Post by abominationsnowman on Feb 28, 2017 21:24:57 GMT -5
amberlie hugs to you. I took a baby or a toddler to counseling with me for months. The counselor didn't care, and I still got to go.
Maybe you need a different dosage of zoloft? It took me a while to find the right amount. I know I need to find a good dr to adjust mine (the last week has been pretty wretched).
I hope you catch some air soon. We're all here for you.
Post by taketheshot on Feb 28, 2017 21:38:14 GMT -5
amberlie ... You are a fighter. You are wise beyond your years. You have a more level head on your shoulders than some people twice your age. By no standard of measurement are you a failure. I second what everyone else already said.. Find someone to talk to. There has to be something that will work out for you and your schedule. The way I see things is that you can continue feeling how you feel now or you can start taking steps to feeling better. You sharing with us tells me that you are ready for help. We are always here but ultimately you need some IRL support.
Post by tuscanlatte on Feb 28, 2017 21:52:22 GMT -5
amberlie yes yes yes to everything everyone posted. I also took a baby with me to counselling before. It's nice to go alone though and there are others outside normal hours. Is there a crisis line you can call in your city? When I initially called with DS I didn't have to do anything. I called and the person on the line did all the figuring out and she gave me a time and a place and I just had to show up.
I'm sorry you're going through all of this. I agree that you have a lot going on and it's a lot of pressure. We're always here!!
Post by redandblue on Feb 28, 2017 22:33:21 GMT -5
Total random for you all....I just saw someone post deodorant for sale on a free or cheap site I'm on. I feel like now I've seen it all (well maybe not JB's peen, but almost all). Carry on.
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Post by sweetsyrup on Feb 28, 2017 22:36:21 GMT -5
amberlie Everyone else has pretty much covered it, and I will tell you that it does get easier as the babies aren't so reliant on mama. Your girls are a few months closer in age then my boys, but the last month or so is the first time that I feel like I can catch my breath since having B. I quit nursing in November and I feel like just now my anxiety and depression is getting better. My therapist also saw patients outside of "normal" hours.
You're a wonderful mom to those girls. Don't let anyone or anything convince you any differently.
N was inconsolable last night. I kept assuming teeth and then I saw bumps on his tongue when he was crying last night. I'm hoping it isn't HFM... he hasn't had a fever and they aren't red. Ugh. MH is off today so at least there is that. I hope they have a good day..
Sitting in church after racing across town to drop c off at DC then back 2 mins from house for mass. All because h can't handle a sick kid and toddler.
I have had zero coffee so far and 3 hours of sleep. H had the audacity to say if A was staying home then why am I waking him up at 5:45, he should sleep longer. I managed to not completely lose my shit. I have to go to work on 3 hours of sleep with no breaks for naps, are you f'ing serious?
Waiting for Zoey to get here. She usually comes on Thursdays and Fridays but her family has a Doctors appointment for her brother and its an hour away so they wanted her to be somewhere other than daycare in case of an emergency
Post by skinandbones on Mar 1, 2017 8:34:23 GMT -5
I need internet sleuthing help.
DS1 has been obsessed with the Lorax. I've read the book and watched the damn movie so many times I can quote it. When I was sick over the weekend, Little Bones picked up a flower plant for us to plant in the yard once I felt better (cute, right?). He mentions during breakfast he wants to plant it because he thinks the Lorax will come back.
How freaking cute would it be if I could find a lawn ornament of the Lorax? But I can't freaking find anything (other than a $50,000 bronze statue).
@janetheconquerer That is a terrible night! I hope there is no more puke today. Stop and buy yourself a fancy coffee on the way to work today. You've earned it!
layloo08 I sure hope those bumps aren't HFM. That's the worst!
amberlie There is some great advice here already. I just want to reiterate that there are therapists who have evening and weekend hours and any therapist skilled with PPD won't bat an eye at you bringing the baby. You might want to check out psychologytoday.com. There is a therapist finder tool on there where you can read a little about each one. There is also an organization called Postpartum Support International that may have a list of providers too.
I'm sorry you're struggling. I had some issues with PPD after both pregnancies and I know how dark this time can be. You're doing a great job of reaching out here. I'm proud of you for recognizing that drinking won't solve this for you. You're a great mom to these girls and you are going to get through this and come out the other side. Don't be afraid to reach out for support. Sending hugs your way.
skinandbones .. I love that movie. I'm not sure about a Lorax but you could make Truffila trees and tell him as long as he protects them the Lorax will be happy with him..
I was nursing w and noticed his pajama smelled like pee. But they were dry. I change him and the diaper is barely wet but his clothes are doused in the smell. Wtf diaper you had one job! We took a shower to clean up and now I'm wiping down his bed.
skinandbones, I found this lorax craft made from a pool noodle:http://www.survivingateacherssalary.com/dr-seuss-the-lorax-pool-noodle-craft-for-kids/
Not necessarily super long term, but it should withstand the elements for a while.
If you wanted to do something a little more permanent, honestly, paper mache with a TON of shellac can hold up. I used to coordinate a themed, artist-designed Minigolf course that would have to be in the elements for an entire summer, and withstand 300,000+ visitors, and shellac was key for a lot of the ornaments on the holes.
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