in the area it might be an option. If anything, thankfully he's a boy. Those kinds of things are considered cool for boys.

Plus the location is hidden to where it won't be a discussion unless he's swimming and even then he can wear a rash guard and trunks as most boys do.

[macaronmama]

Catching up from early week crazies.

fem, @snuff9861, hugs all around for your kids.

I agree with becole, get your skin checked ladies! I'm blessed with a darker skin tone and that I've rarely ever gotten sunburn in my life, but I was a life guard for years. Despite all the sunscreen, you can still get cancer. Definitely worth it.

And thanks for the commiseration on the sex lives here. It helps to remind myself I'm not crazy or selfish or doomed for all eternity to not be intimate with DH. He's been moping around like a dog without his bone hardcore since the weekend and it's been a serious drain. So much so I'm wondering if we'll be one-and-done in terms of bio-kids.

[becole]

macaronmama my husband was a lunatic the first 6 months of DS. It was almost harder on him than me and I was the one going through all the physical changes as well. I think pregnancy helps a woman mentally prepare but for men they kind of put it aside like nothing is happening and then bam- the baby is here and they're finally processing that life is different.
I'm actually sorry you don't have a whole lot of other FtMs on this board to commiserate with because it's an important distinction. The second is so much more "business as usual" just with less sleep and more mouths to feed. The first was an upheaval.

[vavavictoria]

Feb 15, 2017 9:30:22 GMT -5 becole said:

macaronmama my husband was a lunatic the first 6 months of DS. It was almost harder on him than me and I was the one going through all the physical changes as well. I think pregnancy helps a woman mentally prepare but for men they kind of put it aside like nothing is happening and then bam- the baby is here and they're finally processing that life is different.
I'm actually sorry you don't have a whole lot of other FtMs on this board to commiserate with because it's an important distinction. The second is so much more "business as usual" just with less sleep and more mouths to feed. The first was an upheaval.

This is so so so true. I remember being upset all the time the first time around bc of how H was acting. He was more stressful to me than our colicky baby. He couldn't handle the crying and wouldn't talk about being upset or admit to being angsty but would radiate anxiety and anger all the time. It was so stressful. Second time around we have had almost zero issues.