PAIF/PgAL Check in 2/27/17

[shandorfml2]

Hi ladies

How are you? Final stretch, can you believe it? I cannot believe it is almost March!

Updates? How are your nurseries and shopping lists coming? 



AFM:
Stress. so. much. stress. Work (boss not being accommodating for my medical issues w/pregnancy), money (have none) house (landlord is selling, we're trying to buy but she is asking to much) and of course PgAL worries. I am now seeing my OB biweekly (soon weekly, probably after this week) and weekly U/S going to biweekly in the next few weeks. My GD isn't under great control yet and that is stressing me out and making me feel guilty. I'm just so overwhelmed. I have 7 weeks left until baby (37 week scheduled C) and I cannot wait. I wonder if I will be able to continue working full time until then. My boss is seriously being a bitch. I am in the process of getting a note from my doctor so I can at least have intermittent FMLA for my doc apts. 

[lastkiss]

That sucks you're boss isn't being accommodating shandorfml2. It's hard enough without adding that stress.

I'm down to 9 weeks as well, which seems surreal at this point but at the same time I can't wait because I'm getting so uncomfortable.

My to do list has stalled because our second crib needs stained which is holding up the nursery. Which means there's no point in washing thing because there's nowhere for it to go.

I'm just hoping I don't go early at this point.

[chknma]

sorry your boss is making it harder shandorfml2. Did you talk to HR about the FMLA paperwork? I know that here we need a specific form filled out but that may be different everywhere. also sorry about the GD struggles. My fasting numbers were a little high last week and I've had all kinds of guilt for not doing a good enough job. Realistically though I keep trying to remind myself that it's just the darn placenta and only so much is going to be under my control....I've needed meds previously so I just need to accept it if it does come to that.

lastkiss, sorry you're feeling uncomfortable. hope you find some relief!

[chknma]

30+1 which means less then 10 weeks since I won't go past DD!!

I finally bought a new car seat and in theory I have all the clothes, etc. we will need in storage

I need to help DH understand what I want to do with sidecaring the crib....and need to figure out clothes/baby stuff storage. I think I'm going to end up getting another kallax unit from Ikea....I don't really want to try and squeeze another dresser anywhere at this point.

right now I'm stressing about making decisions about childcare....not to mention that it is going to cost more then our mortgage....which obviously we knew....but is a little more daunting when the numbers are staring you back in the face.

[icedtea]

I'm sorry work is being so terrible shandorfml2, I hope it gets better.

I'm 27+4 today, which is crazy. chknma, we're also freaking out about childcare. We need to find temp care for the ~three months between when leave ends and we move north, then we'll need to find care up there. Gah. The prices are causing H some panic (me too, but to a lesser degree since I had a better idea of what to expect).

[setsuna17]

shandorfml2, I'm sorry to hear your boss is being a pain. You'd think they know better. My boss is just a goon. He asked if I was due in November. Um...

lastkiss, sorry about feeling uncomfortable. I feel you there.

chknma, icedtea, I'm sorry about the daycare prices. I'm consistently horrified about how much it costs. And the fact that it doesn't necessarily stop after kindergarten enrollment shocks me too. Thank God ours is full day.

AFM, I'm 29 weeks 2 days ish. Feeling nervous about how little time I have left but at the same time can't wait for him to get here.
Still need to buy somewhere for him to sleep and organize all his stuff, but feeling a bit more prepared. We also need to go to storage to find all the random baby stuff we have from DD from 5! years ago and see if it's in good shape. We have good weather this weekend so maybe I'll convince DH to go.

Physically I just feel large and in charge. Still a lot of hip pain (the doc was really unhelpful) but my BHs have subsided so I'm happy about that.

[iheartbroccoli]

shandorfml2 Ugh, so sorry for all of the stress and your boss being such a pain about everything.

lastkiss It sucks being uncomfortable, I am feeling the same.

chknma, icedtea, Ugh on the cost of childcare. It is insane here too.

setsuna17, Yay for BH subsiding!

AFM

It's been a good week, shockingly. We did a 3D ultrasound over the weekend and I loved seeing him move around. He was playing with his cord, which freaked me out but was also fun to watch him play. He looks so much like his brother, which brings both heartache and joy.

I'm majorly stressing about kick counts though. I just want to enjoy the kicks, I don't want to have to think about whether he is moving enough or not. I have 9 weeks before my c-section, and it can't go fast enough.

[shandorfml2]

chknma, yes, working with HR on paperwork. Hopefully things will calm down once I have that in order. You are right about the GD and I keep reminding myself about that as well.
chknma, + icedtea, yes, childcare! arg. I will have two in childcare under three years old and it is SO EXPENSIVE. It's barely worth H working.
setsuna17, november? I would have busted out laughing. He is obviously a man. Sorry about the doc not being helpful regarding the pain...
iheartbroccoli, my first rainbow looked a lot like my angel, which is so bittersweet. we haven't gotten a good look at this little girl's face yet, but I think about if she will look like her sister a lot.

