I'm 3w2d and still needing a pad. It's not much, but too much for a pantyliner. And definitely there when I wipe.
Last time around, I needed a pad till about 5.5 weeks :/ I remember specifically because it was just before my 6 week appointment that I didn't need it anymore.
loves2shop4shoes please take care of yourself. If you feel overwhelmed, sad or anxious all of the time don't be afraid to seek help.
As for your H, yes, talk to him about how he needs to do more MOTN but also with my first kid me and H had an understanding that whatever happened or was said MOTN would stay there. People are not the best when sleep deprived and a baby is screaming at 3 AM.
This is a really great rule. Especially since I told my h to go F himself the night before last. Thankfully he had forgiven me or didn't remember it the next morning. My h and I are not sleeping in the same room right now so we turned the volume on his ringer up all the way so that he'll hear it if I'm nursing and need something MOTN. His alarm is also set for 30 minutes before the toddler wakes up so he can handle that without me having to wake him up to do it. My H really wants to help - I just have to set us up for success before we go to bed.
Post by wildflower810 on Feb 23, 2017 13:12:34 GMT -5
Still pregnant! Hugs to those with sucky Hs and motn issues. I was awake from 3-4 last night pretending I was in labor or that I was hearing the toddler cry. Neither were true.
Today is the day (40+1) that I had DS1. I didn't ever think I'd be more pregnant with this kid than with him, but here I am. Trying to get through today and just move to tomorrow, one day at a time.
Same here. I have flat out told DH that I'll wake him to help get set up for tandem feedings/burps. If I just do 1baby I can handle that by myself. He did question it once with why I couldn't lift both babies out of bed to put back in their RnPs - um I had my stomach cut in two takes time to have that working again.
Lil girl is still not sleeping great today. At least my lil boy is napping well.
Me and shellbell are the same person, as I too am a bitch MOTN and also wake MH all of the time as he hears nothing.
Same. With DD1 I dealt with a lot of resentment and anger toward DH. I would hold her and sob on the end of the bed so angry that I was the only one waking up with her all the time. Then when I sat down and talked to him about it (on the verge of a breakdown) he told me he was not purposely ignoring us, he genuinely didn't hear anything and to just wake him up. Everything changed after that. Sometimes wake ups come out bitchy as opposed to a gentle poke, but he knows I don't handle 2 things well, hunger and sleep deprivation. He's military so he handles both much better and can take barking orders he forgives me quickly.
If nothing else at least it's delicious! I have like 5 chunks of pineapple in the fridge..I doubt that's meaningful to my cervix but I'll eat it this afternoon anyhow 🤗
Post by zcookiemonster on Feb 23, 2017 14:06:02 GMT -5
wildflower810 still pregnant here too. I had DS at 39w2d so i def didn't think I'd still be pregnant at this point, my EDD is in two days tho. Hang in there, we can do it! I was supposed to have a check in with my MW this morning but she had another birth so I'm grateful I didn't go into labor today! And my work is grateful too. It's been an insanely busy week and I just want to check out.
wildflower810 still pregnant here too. I had DS at 39w2d so i def didn't think I'd still be pregnant at this point, my EDD is in two days tho.
Lol this is my experience too. I had DS at 35w5d and 10000% expected that the next one would go very early. Even my doctor was like "hopefully we can get to February!"
I'm 39w2d now. I've been pregnant for almost FOUR WEEKS LONGER than with #1, omg....... I am grateful of course that this one won't be a preemie, but it feels like I've been waiting for freaking ever. It's a weird place to be.
+1 in the Didn't-Expect-to-Still-Be-Pregnant Club.
