Hey, Thursday...

[britta]

I'm so uninformed. What was the press conference about?

[britta]

Feb 16, 2017 14:34:04 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Feb 16, 2017 14:30:47 GMT -5 britta said:

I'm so uninformed. What was the press conference about?

fake news. The press is made up of liars, except fox news. He wants to make a deal with Russia, but no, he has no business dealings or outside contact with Russia. He's going to make a new executive order about immigration. He wants to up military spending. Chicago is a war zone and he's going to "fix" it.

Eta- he won the most electoral votes since Reagan (which is.... not true). He's better at being president than Hillary would be. The wall we're building is going to be "great." Oh and he legit yelled at reporters to sit down and stop talking.

WTAF.

[britta]

Excuse my PWing today....

Our daycare director finally got back to me. They are able to accommodate both boys going FT, she just needs to know the effective date. Praise be! What a relief!!

[sanibel21]

Feb 16, 2017 14:00:46 GMT -5 britta said:

sanibel21 what book?

123Magic.

[fem]

Well she wasn't worried about my toe, said it looked like injury. I liked her so much better than the place I go I'm switching all my stuff over to her. She'll look at my pathology report and get back to me on how often I need to do checkups. I'm trying not to focus on the part where she said I am more at risk due to the number of moles and how they look. But she checked everyone and said they all looked fine now.

So I'm mostly relieved but it will take my anxiety a while to catch up to that.

[adouces06]

Feb 16, 2017 15:04:17 GMT -5 sanibel21 said:

Feb 16, 2017 14:00:46 GMT -5 britta said:

sanibel21 what book?

123Magic.

My mom used that on me as a kid. I was a tough kid and it worked great, so I plan on implementing it for DS.

[smallpotato]

sanibel21, our pedi recommended that book to us on Monday for N. I ordered it from Amazon and will hopefully have it on Saturday.

britta, that's fantastic!

[sanibel21]

That's great to know adouces06 and smallpotato! I am a little worried how much it seems to rely on time outs. I've read sensitive kids can get the wrong impression from timeouts so I'm definitely going to try a lot of alternatives. I like the more natural consequences thing. Like if she's throwing a toy take it away. My biggest problem is not getting mad and not using an angry tone of voice. I'm hoping the zoloft will help that lol. I have to get over the worry that if I make her cry by disciplining her that she thinks I don't love her. Lots of my own upbringing stuff I need to work through asap. I have generally been catering to her and hoping she doesn't get upset, then get exhausted and flip out when she inevitably does get upset. Not a good technique in case anyone is curious.

[becole]

sanibel21 at least you recognize that it's not working for you currently.

I read 123 magic but had a hard time applying it.

[saraml13]

Feb 16, 2017 14:02:56 GMT -5 britta said:

Does anyone use or have tried Stitch Fix? I need some serious help in the fashion department. Plus, I have to dress up for work now. 😒 Speaking of that, ladies who have to "dress up" for work....where do you shop? What shoes do you wear?? HALP. Bye bye scrubs, hello dress clothes and white lab coat. 😖

ETA to ask should I make a thread?

I'm kind of meh about Stitch Fix. I got 3 boxes from them. The first one was great, the second one was so-so, and the third one was awful and I returned everything.

I did get a few really good items that I wear a lot and wouldn't have picked out on my own. They are good for additional big some variety to your wardrobe, but I found them not to be great for basics or if you have a specific item in mind. I kept asking for dark dress slacks and they never sent me anything that was right. Instead they would send me leggings or capris, in winter, in Chicago. Maybe my stylist just didn't get me, but I definitely got stuff that really didn't match my style. For example, I described my style as simple / classic and got things like really distressed jeans with big holes in them.

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Feb 16, 2017 14:02:56 GMT -5 britta said:

Does anyone use or have tried Stitch Fix? I need some serious help in the fashion department. Plus, I have to dress up for work now. 😒 Speaking of that, ladies who have to "dress up" for work....where do you shop? What shoes do you wear?? HALP. Bye bye scrubs, hello dress clothes and white lab coat. 😖

ETA to ask should I make a thread?

Scrubs= the only reason I became a nurse

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I also LOVE greek yogurt. It's like soft serve, but acceptable for breakfast.

