OPP Thursday

[kensie5226]

Share them if you've got them.

[remylove1011]

My SIL is pregnant and it's giving me all the feels. She has 2 children already (her youngest will be 1 next month) and she's due in July. I'm not ready to even try again (DD is 6 months today), but it just made me sad at the possibility that we won't get to experience that again. We have 3 embryos and if those don't work we won't go through the whole process again. Just made me sad and jealous of her having an oops baby.

[nikiswimr]

I was pregnant with two ladies in my barre class. We were all due within a month or two of each other. They're both pregnant again.

[westiemom]

I've been having the feels lately. A friend of mine is pregnant and I am just feeling so ready to do it again. It makes me feel sad looking at them because I'm not pregnant.

[bocaburger]

Boy do I need this thread right now.

Just found out that a family friend is pregnant. She's had an IUD for years. They just decided to start TTC. She called her GYN to make an appointment to have her IUD removed, but her period was late so her GYN had her take a pregnancy test first just in case. Yup, pregnant.

So she literally did not even have to try, she just decided she wanted to be pregnant and POOF, a baby magically appeared in her uterus.

[MellyKnu]

Mar 2, 2017 21:19:08 GMT -5 bocaburger said:

Boy do I need this thread right now.

Just found out that a family friend is pregnant. She's had an IUD for years. They just decided to start TTC. She called her GYN to make an appointment to have her IUD removed, but her period was late so her GYN had her take a pregnancy test first just in case. Yup, pregnant.

So she literally did not even have to try, she just decided she wanted to be pregnant and POOF, a baby magically appeared in her uterus.

Are you fucking kidding me?! Ugh. Breeders. Also, did she tell you this personally? Or is it just common knowledge that she's telling the entire world?!

[Deleted]

DH's friend at work announced she's 13 weeks pregnant. She's been through cancer treatments and was sure she'd need IVF to conceive. She apparently consulted with an RE and wound up pregnant on her own before she could pursue treatment. I'm genuinely happy for her - she's been through enough hardships. But damn if I'm not sad about not being pregnant right now.

[bocaburger]

Mar 2, 2017 22:15:39 GMT -5 MellyKnu said:

Mar 2, 2017 21:19:08 GMT -5 bocaburger said:

Boy do I need this thread right now.

Just found out that a family friend is pregnant. She's had an IUD for years. They just decided to start TTC. She called her GYN to make an appointment to have her IUD removed, but her period was late so her GYN had her take a pregnancy test first just in case. Yup, pregnant.

So she literally did not even have to try, she just decided she wanted to be pregnant and POOF, a baby magically appeared in her uterus.

Are you fucking kidding me?! Ugh. Breeders. Also, did she tell you this personally? Or is it just common knowledge that she's telling the entire world?!

She told my grandma who told me.

[bocaburger]

I'm back with more feelings!

1. My nephew was born yesterday. I am honestly thrilled and excited for them. But it is also bringing back a lot of feelings about my delivery. She had a vaginal midwife delivery with minimal intervention, which is what I would have loved. I had a failed induction, an epidural, and a miserable c-section. She had a golden hour with lots of skin-to-skin; I couldn't hold my babies until they were 5 hours old. When I talked to her she was exhausted but happy; it honestly took me a few weeks for the joy and love to come. I had sort of buried my feelings about the delivery and they are all coming out in full force now.

2. The barista at Starbucks just excitedly announced to me that she is 6 weeks pregnant.

[dancerspose]

Mar 6, 2017 10:13:23 GMT -5 bocaburger said:

I'm back with more feelings!

1. My nephew was born yesterday. I am honestly thrilled and excited for them. But it is also bringing back a lot of feelings about my delivery. She had a vaginal midwife delivery with minimal intervention, which is what I would have loved. I had a failed induction, an epidural, and a miserable c-section. She had a golden hour with lots of skin-to-skin; I couldn't hold my babies until they were 5 hours old. When I talked to her she was exhausted but happy; it honestly took me a few weeks for the joy and love to come. I had sort of buried my feelings about the delivery and they are all coming out in full force now.

