Telling family?

[beefinch]

I know we are all still early in our pregnancies! And many of the future November17 ladies haven't even had their BFP's yet, but when will (or have) you tell your families?

And how will you do it?
Thought it will be nice to share ideas and hear each other's stories to pass the time!

[beefinch]

My parents are the only ones to know so far, as I wanted to talk to somebody else other than DH about my pregnancy. I just gave them my positive pee stick wrapped up for them to open! They are excited for their 2nd grandchild!

With my MIL & SIL, we are all going out for lunch on march 24th for MIL's birthday, so what I've done is wrote on her Nanny birthday card 'love C and baby #2', we are also giving SIL her birthday card at the same time as her birthday is a week after, and will have the same writing in, so they find out together. I fully expect some tears from both of those two as they are very emotional lol! (I'll be around 8 weeks along then)

I'm going to be telling my best friends this Saturday. But one of my best friends is married to DH's cousin, so she has to promise not to tell anyone in DH/cousins family as we don't want them to know until after our 12wk scan.

I'll probably tell my Nan around that time also, also DH's Nan.

Everyone else can wait until the FB announcement, as I am friends with quite a lot of my extended family and DH's!

[bostonbaker]

I'm not sure. Last time we told family around 7-8 weeks, after we had an ultrasound and saw the heartbeat. We mailed baby socks to my ILs who live in another state, and wrapped them up as gifts for my parents. This time I'm thinking I'll find a big brother shirt for my son maybe? We've got some time still, I'd definitely like to wait until after our ultrasound just in case.

[peggels24]

So I told DH yesterday by pulling a Big Sis shirt out of my bag and asking him what he thought of the new shirt I got for DD. We then put it on for my sister (who is visiting for the week) to see. Other than that, we haven't made any decisions yet about who we are telling and when.

[izz67]

I printed out a coloring page for DD to color and we gave that to MH. It said "Daddy, I'm going to be a big sister!" No one else knows yet. We probably won't tell any friends or family until the end of first tri. We are trying to think of creative ways to tell family. I'm thinking maybe a big sister shirt for DD to wear but we haven't decided anything for sure. I'll be lurking for ideas

[peggels24]

Feb 28, 2017 15:50:04 GMT -5 @thatgolfbitch said:

Feb 28, 2017 15:14:33 GMT -5 izz67 said:

I printed out a coloring page for DD to color and we gave that to MH. It said "Daddy, I'm going to be a big sister!" No one else knows yet. We probably won't tell any friends or family until the end of first tri. We are trying to think of creative ways to tell family. I'm thinking maybe a big sister shirt for DD to wear but we haven't decided anything for sure. I'll be lurking for ideas

I think I am going to get a big sister shirt for DD as well. I like some of the ones on Etsy, but the first page of my search was basically all the same shirt lol.

Hahah thanks @thatgolfbitch, I fell down into that rabbit hole known as Etsy!  I can't decide which ones I like the best.  

[bethkate]

I have a cousin who knows already, but that's it. She went through IVF too and knew I was cycling, so I told her right away. I won't tell any other family until after 11-12 weeks, most likely.

**warning-losses mentioned** I've had two previous pregnancies with good heartbeats at 6-7 weeks that resulted in losses at 7 and 10 weeks, so it'll be a while until I feel comfortable going public. Calling to tell my dad I'm miscarrying is not something I want to experience again.

When we do tell family, I'll probably just make a few phone calls and let the news spread. Maybe I'll come up with something cute to do before then, but my head just isn't there yet.

[izz67]

Feb 28, 2017 15:50:04 GMT -5 @thatgolfbitch said:

Feb 28, 2017 15:14:33 GMT -5 izz67 said:

I printed out a coloring page for DD to color and we gave that to MH. It said "Daddy, I'm going to be a big sister!" No one else knows yet. We probably won't tell any friends or family until the end of first tri. We are trying to think of creative ways to tell family. I'm thinking maybe a big sister shirt for DD to wear but we haven't decided anything for sure. I'll be lurking for ideas

I think I am going to get a big sister shirt for DD as well. I like some of the ones on Etsy, but the first page of my search was basically all the same shirt lol.

