Oh I just realized I had a UO today. I am not a fan of the co-sleeping thing. Whether in bed or the same room. Naps are ok I think but it just doesn't seem right to me. When we had MD she slept in her room on her own from day one. I am proud of her. But it also helped us to setup a routine.
My first kid did too but it turns out sleeping in the same room as your child is recommended for the first 6 months to prevent SIDS. With DS, I did for about 2 months. I do it again, I will 100% cosleep for the recommended time frame.
The less my kid farts and grunts is directly related to how long they can stay in my room
Post by roseinbloom on Feb 23, 2017 17:49:01 GMT -5
I am never going to get through this thread. So here are my food-inspired [edit: uo] from page 30:
1. I won't eat sweetened Cheerios or popcorn. 2. Cookies should be soft, not hard 3. I love trisciuts (with a slice of avocado is best) and my favorite are rosemary. 4. Would rather eat reheated leftovers for breakfast than cereal, pancakes, waffles, omletes, or fruit salad.
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"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
ghostmonkey TCF Overlord- I'm pretty much unbannable
And kudos for having an easygoing baby? Mine both craved high levels of attachment to me in the beginning.
I guess I mean to say I think it fosters more codependence and doesn't let them learn to be a little independent. Maybe MD is just an easy going one. Although she is very independent she can be clingy when she wants to be. MW can tell you all about that though. When I am home she likes to climb on me because she doesn't see me a lot during the week.
@juliagulia Sorry can't see pictures
zombiewasabi Funny part is it wasn't that bad. She was 2 rooms away and most of the time she had good lengths between wake ups.
theophania I would but I don't think I would have a dog in one part of that fight. LOL
I couldn't care less about cute nicknames. The only problem with using first initials instead of DH, DS, etc is that it's not always clear from context which family member you mean.
yes if they use k w and l in a story
I have to write it down to try to keep track of which is the kid, dad, uncle whatever.
We turned off the monitor on either the first or second night because he was so noisy. But then I ended up sleeping in the twin bed in his room for six months, with him usually in the crib. Not because of the SIDS recommendation; that hadn't come out yet.
My first kid did too but it turns out sleeping in the same room as your child is recommended for the first 6 months to prevent SIDS. With DS, I did for about 2 months. I do it again, I will 100% cosleep for the recommended time frame.
The less my kid farts and grunts is directly related to how long they can stay in my room
My other UO for the day: I love the smell of beer brewing.
This brought to you by St. Louis, where he majority of the city often smells of hoppy brewery goodness.
OMG you are so wrong. Especially when it's hot out and the whole downtown smells of canned green beans left to boil in a cheap aluminum pot and all the water has evaporated.
This is very descriptive. I see you have feels about the smell of hopps.
It's not, it just seems to be the first option. Which IRL I feel like there are a lot of logical steps between problem and counseling to solve it. Not to mention it costs time and money, which speaks to privilege and access, which not everyone has.
Yeah I said the same.
It costs money, sometimes lots of it.
And to be effective counseling needs to go on long term.
and finding a GOOD counselor is not as easy as people think.
I guess I mean to say I think it fosters more codependence and doesn't let them learn to be a little independent. Maybe MD is just an easy going one. Although she is very independent she can be clingy when she wants to be. MW can tell you all about that though. When I am home she likes to climb on me because she doesn't see me a lot during the week.
@juliagulia Sorry can't see pictures
zombiewasabi Funny part is it wasn't that bad. She was 2 rooms away and most of the time she had good lengths between wake ups.
theophania I would but I don't think I would have a dog in one part of that fight. LOL
Science says you are wrong.
I probably am. I am going to stop it here. I am not a scientist.
It's not, it just seems to be the first option. Which IRL I feel like there are a lot of logical steps between problem and counseling to solve it. Not to mention it costs time and money, which speaks to privilege and access, which not everyone has.
I generally only suggest it when it's clear from the poster other solutions have been tried. Or when they are so deep into anxiety/depression, it seems clear it would help.
And to Amy because I sincerely think there's shit to unpack there.
Post by Cherhorowitz on Feb 23, 2017 17:58:29 GMT -5
I don't care where your kid sleeps. I will side eye when people cosleep and then complain that everyone is up all night and no one can sleep. But if everyone's happy in a bed together, I'm happy for you. I don't think you're doing your kid some disservice.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
And honestly, everyone should be in therapy and it should be accessible to all.
Sincerely.
Maybe, but it's not. For me, it's overwhelming to think about scheduling that into my life and taking the time off of work to accommodate it or taking time away from my limited family time. But that's more on me, not therapy's fault.
Like everyone doesn't have food in our country.
wanting to have therapy for everyone is OTT
but saying everyone should be in therapy is a bit much.
I really don't think everyone needs to be in therapy.
Post by saltypearl on Feb 23, 2017 18:02:27 GMT -5
BF says you don't realize the shit you pulled on your parents till you have children of your own. I am still waiting. The shit I dished to my parents are nothing compared to what they and she continue to dish to me.
Maybe, but it's not. For me, it's overwhelming to think about scheduling that into my life and taking the time off of work to accommodate it or taking time away from my limited family time. But that's more on me, not therapy's fault.
Like everyone doesn't have food in our country.
wanting to have therapy for everyone is OTT
but saying everyone should be in therapy is a bit much.
I really don't think everyone needs to be in therapy.
I dont think everyone having access to mental health services is ott at all. Just bc some people don't have access to adequate food doesn't mean we should stop trying to get everyone access to adequate mental health care
Your right. It isn't. Not since a month ago at least. Everything before 2000 years ago never happened. Some people lived and then "HE" came and dictated which hole people can poop in, told you to love thy neighbor but not "Love" they neighbor, don't lie (unless you are in charge of the press) and make sure those having babies whether wanted or not have those babies.
Also, MH went back to work in pretty much 48 hours after the birth of our kid. He started traveling within weeks. I don't have family in the state. It isn't as overwhelming as you think. It allowed me to find a nice rhythm with things and keep my own schedule. It sounds scary now, but I promise it's doable. Just sleep when the baby sleeps and if that's at 2 in the afternoon, there's no shame in that.
Same. MH travels all week for work. Back when Kid 1 was a fresh newborn, he was traveling internationally. So I coukdvt even text him in the same time zone sometimes. It was really hard and I hated not having someone to tag out with at night since I'd been on duty all day. No helpful family around. I survived. I found my groove, I got more confident. I developed a routine with my kids (now nearly 6yrs and 3.5yrs). We are okay. You will be, too, @akrauss2015.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
RE "solo parenting"...MH just told me that he has to go to a work conference for a week in September, when our baby will be approximately 7 weeks old and I AM TERRIFIED.
I mean, I figured I'd have to be alone with him for an extended period of time at some point, but right away?! I'm having all the anxiety attacks about it already.
Late, but my H had to go on a three week work trip when we had a 7week old and a not quite 3yo. The most brutal part for me was the lack of sleep- the wake ups and not sleeping well bc H wasn't here. It wasn't my favorite trip, but everyone survived.
You'll both be ok. Put the baby first, your sleep second, and everything else will just sort of work itself out. GL.
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