I actually got some real sleep last night. Yay! Today is a recovery day and getting the house back in to shape after guests. I was kicking around Circle Time but wasn't sure if I'd get some side eye for bringing an itty bitty into a germ fest.
At the zoo fil asked if we had a stroller for ds. I said no, he could walk as the baby bucket was in the stroller and then joked that I should start researching double strollers. He offered to buy us one, just pick it out and let him know.
I looked around and I think I made a decision. I asked Mh if I just awkwardly text him now. But Mh doesn't want to take him up on the offer. His actual words were "ask yourself if sil would do it. If yes, then don't do it." Sil totally hits her parents up to pay for everything all the fracking time even though she does well for herself. In fact I was with fil the other week when he got a text from sil that said the crib she wanted was on sale for x amount at this store and here was the link. They had not discussed what they were getting for her yet and his response was "well, guess we're getting the crib."
So talk to fil about his offer? Or just get it ourselves?
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lakegirl I think it depends on your relationship with FIL, which if I remember correctly is pretty good. I'd just text and ask if he was serious because you picked one that you are going to get. I don't have that great of a relationship with my ILs, just not close, and they actually mentioned buying an extra bassinet for ds while they were here but we never got to it. So when I finally got to it I just bought it because I was not comfortable asking them. But my parents, yeah I'd remind them of their offer.
Post by heybulldog56 on Feb 27, 2017 10:24:20 GMT -5
Morning! We are waiting at the pedi's office for 8 week well visit (and shots!) Doctor okayed giving babybhis shots a week early which is wonderful because we will be flying to Florida on Thursday. We woke up late and DS1 is with us and so far I am surviving being out with both.
Post by vlagroupie on Feb 27, 2017 10:47:52 GMT -5
lakegirl it's not like you guys hit them up for stuff like that all the time right? I might text and say, hey we really like this stroller, what do you think? And see if he says yeah that's great, we'll get it for you.
Morning! We are waiting at the pedi's office for 8 week well visit (and shots!) Doctor okayed giving babybhis shots a week early which is wonderful because we will be flying to Florida on Thursday. We woke up late and DS1 is with us and so far I am surviving being out with both.
We have 2 month tomorrow, I'm worried about the shots. I kinda remember DD1 being super super fussy that night after her shots. And Florida, yay that sounds fun!
lakegirl it's not like you guys hit them up for stuff like that all the time right? I might text and say, hey we really like this stroller, what do you think? And see if he says yeah that's great, we'll get it for you.
Never unless they offer. I'll probably talk to Mh about it again. I get not wanting to be a big taker like his sister and proving a point about being an independent adult but they offered so get on board h!
Post by weeklyplanner on Feb 27, 2017 11:07:53 GMT -5
lakegirl I think I'd take them up on the offer. Is there a reason DH isn't on board? It sounds like you have a good relationship with fil and see him often. I'm sure he genuinely meant it.
FWIW, I know my parents like to do a big purchase for each new grandchild. It's kind of turned into them buying nursery furniture for each kid. My mom just recently told sil that they would love to purchase the furniture when sil shared she was pregnant. I know my parents mean it and really want her and my brother to take them up on the offer. So, I don't think he'd offer to buy it if he didn't mean it. Plus, if he's buying cribs for other grandchildren, I bet he likes to try and do something similar for each baby.
weeklyplanner I agree! I think he genuinely meant it. They haven't bought anything big for dd because we moved ds to a floor bed and are reusing everything else.
lakegirl it's not like you guys hit them up for stuff like that all the time right? I might text and say, hey we really like this stroller, what do you think? And see if he says yeah that's great, we'll get it for you.
Never unless they offer. I'll probably talk to Mh about it again. I get not wanting to be a big taker like his sister and proving a point about being an independent adult but they offered so get on board h!
I totally get where your H is coming from because my DH and I are like that with SIL and DHs parents. Except, in our scenario it's with the constant watching of children. Seems sil is always dumping one or more of her kids at mil house for no good reason. She does this 7 days a week. DH and I just feel that our kids are our responsibility...of course unless we're at work or have a special event planned or something. I digress.