If nothing else at least it's delicious! I have like 5 chunks of pineapple in the fridge..I doubt that's meaningful to my cervix but I'll eat it this afternoon anyhow 🤗
Oh yeah, I didn't do it to start labor. I think you're supposed to eat the core and everything if you're trying to induce labor. No thanks! I was just sitting there and couldn't stop eating it. My mouth is not happy about it. Lol
Post by shawnabm1320 on Feb 23, 2017 14:29:33 GMT -5
I just might cry if I go longer than my first pregnancy (40+4). Especially given my supposed progress already, I was just sure that I wouldn't make my due date. Which is tomorrow, so... I was so wrong. Lol
I just might cry if I go longer than my first pregnancy (40+4). Especially given my supposed progress already, I was just sure that I wouldn't make my due date. Which is tomorrow, so... I was so wrong. Lol
Yeah I think we're all in the same boat! I had dd1 a week early and here I am 4 days past due with not a whisper of labor. Like I'd gladly take a few practice contractions just to be sure my body remembers we're supposed to push her out soon 😐 how did we get here!
Post by zcookiemonster on Feb 23, 2017 14:36:33 GMT -5
shawnabm1320 you reminded me I had pineapple in the fridge. At first I was eating for whatever purpose it brings for labor but now it just tastes so good. cosmicav right??? How are we still pregnant? Really glad this lil one isn't a preemie for you. Are you having any labor symptoms? My biggest mindf*ck at the moment is that I've got nothing. No loss of plug, no blood, no contractions. Like whatttt??? I actually feel great now that I'm not sick. C'mon baby!
Post by notagoddess on Feb 23, 2017 16:29:16 GMT -5
Baby girl had her first pedi visit today. She is within an ounce of her birthweight, which was such a relief to hear after the couple of days with only two wet diapers. The pedi said she's thriving. I am so proud of her.
Afterwards we took her in a long walk because we were already out of the house and it was 70 degrees and beautiful out. I took some Tylenol 3 before and felt great during the walk, but now my bottom hurts and feels all swollen. I'm sitting here with an ice pack while waiting for S to wake up.
I'm afraid to say it for fear of jinxing it. I know things will change after MH goes back to work. But I'm really enjoying these early days and I feel exceptionally lucky that I have a healthy, beautiful baby.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on Feb 23, 2017 16:40:49 GMT -5
So to be clear, I was sobbing in pain from BFing. He heard this and woke up. He saw I was overwhelmed, crying, and a hot mess. He tried to help/offer advice for like 15 minutes, then got frustrated, decided he was done, and went to be without saying a word.
Post by crazycatlady6 on Feb 23, 2017 16:42:35 GMT -5
+1 of the still pregnant club here, silly me thought little guy would make some sort of effort to come out on his due date. I've lost my mucus plug twice now but other than that, no contractions of any kind. We'll see if I am any further dilated tomorrow morning at my appointment.
shellbell, my pp bleeding and spotting stopped at 5 weeks this time around.
So many ((hugs)) loves2shop4shoes. Please take care of yourself and communicate your needs to your H. Make sure they are loud and clear and direct for him, that way he can't cop out in the future. At the very least he should have stayed with you, even if what he was doing was absolutely no help to your bfing situation.
We saw the LC today about Bs latch. They think the problem is less about his tongue tie and more about him clamping down on my nipple to deal with my forceful letdown. He transferred 4.5oz in like 15 minutes...😳. I guess I have chunkster on my hands. At least we don't have to get his tie clipped.
So to be clear, I was sobbing in pain from BFing. He heard this and woke up. He saw I was overwhelmed, crying, and a hot mess. He tried to help/offer advice for like 15 minutes, then got frustrated, decided he was done, and went to be without saying a word.
He was awake.
Tl;dr: I have lots of feels about feeding and personal misery postpartum. I was unhappy for much of my kids' first year for various reasons. I learned that a happy mom is a better mom, so some self-care is essential. And lowering expectations and adapting your ideal to fit reality. It's a work in progress.
Details: I've had a lot of nipple pain, too. It royally sucks to feel like someone grabbed my with pliers and yanked when all I'm trying to do is feed my baby.
Can YH do or say anything that would help? If yes, maybe some instruction is in order, even if it's just to keep you company and make conversation to distract you a bit and help you feel less alone. (Drawing from my own experience of what upset me in addition to physical pain.)
