Thursday!

[britta]

Feb 23, 2017 11:42:09 GMT -5 ksyknelvr73 said:

britta I would have rage over something like that as well. That's a HOBBY and I'm not rearranging my entire life to accommodate it. I can understand 100%.

Yeah. I rolled over in bed and thought to myself, "SAY WHAT. Imma need a minute to deal with that." 😑😑😑

[britta]

Feb 23, 2017 12:04:10 GMT -5 erien22846 said:

britta, omg, did he even realize what came out of his mouth?? That is absurd! I don't know how you bit your tongue in the moment.

I don't either, because biting my tongue is not my forte. But I've also learned I need to remove the emotion from the situation or I lose all credibility. You know? I have to reapproch calmly and logically. Like, you're really willing to proritize spending 35-50 minutes commuting ONE WAY to work every single day over spending 30 minutes commuting one way to your hunting spot, a handful of times 3 months out of the year? Are you listening to yourself? Like, I can't.

OMG. The rage is coming back.

[becole]

Feb 23, 2017 12:08:24 GMT -5 britta said:

Feb 23, 2017 12:04:10 GMT -5 erien22846 said:

britta, omg, did he even realize what came out of his mouth?? That is absurd! I don't know how you bit your tongue in the moment.

I don't either, because biting my tongue is not my forte. But I've also learned I need to remove the emotion from the situation or I lose all credibility. You know? I have to reapproch calmly and logically. Like, you're really willing to proritize spending 35-50 minutes commuting ONE WAY to work every single day over spending 30 minutes commuting one way to your hunting spot, a handful of times 3 months out of the year? Are you listening to yourself? Like, I can't.

OMG. The rage is coming back.

Hopefully it was just a knee jerk reaction to something "new". Not an actual thought he wants to hold on to.

[sanibel21]

Pretty sure I see and feel DD2s bottom 2 teeth! I'm so excited because I'm hoping that explains the awful nights that I was attributing the zoloft to!!

[sanibel21]

Before we went outside, dd1 put on one of her YouTube videos on the tv that's just cartoons singing kids songs. It played the whole time we were out and when we came back in, the videos are now of kids playing with toys and stuff. And dd1 is in amazement.

[smallpotato]

I'm sorry for all the husbands being jerks today. When MH got his job, it was a significant pay cut, but he was so miserable that it was worth it. We had just gotten engaged a few months before, and I had no clue what I was going to do after law school. His schedule gets on my nerves sometimes, especially when he has to work holidays. This year he is scheduled on thanksgiving for the 4th or 5th year in a row and Christmas. I am not happy about it but there's nothing I can do about it.

I took the day off to keep the boys out of MH's hair while he cleans. N helped pick up his toys and G and I hung out. I took them to the state park to go to the nature center and walk around a bit. It was supposed to be sunny and in the 60s, but it's actually foggy and in the 40s. Oh well. We're at McDonald's now. G has slept the entire time we've been out, and N is playing in the playscape. I am cautiously optimistic that will lead to a nap later. MH has the living room almost done. Once he gives me the high sign, I'll get him food and head home.

[becole]

I'm also having issues with Hs new job but it's new and I'm giving it some time before I vent about it. But with him taking a promotion/ new job right when I came back from maternity leave- well... it's been stressful.

[macaronmama]

ksyknelvr73, britta, sending out positive vibes that your DH's understand the sacrifices you have been making for your families, and soon. I'd be extremely PO'd in either of your situations.

DH has begun to freak out about his job security again with all the new announcements about possible cuts to the federal budget. His worry is rubbing off on me and I'm trying to find ways to get our own budget under control so we are saving more per month. DH has always been kinda laizze faire about our funds because he grew up with money. I didn't, and I'm looking at our savings and grimacing. I've done a decent job of making sure we have savings, but with his contract job, he has no benefits - no insurance (that's through my job), no retirement, pays his own taxes, etc.

When he flipped out last night I looked around and found a job for EXACTLY what he's an expert in (which is a specialized field) at another institution that's not federal but the closing date on the position is today. I can't get him to apply. He says he doesn't want to look like he's not interested in staying where he is... but without job security, can they really blame him??? I told him to at least apply and if it gets to the interview stage, THEN worry about his references, but ughhhhh.

[ksyknelvr73]

Feb 23, 2017 13:12:04 GMT -5 becole said:

I'm also having issues with Hs new job but it's new and I'm giving it some time before I vent about it. But with him taking a promotion/ new job right when I came back from maternity leave- well... it's been stressful.

That's hard - it always takes a while for things to settle in/settle down too, as you know. DH took his current job at the same time I was having DS2 and informed me he'd have summer baseball duties (DS2 was born May 22 and he started Memorial Day weekend basically). It was not pleasant, but it wasn't as bad as it could have been. Hopefully this isn't too painful for too long.

[ksyknelvr73]

Feb 23, 2017 12:29:56 GMT -5 sanibel21 said:

Pretty sure I see and feel DD2s bottom 2 teeth! I'm so excited because I'm hoping that explains the awful nights that I was attributing the zoloft to!!