I thought the same. I haven't narrowed my search down yet though.

[blabbermouth]

We've told both sets of parents. My mom knew we were doing an IUI, so she was texting me asking me if I'd tested yet! My husband told his dad and sister right away too. It's weird when people know you've been trying for a long time and are taking extra measures, it is way harder to keep it a secret!

Neither of us did anything special or cute unfortunately! 

[lilrubberduckie]

I told dh by making chocolate covered pretzels then drawing a stick figure family picture with the extra chocolate, I had a bump. Then I broke a few pretzels to spell two and wrote # two is due.

We have a "sister bear" and "baby bear" shirt that we will use to tell mil and fil probably next week. And then we will tell my mom on skype with dd in shirt and everyone else at Easter. From there we will post a fb announcement when we are out of first tri

[cnf2013]

We always tell our parents right away. We'll likely tell them this weekend now that my tests are so dark. Or next weekend after I have a few beta results. Not sure yet. If we have another loss we'd want their support anyways.

We'll go public after our 8 week scan. Not sure how yet, but we bought DD a "big sister" shirt so at some point we'll put that on her.

I'll text my best friend at some point too prior to going public. This will be me lapping her, having my second in the time she's been trying for her first, so I want to respect her feelings given she's confided in me about their treatments.

[bethkate]

Mar 10, 2017 7:49:12 GMT -5 cnf2013 said:

I'll text my best friend at some point too prior to going public. This will be me lapping her, having my second in the time she's been trying for her first, so I want to respect her feelings given she's confided in me about their treatments.

Definitely tell her through text. Being lapped sucks. Also, if you post on FB, see if you can hide the post from her. Even when you know it's coming, FB pregnancy announcements sting.

[pootsen]

I told my parents the day after I got my BFP. We are super close and we see them all the time - there's no way I could've kept it a secret from them! My MIL's birthday is in early April so we might tell her/FIL then - DH wants to sign her bday card from "baby #2" 😊

We will probably tell our siblings and friends after my first appt.

[cnf2013]

Mar 10, 2017 7:57:45 GMT -5 bethkate said:

Mar 10, 2017 7:49:12 GMT -5 cnf2013 said:

I'll text my best friend at some point too prior to going public. This will be me lapping her, having my second in the time she's been trying for her first, so I want to respect her feelings given she's confided in me about their treatments.

Definitely tell her through text. Being lapped sucks. Also, if you post on FB, see if you can hide the post from her. Even when you know it's coming, FB pregnancy announcements sting.

Good idea. When I'm ready to tell her I may pick the brains of you and others here to make sure I say the right things.

[bethkate]

Mar 10, 2017 8:04:11 GMT -5 cnf2013 said:

Mar 10, 2017 7:57:45 GMT -5 bethkate said:

Definitely tell her through text. Being lapped sucks. Also, if you post on FB, see if you can hide the post from her. Even when you know it's coming, FB pregnancy announcements sting.

Good idea. When I'm ready to tell her I may pick the brains of you and others here to make sure I say the right things.

Ask away! IMO, you just gotta rip the bandaid. "I want you to know that I'm pregnant. I'm x weeks now. Please don't feel like you have to respond. Love you."

[peggels24]

So I think I'm going to tell my nephew and my BFF on Thursday - they are coming over to dinner before they go away for a couple of weeks and so they won't be here after my appointment on the 23rd. If that appointment goes well, I'll tell the rest of my family. We'll probably tell the IL's on Easter.

[cnf2013]

Wellllllllll, I just told the other health teacher and my mentor. My mentor knew about my loss and the three of us were talking kid age gaps, so I spilled the news to them.

[jentech84]

We told our families last weekend. With our first we did cute things, this time we just had our daughter tell everyone. She mumbled it the first couple times, then shouted it proudly the last few lol.

