Telling family?

[alisa]

I ordered hollow quail eggs that you crack open to see a message inside that says "We're Egg-specting" from an etsy shop. I thought it was a perfect idea for spring/Easter. www.etsy.com/listing/225603668/crack-me-pregnancy-announcement-quail?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=egg%20announcement&ref=sc_gallery_2&plkey=4366706604a88e8f86759dc7a46e12725d0997a1:225603668

[amadine23]

We told both sets of grandparents this weekend. My ILs were excited. Both of my parents were more nervous than excited. They're worried about me getting sick again...

[pootsen]

We told MIL/FIL today. We had DS wear a big brother shirt and when we got to their house it took them forever to notice it. MIL was yammering on about something until finally DH was like "hey, look at D's new shirt!" Lol then they both got the biggest goofiest smiles.

[lgraceh]

I think we will start telling at Easter. Both sets of parents knew we were doing IVF, but we kept quiet on the transfer date. I think we will get the personalized wine glasses (for grandmas) and whiskey glasses (for grandpas). We will see my mom and stepdad on Easter weekend and I will probably say I have some wine I want them to try and hand them the glasses and see how long it takes them to recognize what it says. Rinse and repeat for DH's parents. My dad's birthday is the weekend after, so he will get a personalized beer stein to open.

[grumpycat88]

We are going to do a "Big Brother" shirt for my mom & in-laws probably closer to 12 weeks. I honestly don't know how far along I am so we will be waiting on the dating ultrasound in two weeks to figure that out. We told DS already, but he doesn't get it yet so no worries on him spilling the beans

[grumpycat88]

Mar 14, 2017 14:41:57 GMT -5 @thatgolfbitch said:

Well we have told all our close family. But I got this shirt for our facebook reveal. I couldn't help myself. Getting a 3 year old to sit still should be a piece of cake, right?


I fully plan on bribing my kid with food so that he will sit still for a picture in his big brother shirt. 

PS i love that shirt.

[whoopsadaisy]

So, ideally, we'd like to wait to tell people until I'm at least 12 weeks. But, we have this trip planned to go to the Bahamas in May. I was so excited about it! We went last year with my In-Laws and it was lovely and relaxing. Then I got my BFP and a few days after that I started googling. Turns out the Bahamas are now on the CDC list of places not to travel due to ZIka risk (It wasn't last year when we went - we started thinking about trying then and if you get ZIka they recommended at least 6 m before TTC). My In-Law's got a condo and invited my parents and us to stay with them for the week. So if I bail because of a risk of ZIka, my DS can't go, so my DH won't wanna go and, of course, my parents don't want to hang out alone with my in-laws without their grandson. I need to talk to my Dr, but our plan at the moment is for me to go, wear long sleeves and pants constantly, bathe in DEET and basically hang out in the air conditioned condo for the week. Sucks, but not as much as everyone missing their vacation. Plus, I'd rather be with my family than here alone or alone with DS.

Okay, said all of that to say, I think we have to tell my parents and In-Laws soon. My In-Laws are not local, but are coming to stay with us this weekend and I think we will tell them this weekend, even tho I'd rather wait. DH feels like they should know because of the impact on vacation and so they can help us prepare. I'm so stressed out about this whole damn mess.

[kekaellypula]

We told the parents, my wife had to tell work because she has to go on a profile (limits certain activities). And this past weekend we did a video announcement and posted it to Facebook and Youtube for people to find out.

[beefinch]

+1 to what everything Miss Killjoy said.

whoopsadaisy, would your in laws suggest not going? I know if I was you in your situation my in laws would just say "that's to much risk, shall we plan for the year after?", then that way it would take the pressure of you if they suggested it.

But then again I always get bitten alive by those assholes. Saying that I only got bitten once on our honeymoon.

[peggels24]

Mar 15, 2017 12:10:05 GMT -5 @catvaughn said:

I'm paranoid about zika just living down south. If the bugs are out this summer, I will be inside.

I am paranoid and I'm up north but that's because if there's 10 people sitting outside, I will be the one covered in mosquito bites by the end of the evening and no one else will even realize they are there.  They love my blood.

[RoLoMa]

Stupid zika. We are travelling to Florida at the end of this month and I was super paranoid about it but I checked today and there are no areas considered as active transmission anymore so I am a bit more comfortable. I will, of course, take all of the precautions but there was only one case of locally transmitted zika in the area we are going and it was in 2016.

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Mar 15, 2017 13:09:27 GMT -5 RoLoMa said:

Stupid zika. We are travelling to Florida at the end of this month and I was super paranoid about it but I checked today and there are no areas considered as active transmission anymore so I am a bit more comfortable. I will, of course, take all of the precautions but there was only one case of locally transmitted zika in the area we are going and it was in 2016.

Disney offers free insect repellent in the hotels and parks. I haven't even seen any mosquitos since we've been here, but it has also been unusually cool this week.

[whoopsadaisy]

Argh, I feel a little crazy about this. I mean, on the one hand, of course Miss Killjoy is right. Our vacation is not worth any risk to the baby. On the other hand, I'm not sure I'm really going to put the baby at risk. I guess anything could happen and that's scary enough, but I really intend to stay indoors the whole time we are there. There have only been like 25 cases in the Bahamas and none are from the island we are going to. I'm not trying to convince anyone here that this isn't insane, I fully recognize that I sound pretty crazy-town and I appreciate all of you being so nice and not just saying that point blank. I also think my Doc is gonna say hell-to-the-no.
I guess I posted it here because this whole sitch is why we are telling family early. We can't just bail on the trip without our parents understanding why we are doing that and if we do decide to go, they are going to need to understand the dynamics of the trip will change if I'm inside all the time. So we are telling the in-laws this weekend so we can start to decide what to do. Like beefinch said, they may just wanna postpone or change the whole trip.
Agreed, Zika is stupid, RoLoMa.

[pootsen]

Sorry you have to face that decision whoopsadaisy. It's definitely a tough one!

[pandora89]

We old our parents and siblings already since they all knew we did IVF. I also told my BFF but that's it.

My dad already blabbed to my 3 aunts, which I am annoyed about because I begged him not to tell anyone since it was super early. It's his first grandchild so he is thrilled.