I really hope that's it too! I bet it definitely contributed.

[britta]

macaronmama I get what he's saying, but I'm Team You. I don't think there's any harm in applying.

[fem]

Feb 23, 2017 13:12:04 GMT -5 becole said:

I'm also having issues with Hs new job but it's new and I'm giving it some time before I vent about it. But with him taking a promotion/ new job right when I came back from maternity leave- well... it's been stressful.

This was us with DD1. DH got a promotion and was working overtime right after she was born.

It was actually the breaking for him to get help with his anxiety/depression.

[fem]

DD1 is bringing her playmat and all her toys into our laundry room/basement. Whatever, she's happy.

[becole]

Feb 23, 2017 14:31:28 GMT -5 fem said:

Feb 23, 2017 13:12:04 GMT -5 becole said:

I'm also having issues with Hs new job but it's new and I'm giving it some time before I vent about it. But with him taking a promotion/ new job right when I came back from maternity leave- well... it's been stressful.

This was us with DD1. DH got a promotion and was working overtime right after she was born.

It was actually the breaking for him to get help with his anxiety/depression.

He took a new job with DS1 as well. 2.5 years later and here we go again. He's got great timing.

[sanibel21]

Long Lost Family on TLC. O. M. G. The waterworks.

[iwantbacon]

@kysknelvr73 Hugs on having to deal with that. I am in a similar boat that DH goes to seminars and trainings and networking events, and I'm the one who daycare pickup/drop off/dr visits/all house stuff falls to because of his events and work hours. Sometimes I wonder how much further along I'd be in my career if I had the same freedom he does. Ugh everything.

sanibel21 Nooo don't let her get sucked into the Kinder egg videos!!!

I'm convinced my kid is just screwing with me with this shitty sleep. Like, yeah I CAN sleep all night, but why when I can get you to come visit me?

[penguin129]

ksyknelvr73 I'm so sorry for the fight you had. I hope he can see your side of things soon and start helping you out more. It makes total sense to me that you'd be ok with it if the kids were older.

britta A hobby is not on the list of reasons why or why not to move. I'm with you on that.

[ksyknelvr73]

Feb 23, 2017 14:56:38 GMT -5 sanibel21 said:

Long Lost Family on TLC. O. M. G. The waterworks.

I really want to watch this show!

[penguin129]

RE the jobs and parenting thing:

I can honestly say being a SAHM was not even a thought for me. I guess I knew that if I did it I would do it until the youngest went to Kindergarten like my mom did. So here I am going on my 5th school year of being a SAHM. I didn't realize how much I missed working or at least having a project to work on until everything happened with lil P. Part of me thinks I might have had PPD with big P in addition to my thyroid stuff that wasn't treated or diagnosed. I definitely feel drive and passion about things now. I want to give lil P all the attention and time that big P had so I'll continue staying home. I will also now take the time for myself to write my blog and go out with friends without kids to make sure I get a break. I will go back to work one day, but for now I'm happy to stay at home and write my blog as a hobby.

I may have got lost in thought up there.

[erien22846]

Feb 23, 2017 15:29:37 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Random question... who has the pbk easter baskets? We just have a pbk small bunny treat bag for DS1, which they no longer carry. I'm looking to do their regular baskets and liners for both boys to match but am wondering if I should do the big or small sizes? Are the big ones totally obnoxiously big?

No idea but thanks for the reminder to buy DS2 a name tag for his basket to match DS1 and DD.

[macaronmama]

Picked up DS at the worst time from daycare. His naps were off so he was just going down for a nap when I got there... so he wouldn't sleep for another hour and a half so he was up for 3.5 hours. I have him in the RNP but now I'm not eager to try to get him to go to sleep again if he wakes up cranky.

[smallpotato]

G just rolled belly to back for the first time 😃 I was so afraid he would do it when I wasn't here to see it.

[hikingmama222]

ksyknelvr73 Sorry for the fight. Never a good way to start the day.

Kids had a blast this morning. DS has been napping more than usual. I put him in our bed to nap and he woke up after his usual 40 minutes but was just starring at the ceiling so I left him and he put himself back to sleep. Hallelujah! Finally.

Trying to get DD to nap but she won't. I tried to enforce quiet time but she won't.stop.talking. that's not quiet time kid!

[macaronmama]

Cranky wakeup confirmed. DS is inconsolable. Only good thing was it was an opportunity to give him a bath.

[becole]

Feb 23, 2017 19:13:01 GMT -5 macaronmama said:

Cranky wakeup confirmed. DS is inconsolable. Only good thing was it was an opportunity to give him a bath.

Hope he calms down soon. I feel so bad for the moms of cranky babies. I've been there. Know it's not you. You're doing a good job.

[iwantbacon]

The Rent the Runway dress i ordered is too big and there's not time for them to send a replacement. Better than both sizes being too small, but im still disappointed.

[britta]

Feb 23, 2017 21:04:20 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

The Rent the Runway dress i ordered is too big and there's not time for them to send a replacement. Better than both sizes being too small, but im still disappointed.

Boo!