[becole]

I hate all yogurt. Makes me gag it's so bad.

[saraml13]

re: 123 Magic. I also have a nearly 2.5 year old and read it. There were parts I found helpful but other parts that I don't find applicable to a toddler.

Useful:
1. Recognize that there are 2 categories of behaviors that you are trying to address: Stop behaviors (stop hitting, stop whining, stop jumping on furniture) and Start behaviors (get dressed, eat dinner, clean up toys). Counting and timeouts are effective for Stop behaviors, but are not effective for Start behaviors. For Start behaviors, you need to use other approaches to motivate, such as praising, making it into a game, natural consequences.

2. Don't talk too much. In the midst of discipline, too much talking just distracts from the action/consequence and opens up the door for argument or negotiation. Now when I give DS1 a timeout, I'm very to the point. "Ouch, hitting hurts. You need a timeout to calm down", then carry him up to his room without talking. After a couple minutes I open the door and just say "ok, all done" and 90% of the time he comes and hugs me and says sorry without prompting. DH is bad at this and still tends to lecture a lot, which just upsets DS1 more. Then he'll demand an apology, which makes DS1 dig in his heels and not say sorry.

Less helpful:
The book says it's for ages 2 and up, but I don't think covers the toddler years well. Most of the examples are for older kids. He generally assumes that children know what is wrong and discourages getting into too much discussion of what they did wrong or why it is wrong. I can see how that makes sense for older kids, but I think is too harsh/confusing for toddlers who are still figuring out rules. Also, he doesn't really differentiate between a 5 year old throwing a tantrum because he wants a toy from the store and a 2 year old throwing a tantrum because he is tired. I think those are two very different scenarios that should be handled differently.

[becole]

I hate lularoe.
If you do too, read this article. It's hilarious.
www.scarymommy.com/thats-enough-lularoe/?utm_source=FB

ETA: "Lulanofuckingway do I have time for this fresh hell nonsense"

[vavavictoria]

Feb 16, 2017 11:20:48 GMT -5 jwinct said:

It took me so long to type my last post that I missed some new ones.


jcrewgirl - I'm so glad you have taken these steps to help yourself!

adouces06 - I'm glad the appointment went better than you anticipated. Fx for good results.


My mother has never even put gas in her own car. I think she did it once and it took both she and my grandmother to figure it out - this was a really long time ago. I don't know what she'll do if my dad dies - he does everything for her with regard to the car. I can see her calling my brother, who lives in the same town as her, and asking him to fill up her car. Or just not drive anywhere.

This may be me someday. H always fills up my car for me. His dad does it for his mom. I'm a fan. The first time I had to gas up my new car was about 6 months after I got it and I didn't even know which side the gas was supposed to go on.

[becole]

Feb 16, 2017 21:48:39 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Feb 16, 2017 21:02:45 GMT -5 becole said:

I hate lularoe.
If you do too, read this article. It's hilarious.
www.scarymommy.com/thats-enough-lularoe/?utm_source=FB

ETA: "Lulanofuckingway do I have time for this fresh hell nonsense"

FFFC: I bought some because FOMO.  They are NOT WORTH IT. 

Andplusalso, who has time for synthetic fabric that can't even go in the dryer?!  I hang my wool stuff to dry, but that's wool.  If I'm wearing synthetic stuff I should be able to easily launder it...

Mine fall down. My crotch hangs.

[vavavictoria]

@kitchen love tit bc you made me literally LOL.

But seriously it is tough post partum. When I was 20 something I could think about losing weight and it was gone. Now it takes sooooo much more effort.

[britta]

Feb 17, 2017 17:24:11 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Feb 17, 2017 13:07:31 GMT -5 vavavictoria said:

@kitchen love tit bc you made me literally LOL.

But seriously it is tough post partum. When I was 20 something I could think about losing weight and it was gone. Now it takes sooooo much more effort.

RIGHT? 

Andplusalso I'd give so much right now to look like I did when I thought I was chunky in my early 20s. UGH.

I was just thinking this as I pulled out a bathing suit to wear to the pool tonight. I wish I was as fat as I was when I thought I was "fat."