[katie0919]

Hello everyone!!

Doing okay here, 29w + 3d - c-section scheduled for 39w 6d. She would have done 39 weeks if I wanted but I pushed for longer because well, I'm not ready! But I'm soooo friggin sore already. We just have so much to do...an unplanned third baby, I swear I need MORE than I did with baby 2. Since DS2 is still in his crib, we need a new crib & mattress, a double stroller (which we didn't need with DS2 since DS1 & 2 are so far apart in age), TWO new cars since we can't fit 3 car seats in either car, our house is too small, we are trying to figure out if I will still work and if I won't - how are we going to make that work. Just lots of stress and I worry about the stress affecting the baby. I'm getting excited, albeit scared, to have 3 kids though. I don't want to wish away the time in my last pregnancy, but I am starting to have terrible, painful sleep and I just feel old and sore. So, starting to feel ready for baby!

[river]

I'm sorry your boss is stressing you out, shandorfml2. Not understanding the frequency of doctor's appointments must be such a pain. Good luck with FMLA!

lastkiss, we're in the same waiting pattern on the nursery and getting things washed - and 9 weeks for us too!

Congratulations on the new car, chknma! We're in sticker shock over day care prices as well - I could've written exactly what you did. All of the daycares we looked at offered 10% off of "tuition" - for one child! I tried to negotiate both but was unsuccessful.

setsuna17, your feeling large and in charge and your boss thinking you deliver in November made me laugh. You're lucky to have full day kindergarten!

iheartbroccoli, I hear you on the kick count stress!

katie0919, have you looked at Diono carseats? They fit three across in a lot of cars. Several friends/family members with three kids have them with normal-sized cars (Prius and Outback off the top of my head). I found a great site that gave various configurations of three across carseats for varying ages. If I can find it again - of course I didn't bookmark it - I'll message it to you!

[river]

I can't believe it's March and I can't believe I only have nine weeks to go!

Like everyone else it seems, I am stressing over the things not done yet - the nursery, washing baby clothes, organizing the items we'll need right away. Reality sets in occasionally, and I'm reminded that a baby can sleep in a box if necessary and that of course my family or friends would throw some onesies in the wash for me. But still, I worry.

I'm at the OB every two weeks now, and at the last appointment, I told my doc I wanted a c-section. While anecdotal, I've read and heard so many stories of people delivering one twin vaginally, and then needing a c-section for the second, whether because baby B isn't in position or mom is just too exhausted to push any further. I'm hoping to schedule a date tomorrow.

Counting kicks for twins is stressful. I know where they were two weeks ago, and know that baby boy is still in my ribs. But there's been movement from a spot where there wasn't a baby before. I don't know which one shifted and can't always tell who is where since her feet were near his hands...

[lastkiss]

river- I heard those stories too and it completely sold me on a rcs after I found out it was twins!

I hear you on the kick counting too. It's frustrating not knowing who's kicking, although baby boy still seems to be hanging out in my ribs most of the day

[katie0919]

Mar 1, 2017 22:18:16 GMT -5 river said:

I'm sorry your boss is stressing you out, shandorfml2 . Not understanding the frequency of doctor's appointments must be such a pain. Good luck with FMLA!

lastkiss , we're in the same waiting pattern on the nursery and getting things washed - and 9 weeks for us too!

Congratulations on the new car, chknma ! We're in sticker shock over day care prices as well - I could've written exactly what you did. All of the daycares we looked at offered 10% off of "tuition" - for one child! I tried to negotiate both but was unsuccessful.

setsuna17 , your feeling large and in charge and your boss thinking you deliver in November made me laugh. You're lucky to have full day kindergarten!

iheartbroccoli , I hear you on the kick count stress!

katie0919 , have you looked at Diono carseats? They fit three across in a lot of cars. Several friends/family members with three kids have them with normal-sized cars (Prius and Outback off the top of my head). I found a great site that gave various configurations of three across carseats for varying ages. If I can find it again - of course I didn't bookmark it - I'll message it to you!

river - yes, we have the Diono for my 16 month old and have another that we no longer use for my 5 year old - he's too big for it, but I still use a 5 point harnessed deat for him. It doesn't really matter anyway since the leases on both our cars are up in June and July, so we are forced to get new cars anyway. Plus, I REALLY want to be able to use an infant car seat. I've used it with both my boys and they are invaluable when it comes to running errands and the baby falls asleep. I couldn't imagine having to get a sleeping infant out of a car and transfer them to something else when out and about. Unfortunately our cars are just plain impractical for a family of 5!