Post by chrispy1122 on Feb 17, 2017 8:27:32 GMT -5
This week was a total cluster. H was out of town Monday and Tuesday. I had an article that was originally due on Wednesday, but I got a two day extension (the publication only asked me last week to write it, so it's not like I procrastinated a ton). I have all these work assignments piling up as I'm trying to get this article written. I was the office until 9:30 last night getting that sucker done. DCP kids are sick today and even though she said she could watch kids H thought we should keep them home. He is going to WFH today but he forgot his computer at work. So now I'm waiting in the car with the kids so he can grab his computer and I can leave from here to go to work. I think we're doing something wrong because it's not supposed to be this hard!
We were at the old house until the early morning hours today. Living areas are done so that cleaners could come. Still have a couple of loads to come up from the basement. I need a nap and I just got up.
This week was a total cluster. H was out of town Monday and Tuesday. I had an article that was originally due on Wednesday, but I got a two day extension (the publication only asked me last week to write it, so it's not like I procrastinated a ton). I have all these work assignments piling up as I'm trying to get this article written. I was the office until 9:30 last night getting that sucker done. DCP kids are sick today and even though she said she could watch kids H thought we should keep them home. He is going to WFH today but he forgot his computer at work. So now I'm waiting in the car with the kids so he can grab his computer and I can leave from here to go to work. I think we're doing something wrong because it's not supposed to be this hard!
No it's that hard. Yesterday DS1 decided to run away from me on the playground and I already had DS2 and couldn't chase him around. The teacher caught him and drug him inside for me. And then while I was getting DS1s paper, he opened the door and ran back out! So I'm pretty much going to have to pick him up first and then try to get him not to run away while I pick up the second. Toddlers...
Sorry for the rough start chrispy1122 Yes toddlers be crazy. Here's my confession...mil watched N yesterday afternoon, I expected to pick her up later but mil texted and asked if she could spend the night, heck yeah! It was gloriously quiet in our house, we even went out to a quiet dinner with just the baby. So I guess I'm saying I didn't really miss her last night. She's so high energy and always talking, crying & whining. The baby is so easy in comparison.
Sorry for the rough start chrispy1122 Yes toddlers be crazy. Here's my confession...mil watched N yesterday afternoon, I expected to pick her up later but mil texted and asked if she could spend the night, heck yeah! It was gloriously quiet in our house, we even went out to a quiet dinner with just the baby. So I guess I'm saying I didn't really miss her last night. She's so high energy and always talking, crying & whining. The baby is so easy in comparison.
I've been meaning to ask you all a wwyd. Each month our church has free babysitting for a few hours. DS1 goes because he knows the teacher and kids and has a great time- they get out bouncy houses and pool noodles and they play basketball, eat pizza, and give them a candy. My mil is coming tomorrow on the church date night. Her sister is coming with her (Hs aunt.) H basically said to her, well you can leave by 5 and DS1 will go to the church thing or you can stay and watch DS1. MIL asks "well can't I watch the baby too?" Now... y'all know I don't like her watching the baby. I'm trying to balance being a biatch and doing the right thing. I would rather take the baby with us on our date, which is what we do with church. I don't leave the baby at church nursery or the date nights because I'd rather have the time with him and not have to pump. I think it would be a lot for them to handle both- especially with two bed times. I don't want to pump or waste milk for daycare. I don't want to spiteful/ mean/ hurt MiLs feelings. Halp.
becole if it was my mil I would let her watch the baby. But I know you have a history with your mil being crazy and I get that it would be easier to not have to pump. But since it's just one night I would probably leave the baby with her bc I think it would hurt her feelings-if it was my mil at least.
Even if it didn't truly hurt her feelings I think she would use it as a butt hurt thing. She likes to play victim even when there's been no intent to harm.
ETA: however the baby doesn't really know her either and while he's taking a bottle at daycare, no one else has tried. So Idk even know... if I left the baby too I would want togo to the movies. But I would be nervous about baby taking the bottle.
