Post by thelittleredm on Feb 24, 2017 17:15:54 GMT -5
I just want my arms and hands back. W won't do more than cat nap and must be bounced when awake or attached to boob. I'm still hungry but afraid to move.
thelittleredm, LT for solidarity. It is currently nap time in our house. For everyone but me, because I can't put C down or she will wake up within 5 minutes. I've watched 2 more episodes of this is us though.
silvermelody love love love them! I'm obsessed with the Atomic Flurry. I have bookmarked the site for potential grandparent gifts since they love buying the kids clothes every year.
Post by silvermelody on Feb 24, 2017 18:52:59 GMT -5
Ooh, I'll have to look into Next!
My problem is I wind up buying a lot of stuff second hand in lots because I'm frugal and I have no control over how much they pinkwash. But I can add a few cute pieces from elsewhere.
We spent two hours at the playground and I am exhausted. I literally just stood around with baby wrapped to me but I guess that's how out of shape I am. DS1 made so many little friends and was great at sharing his dinosaurs. Let's hope he's as tired as I am and goes to bed without a fight.
Scratch what I said about eating healthy. Mh came home with a box of Thin Mints and I still have a pumped bottle from the zoo so he made me a gin & tonic. But I had a salad for lunch so it all evens out?
Post by thelittleredm on Feb 24, 2017 19:37:35 GMT -5
So, I went on MeetUp and found a mommy group in my part of town that seems to meet at least once a week! I requested to join so I'm going to their monthly meeting next Tuesday morning to see if it's a good fit
So, I went on MeetUp and found a mommy group in my part of town that seems to meet at least once a week! I requested to join so I'm going to their monthly meeting next Tuesday morning to see if it's a good fit
I've heard some really good things about meetup. My brother and SIL moved to a new city and met all their friends at board game groups via meet up. I never thought to look for mom groups, I should check it out!
@orangcrush and silvermelody, Next kids clothes are usually really good quality and very cute - my family usually send their stuff over for DS1 at birthdays and christmas.
Post by peaseblossom55 on Feb 24, 2017 21:41:53 GMT -5
H will always come home with some onesie or sleeper from target usually a clearance item. It's so adorable. I don't buy anything really since I ha d a ton of clothes from my sister.
E is sleeping in me and H will be home from hockey soon. I cried today so much. I am having the time of my life with E and I only have 5 weeks left of leave. I don't want to go back to work at all. I hated what my team was doing before I left and I just don't care. We could live off of H's salary but I make good money too. If I stopped working is lose my licenses I worked so hard to get in my career. I don't want to tell H how I feel because it's not like anything can be done really.
peaseblossom55, I had similar thoughts today. I could definitely see the allure of being a SAHM. It's not possible for me but if it's even remotely a possibility for you I think you should at least have the conversation with YH. I feel like not having the conversation could lead to some harbored resentment down the road.
Post by heybulldog56 on Feb 24, 2017 21:54:38 GMT -5
peaseblossom55, I understand all too well how you feel. In fact, I'm beginning to feel that way too. All I can tell you is that going back to work was not as horrible as I feared. I didn't realize how much I missed regular non-parenting related adult conversations, enjoying a peaceful lunch, and focusing on goals that felt all my own and not in anyway related to home or family. It was actually refreshing and, oddly enough, helped recharge my "mom and wife" battery There was also something nice about the routine and order that came with going back to work as well. Now, don't get me wrong, if Dh asked me tomorrow if I'd want to stay home, I would not hesitate to say yes. But I can tell you from my own experience that, as awful as the idea sounds now, going back wasn't as painful as I expected (although I did cry quite a bit on my commute the first week). You're not alone.
Post by heybulldog56 on Feb 24, 2017 21:59:30 GMT -5
peaseblossom55, I agree with pibblemom. It won't hurt to have the conversation. I've already had a similar one with H about staying home until next school year. Not the same as becoming a SAHM but nonetheless something I really needed Dh to hear. I think it's important for your H to know how you feel.
