Post by skinandbones on Mar 10, 2017 7:58:25 GMT -5
mrspiatt, if you haven't already done so, I think its time to get a lawyer involved even if it's just a consult. And document, document, document. Even if it's just "dear diary, DH said nothing to anyone all day and played video games."
mrspiatt, why? why does he think he even deserves it? i think it's time you pack up for you and a, and your dd if she wants to come, and go stay somewhere else for a bit. OR pack up your h and have him stay somewhere else for a bit, you know, until he comes back to his senses.
And if you don't like that, then tell him, hell to the no and he can fuck off.
It is seriously time to have a chat with your H. Pronto. This idea of you being a bad mom is bull shit. Complete and utter bull shit. You need to stop letting these people make you feel bad and walk all over you. The time has come to put your foot down. Have a come to jesus talk with your H. He either has your back and you're in this together or he can leave. Period. Cause seriously, fuck his bull shit.
My mom is home. She is on prednisone for a skin lupus flare up and the ED dr said he thinks it was that. Her BP was 207/110 once they finally saw her.. blood work and EKG clear and they got it down and sent her home. She is supposed to call her dr today to see what's next. Thanks for the good thoughts!
the C man seems to think 4:30 is a good time to get up. Not today buddy, not today.
Tomorrow is the photo shoot at Epcot, we have to be at the front gates to the park at 7:15am. It takes us 45 mins to drive there. so tomorrow is a good day to get up at 4:30, but who wants to bet I will have to wake his sleepy ass up?
oh and redandblue - i think you need to make a list of all the reasons you cancelled the trip and why you need to put your marriage first. I also think you need to point out that decisions aren't being made for the girls trip, as of right now it's all theory, and let them know, you love them and would love to go but sometimes we don't get to do all the things we want too. (and bring all this to the "emergency meeting")
I also think maybe you can salvage some of it (i mean if you want too) by suggesting a fun night out like dinner or drinks, stay at a fancy hotel and get massages or pedicures or something the next day. and have a nice lunch. So you can do it on like a Friday or Saturday night so you don't miss work, no flights needed, split the cost of 1 room making it less expensive and find a groupon deal or something for some spa treatments. That way you all get to have a girls night/day but still not spend a ton of money. And you get your bday celebration with your H. win win?!! yes?
(runs off to call girlfriends to organize for myself now....thanks for the idea @redanblue)
Look at @janetheconquerer with that calm head. We're all "screw that drama" and she's team "save the friendship". Good job Sara. ☺long term friendships are probably not worth losing over some drama.
I'm trying not to eat because I'm bored at work. My snacking has been terrible, and I'm out of snacks I brought, so I've got what's available in the vending machine. But I'm bored. And hungry.
Thanks ladies. I'm sure the meeting will be more along the lines of what @mrspanpan said and perhaps looking at how we can make it all work. Great ideas @janetheconquerer but the ridiculous thing about it is that there are already plans to do that kind of stuff! Lol. So there are 5 of us. We all turn 40 this year, Jan, March, Sept (same day for me an my most dramatic friend! Lol) and October. So far for Jan we went away over night to niagara falls, wine tour, dinner out, club. March there is a plan to go out to a local bar/pub. September my friend is talking about wanting to go ice skating and dinner. Not sure yet about Oct. Point being there is no lack of time together to celebrate. So in my books we are already win/win. Honestly my one friend struggles with her mental health and can be dramatic with various topics. Sometimes hard to determine when that will happen. So I do not intend to lose my friendships over this, but it does put a wrinkle (which come and go over the years).
Tl;dr no plans to lose friends, who can be a tad dramatic. Most likely will try to come to some sort of compromise.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Thanks for checking in. I'm emotionally and physically exhausted. I woke up not feeling right today and I think all of this stress is just starting to break me down. I've already cried twice today at work and I'm not really sure what is triggering it.
I think am going to step away for the day and just try to recollect myself.
So the stupid saga of Red's crazy friends continues. They are calling an 'emergency meeting' to get together and chat. I'm hesitant, but agreed to go. It's Sunday evening. If these bitches make me feel bad or put me under the firing squad I'm out. I'm only entertaining it if they are thinking about a possible down grade to our original trip idea. I can't believe how freaking ridiculous this is getting. Like am in grade 7 again???
You should get pizza for the meeting. Then you can be like:
@mrspanpan, peace and comfort, to you and your family during this time. mrspiatt, please put you and A 1st, keep all options open and document everything.
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