2. The barista at Starbucks just excitedly announced to me that she is 6 weeks pregnant.

WTF barista...why, just why on so many levels.

[remylove1011]

bocaburger. ((Hugs)) I feel you so much on not having the birth experience you wanted. I still get upset when I think about my crazy long induction, pushing for 3 hours, and then having an emergency c-section. I think we'll continue to feel this way whenever people tell their perfect birth story!

[blueinred]

Two of my friends are now in the 2nd trimester of their third pregnancies. They are both as sensitive about IF as anyone can be who has never experienced it first hand but it's still a reminder how conceiving is such an easy and natural thing for some people. I cannot imagine going through another pregnancy because the last one was tough and my family is complete but it still brings up pangs of jealousy over a situation over which I had so little control.

[emilie]

Mar 6, 2017 20:44:39 GMT -5 remylove1011 said:

bocaburger. ((Hugs)) I feel you so much on not having the birth experience you wanted. I still get upset when I think about my crazy long induction, pushing for 3 hours, and then having an emergency c-section. I think we'll continue to feel this way whenever people tell their perfect birth story!

I don't have any OPPs to share, but I can relate to the above. I've been feeling some low level anxiety lately about a couple things: 1) the insult that is having to figure out birth control even though you know your chances of natural pregnancy are very low and 2) knowing you want another kid but not wanting to go through pregnancy and birth again.

I am less than 3 months PP so tell me - is this like running a marathon, or getting a tattoo, where right after you're like "ugh, that sucked" but then you forget the bad parts later and just want to do it again? I had a preterm labor scare with lots of bleeding at 25w which made me paranoid for the rest of my pregnancy, followed by a c-section birth where I bled a ton and was in the OR for over 2 hours. I literally stay up at night worrying about having to give birth again and fearing bleeding to death

[rainbowbridge14]

Mar 7, 2017 17:01:28 GMT -5 emilie said:

Mar 6, 2017 20:44:39 GMT -5 remylove1011 said:

bocaburger. ((Hugs)) I feel you so much on not having the birth experience you wanted. I still get upset when I think about my crazy long induction, pushing for 3 hours, and then having an emergency c-section. I think we'll continue to feel this way whenever people tell their perfect birth story!

I don't have any OPPs to share, but I can relate to the above. I've been feeling some low level anxiety lately about a couple things: 1) the insult that is having to figure out birth control even though you know your chances of natural pregnancy are very low and 2) knowing you want another kid but not wanting to go through pregnancy and birth again.

I am less than 3 months PP so tell me - is this like running a marathon, or getting a tattoo, where right after you're like "ugh, that sucked" but then you forget the bad parts later and just want to do it again? I had a preterm labor scare with lots of bleeding at 25w which made me paranoid for the rest of my pregnancy, followed by a c-section birth where I bled a ton and was in the OR for over 2 hours. I literally stay up at night worrying about having to give birth again and fearing bleeding to death

I also have a lot of feels about my birth experience. At 15 months out I haven't gotten over my feelings about not wanting to go through pregnancy and birth again. I kind of dread both but know I want another child so I am psyching myself up to ttc again next fall if we can save enough money for an FET.

[murrt]

I want another child but we have no embryos left and no IVF coverage. Plus, pregnancy was awful for me, and I'm old. It feels like every day I debate whether or not I'd have another and I wish that wasn't the case.

[olenka]

Mar 7, 2017 19:57:47 GMT -5 murrt said:

I want another child but we have no embryos left and no IVF coverage. Plus, pregnancy was awful for me, and I'm old. It feels like every day I debate whether or not I'd have another and I wish that wasn't the case.

This is exactly where I am at. Spent another insomnia filled night wondering if we should/could take the plunge again. (I was supposed to be starting again this month but panicked and then canceled.). Hugs to you...I know it sucks.

Oh, and on the OPP front, another DC mom is pregnant, and I'm trying to psych myself up for my sister's second child, due in a few days. (I am happy for her, of course, but there's a little of the old "isn't it nice that it's so easy for you" feeling in the background too).