Post by thelittleredm on Feb 24, 2017 23:40:41 GMT -5
I feel like I'm losing my mind tonight. W has barely slept today and I feel like all I've done is hold him while dealing with DS1 who has no intention of listening to me ever. I'm so touched out. I can't get W to sleep and when I do, he wakes up as soon as I move. H has been fucking useless tonight which hasn't really bothered me until now. Ughhhhhhh
Post by silvermelody on Feb 25, 2017 0:01:10 GMT -5
thelittleredm those days are the worst, when baby will only sleep on you and then add in the toddler...your H needs to step it up.
I'm solo and the baby refuses to bev put down. She just screamed through a horrific diaper change from DS, then story, then putting him to bed. I calmed her between each one. Not able to wear her either because of bending over. Ugh. At least one kid is in bed.
I feel like I'm losing my mind tonight. W has barely slept today and I feel like all I've done is hold him while dealing with DS1 who has no intention of listening to me ever. I'm so touched out. I can't get W to sleep and when I do, he wakes up as soon as I move. H has been fucking useless tonight which hasn't really bothered me until now. Ughhhhhhh
Sorry When I have those nights I absolutely need mh to step in, sucks your h isn't being helpful. Did you ask him for help?
silvermelody sorry for the crazy night and being solo. Sucks you can't wear baby, it's bc of cs recovery still? These babies need to get it together for the mamas!
peaseblossom55, I understand all too well how you feel. In fact, I'm beginning to feel that way too. All I can tell you is that going back to work was not as horrible as I feared. I didn't realize how much I missed regular non-parenting related adult conversations, enjoying a peaceful lunch, and focusing on goals that felt all my own and not in anyway related to home or family. It was actually refreshing and, oddly enough, helped recharge my "mom and wife" battery There was also something nice about the routine and order that came with going back to work as well. Now, don't get me wrong, if Dh asked me tomorrow if I'd want to stay home, I would not hesitate to say yes. But I can tell you from my own experience that, as awful as the idea sounds now, going back wasn't as painful as I expected (although I did cry quite a bit on my commute the first week). You're not alone.
All of this. I was just thinking today I'm kind of looking forward to work again. Like you said, it recharges your battery. I remember with DD1 after my first day back, H couldn't believe how good of a mood I was in, I guess I just needed a change of pace and different routine. The logistics of going back, pumping, rushing around def suck. and of course missing the kiddos.
I had finally gotten C down by rocking and swaddling around 1230. First wakeup wasn't til 515ish so even though I'm a zombie I'll take it. Just hoping she goes back down by 6 for a few more hours.
I feel like I'm losing my mind tonight. W has barely slept today and I feel like all I've done is hold him while dealing with DS1 who has no intention of listening to me ever. I'm so touched out. I can't get W to sleep and when I do, he wakes up as soon as I move. H has been fucking useless tonight which hasn't really bothered me until now. Ughhhhhhh
Sorry When I have those nights I absolutely need mh to step in, sucks your h isn't being helpful. Did you ask him for help?
Yeah, finally. I tried putting W down for the night but when his eyes popped open and he started crying, I passed him off and just went to bed. Apparently, H was able to get him asleep in no time.
silvermelody sorry for the crazy night and being solo. Sucks you can't wear baby, it's bc of cs recovery still? These babies need to get it together for the mamas!
Sorta. I can wear her but I'm still not supposed to lift DS. So I have to do his diaper changes on the floor, and if I had her on my front she'd fall out or have her head hanging back no matter what carrier I use. Similar problem with getting him into the crib. I can't have her on my front and boost him over from the step stool
She has been fussy and cranky all night. 2.5 hours between getting up but she maybe slept an hour of the first one, the rest was all grunting and fussing.
I'm starting to seriously wonder if she has silent reflux. I hear her gag and choke on her spit up after I put her down. This is in the RNP, not flat.
Post by vlagroupie on Feb 25, 2017 14:45:45 GMT -5
Sorry silvermelody too bad baby can't be carried on the back at this age, would make all that a lot easier for you. I thought dd2 might have had silent reflux too. But then a few weeks later she was better. My pedi had told us to wait it out until 2 month appt and she has gotten better. It's just so hard when they are so fussy like that.
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