[RoLoMa]

I told my dad over the phone yesterday by just asking him how he felt knowing he was going to be a grandpa of two. He knew we had done our IUI and I am guessing was expecting some sort of answer. I also told my cousin (who happens to be my bff) by sending a picture of the pee stick and captioning it with "Oops, I did it again"

My H was at work when I found out. He sent a text saying "I love you guys" so I sent him a picture of the pee stick and asked back "Even the newest member of our family?" The test was super light so he was confused until I explained that there was indeed a 2nd line.

We have dinner at my mom's house tonight so I am going over early and will probably tell her then. I am not sure how but I might go looking for a big brother shirt if I get ambitious enough.

As for our social media announcement, it will probably be around 14 weeks or so again like last time. I am still figuring out something cute for that. I will tell my boss in a few weeks though since it will affect a few aspects of my job.

[flazz]

I think I am going to tell my family over Easter. I am planning on getting them easter eggs to open that will have a little message inside to let them know.

[zonagirl]

I told my best friend from high school/college just two days after my BFP. I was visiting from out of town and I felt like I had to explain why I wasn't drinking. I told my cousin, who is one of my best friends by having my DD hand her a battery (it's a running joke as a way to announce a pregnancy with us) and I told a couple mom friends and my mom and stepdad by putting my DD in a big sister shirt. I also told my hairdresser. I'm awful at keeping it on the DL! I think I'm going to wait to tell the rest of my family until I'm about ten weeks, so my cousin and I can tell everyone together (she's two weeks ahead of me).

[pootsen]

I keep telling DS that there's a baby in momma's belly. He says, "NO, I'm da baby!" lol I know there's still a lot of time for him to get used to the idea but I foresee a difficult transition...

[Deleted]

We decided not to tell DH's family while we are in Disney with them this week. Hopefully, everyone will be cool and it won't come up. We'll tell them around 8 weeks after I've told my mom.
We'll tell the kids after the first tri, before we announce to the rest of the world/social media. I was thinking shirts because DD can read. Like, we would give her a shirt first, then hope she gets it after DS gets a Big Brother shirt, rather than Little Brother. Still thinking about it.
I have an excellent FB/IG announcement that I've been working on for awhile in preparation for this moment. DH also came up with something yesterday that's really cute and funny. We might just have an album of announcements! My birthday is the first week of my second tri, so I may do it then.

[blabbermouth]

Mar 10, 2017 12:23:41 GMT -5 zonagirl said:

I told my best friend from high school/college just two days after my BFP. I was visiting from out of town and I felt like I had to explain why I wasn't drinking. I told my cousin, who is one of my best friends by having my DD hand her a battery (it's a running joke as a way to announce a pregnancy with us) and I told a couple mom friends and my mom and stepdad by putting my DD in a big sister shirt. I also told my hairdresser. I'm awful at keeping it on the DL! I think I'm going to wait to tell the rest of my family until I'm about ten weeks, so my cousin and I can tell everyone together (she's two weeks ahead of me).

I told my hairdresser too, lol. 

[izz67]

Mar 10, 2017 11:05:45 GMT -5 flazz said:

I think I am going to tell my family over Easter. I am planning on getting them easter eggs to open that will have a little message inside to let them know.

I think we might tell our family at Easter too. I saw some cute Easter related announcements on Pinterest. I have ordered my DD a big sister shirt so I'm not sure exactly how we'll tell them.

[amadine23]

With DS we called both sets of our parents about an hour after the pee stick dried. We're doing pretty well this time.... We kept the secret 3 whole days! Lol. But honestly, I think we'll probably tell all the grandparents tomorrow. We're close with them and will definitely want them to know if we miscarry.

[Deleted]

I think I will tell my parents when we see them next weekend, since they aren't local and it would be nice to tell them in person. Plus if I had a loss I would want them to know. Everyone else will probably be around the 12 week mark, though I'm sure my closest friends will figure it out pretty quickly. I'm not usually one to turn down wine.

[cnf2013]

I turned down wine last night at a girl's night at a friend's house. No one seemed to notice, thankfully.

[Deleted]

JK, we are probably going to tell my ILs today. DH and I suck at secrets.

[cnf2013]

Ok, well, we just told my folks. Telling my IL's will happen tomorrow.