Even if it didn't truly hurt her feelings I think she would use it as a butt hurt thing. She likes to play victim even when there's been no intent to harm.
ETA: however the baby doesn't really know her either and while he's taking a bottle at daycare, no one else has tried. So Idk even know... if I left the baby too I would want togo to the movies. But I would be nervous about baby taking the bottle.
Yeah I think she would hold it against you, guess you have to decide if you care or not if she's butt hurt. If you go, I wouldn't worry about the bottle--I would just keep your phone on you and be prepared to go right back home if there is an issue with it, guess you won't know until you try.
Even if it didn't truly hurt her feelings I think she would use it as a butt hurt thing. She likes to play victim even when there's been no intent to harm.
ETA: however the baby doesn't really know her either and while he's taking a bottle at daycare, no one else has tried. So Idk even know... if I left the baby too I would want togo to the movies. But I would be nervous about baby taking the bottle.
Yeah I think she would hold it against you, guess you have to decide if you care or not if she's butt hurt. If you go, I wouldn't worry about the bottle--I would just keep your phone on you and be prepared to go right back home if there is an issue with it, guess you won't know until you try.
I probably would leave them both if it was my mom. So I'm trying to treat her more equally. But she's proven in the past that she disregards bed time, food requests, bottle amounts, etc...
Yeah I think she would hold it against you, guess you have to decide if you care or not if she's butt hurt. If you go, I wouldn't worry about the bottle--I would just keep your phone on you and be prepared to go right back home if there is an issue with it, guess you won't know until you try.
I probably would leave them both if it was my mom. So I'm trying to treat her more equally. But she's proven in the past that she disregards bed time, food requests, bottle amounts, etc...
Have you ever addressed those issues with her? I agree with my family we just leave but H mom gives me pause and I've had H address my concerns and she's gotten better.
In this case I'd try it but H would need to tell her to listen or never again.
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on Feb 17, 2017 10:35:57 GMT -5
I need suggestions for men's jeans. H has always liked Old Navy jeans but in the past month 2 different pairs (less than 6mo old) have ripped in the crotch. He sits at a desk all day so it's not like he's super hard on them. So what do your H's wear that hold up well?
I probably would leave them both if it was my mom. So I'm trying to treat her more equally. But she's proven in the past that she disregards bed time, food requests, bottle amounts, etc...
Have you ever addressed those issues with her? I agree with my family we just leave but H mom gives me pause and I've had H address my concerns and she's gotten better.
In this case I'd try it but H would need to tell her to listen or never again.
We had many issues where she disregarded Hs conversations with her and just thought she could do whatever she wanted. She sent a nasty email basically saying "you telling me how to take care of your child when you leave him with me is offensive because I had children and I know what I'm doing." That was the gist but she was super rude and we didn't talk to her for a couple months and she's not watched either by herself since that email.
I was team "she leaves at 5 and DS goes to church. " But I'm also not trying to be totally unfair.
I need suggestions for men's jeans. H has always liked Old Navy jeans but in the past month 2 different pairs (less than 6mo old) have ripped in the crotch. He sits at a desk all day so it's not like he's super hard on them. So what do your H's wear that hold up well?
My H gets banana republic jeans at the outlet. They're usually dressier looking though. They hold up well.
Post by mominthemaking14 on Feb 17, 2017 10:45:40 GMT -5
becole I missed that completely based on that you've tried I'd go with your gut. If she's not taking directions and feedback that's not ok. I'd take DS1 to church and consider DS2 staying with her since babies are more "forgiving" but based on her being so open to feedback no one would fault you for not leaving them.
I need suggestions for men's jeans. H has always liked Old Navy jeans but in the past month 2 different pairs (less than 6mo old) have ripped in the crotch. He sits at a desk all day so it's not like he's super hard on them. So what do your H's wear that hold up well?
Wranglers - $19.99 at Target and they're even cheaper when they run Cartwheel deals.
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