I say an offer for an occasional gift is totally different than taking advantage and letting them buy everything.
Twins weeklyplanner! Sil basically demanded that they watch her future baby two days a week to save on daycare even though she'd be fine paying for a full week. Meanwhile it never crossed our mind to lock them into such a rigid schedule but I'm like hmmmm maybe if I only had to pay for limited day care I'd still be working.
W has been attached to my boob all morning. I just checked and he's officially starting leap 1. I'm having DH give him a bottle of milk from when I pumped last night to give my nips a break. I'll pump during nap time later.
Post by peaseblossom55 on Feb 27, 2017 11:47:24 GMT -5
E had a good night of sleep she was up at 7 but so tired she wet back to sleep again until 10. I was able to confirm her baptism date too.
So now I need to begin the search for care on the days mil will not be watching her. I guess I'm going to start with care.com anyone have any good experience with it??? I am so anxious and nervous about finding someone and that I won't be able too.
lakegirl I agree with others. I know if i offer to buy something it's because I genuinely want to and get good feels out of it, so I try to keep that in mind when I'm in similar situations even though my natural inclination is to probably say no.
@orangcrush I'm really digging the new Chicco Bravo for 2. It's a sit and stand but I think that's better suited for our lifestyle. I went to the store Sunday afternoon to try some out and loved it. I hated the bulk of the traditional side by sides and tandems. This one barely felt longer than my Chicco Liteweight Plus.
Post by vlagroupie on Feb 27, 2017 14:04:13 GMT -5
lakegirl I got a bbb email with that stroller in it and had to hold back. It looks really cool and I like that our Infant seat could just click in right now. Buuuttt..I also don't see us using it a ton right now either so couldn't justify the cost.
I thought my baby fever would go away after the hormones wore off. But nope, I still want another
I think I'm the exact opposite. I was the same way after DS was born. I'm all "This is it. We're done having kids!" But, they get super cute and aren't talking back yet and I get excited for another. I think late infancy/early toddlerhood is my jam. I'm quickly learning 2.5 year olds are not my thing. DS is such a handful lately. It started right when he turned 2.5! I feel like he sucks all my attention from DD and I can barely soak in her baby cuddles.
I'm touring a nursery school for DD1 this week for a 2yo program this fall, I'm excited for her and a little sad that I'm thinking "school" already.
We've been so happy with the 2 year old program. DS is learning so much and really thrives. My only regret is I wish he went 9-2pm instead of the 9-11:30am program because it's so much running around, especially with the baby in tow. But, he's young and I'm not at work so it just seems silly to pay for it so I don't have to spend 3 mornings a week in my car.
lakegirl, I agree with others. Your FILs offer seems genuine and I don't think you're taking advantage. Hope YH comes round.
heybulldog56 and vlagroupie, H is also getting his shots this afternoon. I'm dreading it. It was supposed to be Wednesday but he got a clogged tear duct over the weekend and his eye is gross and gloopy. The Dr agreed to combine his appointments.
weeklyplanner, I lost 30 lb (below pre pregnancy) doing WW after DS1 but remember being on the edge of hungry for the entire time. I should probably stay again but we're going home for 3 weeks soon and dieting while touring different family members homes and eating lots of yummy food will not happen.
It's wet and cold here so we're smuggling in front of the fire watching tv instead of doing grocery shopping and housework.
Post by heybulldog56 on Feb 27, 2017 14:40:42 GMT -5
bazinga, he was... upset (read: red faced screaming) but passed out after a bottle. He was quiet and content when we went to old navy but BOOM. As soon as we got home he screamed for a solid half an hour. He's sleeping now but who knows whether he will spend the rest of the day screaming or peaceful.
weeklyplanner glad to hear that! I'm excited to have her interact more with kids her age and learn more in general. MH is able to drop her off on her way to work so it will be easier with just pickup. It is such a short time frame.
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