If he can't say or do anything to help, you may try to explain what's upsetting you and ask him to help you find a solution. When MH hives me the same answers I came up with, I figure I should seriously consider them even if my initial reaction is NO!.
If you refuse every solution besides the one that is upsetting you, then you may need to reevaluate what you're doing in terms of your own physical and mental health. It's hard to do that when there's so much emphasis on BF is good, formula is evil (for example) in popular media.
That's why I'm stopping BFing sooner than last time. I think I can be a happier, better mom if I don't BF, even though it is nice to be able to personally provide all my babies' nutrition. Now I have to figure out how to get the milk to stop without causing clogs or an infection. Last time a bout of mastitis and antibiotics dramatically cut my supply for me. I don't recommend that route.
I'm still kind of sad to give up BFing, but the pleasure I derive from it does not compensate for the pain, leakage, time loss for pumping when I'm away from the babies, and having to try to remember separate vitamin drops. And the probably inevitable infection(s).
So to be clear, I was sobbing in pain from BFing. He heard this and woke up. He saw I was overwhelmed, crying, and a hot mess. He tried to help/offer advice for like 15 minutes, then got frustrated, decided he was done, and went to be without saying a word.
He was awake.
I know this is frustrating to you. But he also doesn't know how to help you, and it's hard for you to vocalize it in the moment. It's hard for him too.
And I say this as someone who has sent DH away and then cried because I was up and he was sleeping.
Post by musicallyinclined on Feb 23, 2017 17:48:15 GMT -5
I wish I had something to add to the frustration with husbands conversation. Mine is by no means perfect, and this baby is so different from how DS1 was. We committed to communicating more openly and him initiating doing things for the boys more. He is also being really intentional with making me nap when the baby does. All that to say, communicating is important.
shawnabm1320 you reminded me I had pineapple in the fridge. At first I was eating for whatever purpose it brings for labor but now it just tastes so good. cosmicav right??? How are we still pregnant? Really glad this lil one isn't a preemie for you. Are you having any labor symptoms? My biggest mindf*ck at the moment is that I've got nothing. No loss of plug, no blood, no contractions. Like whatttt??? I actually feel great now that I'm not sick. C'mon baby!
I've had a few here and there contractions in the past week, but that's been it. None today. I took a long walk though since it was nice out today--hopefully that will kick start something. I know that stuff can change quickly so I'm trying to stay optimistic, but it definitely feels endless these days...
Hugs to all the still pregnant ladies! FX things start to happen asap!!
Also hugs to those with motn and dh struggles. I find myself mad at him all night long while I'm nursing and he's sleeping but try to remind myself that I have the boobs and I can't expect him to sit up and watch me feed him.
I've had trouble keeping up today! We had a weight check this morning and little guy gained 4.5 oz. since his appt. on Tuesday so no more weight checks for us! DH went back to work today so mom took us and then we went to lunch, target and then wegmans and she cooked us dinner and cleaned tonight. It's been the best day.
Except for my first PP poop. That happened today. Just thankful it's over with now. And thankful someone was there to watch LO so I could focus lol.
@nomnom - eat lots of peppermint and the cabbage leaves in your bra does help as well.
loves2shop4shoes - I'd be pi$$ed at DH. Even if he does nothing when you are to that point just being there with you can be a tremendous help. I'd sit with him before bed and make sure you two are in the same page...good luck!
Post by monicageller on Feb 23, 2017 20:38:15 GMT -5
I'm the opposite of a lot of you. My due date is approaching on Monday, but I expected to be late. But thanks to my blood pressure here I am with a 10 day old. I never would have guessed this in a million years.
My milk came in. I'm EFF. This SUCKS (or whatever the opposite is).
Blows?
That does sound miserable. If you have any cabbage, you can stuff the leaves in your bra, and drink peppermint tea.
ETA: Can your OB give you anything to help the process along? I remember my mom and aunt saying they took pills to dry them up, but obviously that was a long time ago. I don't know what current practice is.
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