TTCAL 3/8

[scoutradley]

I didn't see this posted recently so I thought I would. I think it's usually done in Tuesday but I didn't realize until today that it hadn't been posted recently.

The Trying to Conceive After a Loss thread is posted once a week (generally on Tuesday) for those of us who have unfortunately experienced a loss. No matter what type of loss you've experienced, from miscarriage to stillbirth to the loss of a child, it is heartbreaking. This thread is to help us commiserate, get support, and to try to navigate trying to conceive, after a loss, every week.

Out of respect to all the ladies here, please add a trigger warning if you decide to talk about any living children and please hide your signature if it contains pictures or tickers of babies or children. We also kindly ask for grads to refrain from commenting in this thread.

**If this is your first check-in, and you would like to provide a gtky loss history intro go for it. If not, no worries!**

How are you doing?

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched):

Diagnosis (if applicable):

Updates/questions:

Debbie downer (a place to vent):

QOTW: Romantic Comedy or Action?

[ldubhawksfan]

I was wondering if gku had an AL check in

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I had 1 loss, BO at 9 wks 2.5 years ago, before having my rainbow DD. We started trying again, got pregnant quickly (which was shocking since we dealt with IF the 1st time around), things were fine until I started to spot at 11 weeks and we had lost the heartbeat. Testing showed it was trisomy 18.

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): ttc 1st cycle

Diagnosis (if applicable): n/a

Updates/questions: just waiting for this end of the cycle. I'm glad to be ttc again.

Debbie downer (a place to vent): I feel like I'm going to disconnect a lot from the next pregnancy. Getting almost out of 1st tri and then the shoe dropping just makes me feel like I'll never be safe to be confident.

QOTW: Romantic Comedy or Action? Action

[scoutradley]

@idubhawksfan I'm so sorry about your loss. Waiting for the the cycle to return is so frustrating. I am currently waiting on mine to return as well. It feels like the longest time. I hope you will feel more connected then you fear next time. It's okay to be excited and scared too. **hugs**

[scoutradley]

How are you doing? I am having both good and bad days. Yesterday was rough, I had to keep busy all day because if I slowed down, I wanted to cry. I also was feeling antisocial for most of last week.

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): originally we were TTA but we have BD once unprotected so I guess it's now NTNP until next cycle.

Diagnosis (if applicable): PID

Updates/questions: still waiting on my cycle. Assuming my body acts like the m/c was a late AF, I should start this weekend.

Debbie downer (a place to vent): 1) this has felt like the longest four weeks of my life. 2) (living child mentioned) my MIL posted TWICE on FB about our loss. We have not posted about it, we hadn't even announced the pregnancy because it was very early and I'm unbelievably pissed that she feels like she can run all over our privacy and personal pain like that. I get that she "lost a grandchild" but she never asked our permission. We had a suspected m/c the June before conceiving DS2 (***tw***late period, one BFP followed the next day by BFN and bleeding ***tw end**) and she ran around telling people which pissed me off because we were unable to confirm whether that was a m/c and I felt it was a shitty thing to say "oh I m/c" when lots of women had known for sure they had. Sorry, I'm really pissed about this today.

QOTW: Romantic Comedy or Action? Rom Com.

[ldubhawksfan]

scoutradley

I'm so sorry. That is really shitty of your MIL

[MsG]

How are you doing? Ok - this month has had ups and downs.

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTC

Diagnosis (if applicable): PCOS

Updates/questions: After my cycle returned post-loss, I became super regular for a while - like 28 or 29 cycle days every month. It was absolutely unheard of for me. But of course, just as I got used to it, this month has decided to be a little longer. I think it'll be like 33 or 34 days, which isn't horrible but seems like the potential first step toward a return to irregular cycles.

Debbie downer (a place to vent): Nothing specific to vent about at the moment other than the general frustration of knowing next month marks a year of trying. I was really hoping to avoid that particular milestone.

QOTW: Romantic Comedy or Action? Definitely romantic comedy. I am not really into action movies.

ldubhawksfan, I am so sorry for your loss!

scoutradley, I am so sorry to see you here too! And I would be LIVID with my mother-in-law if she pulled that. I'm sure she's sad too, but this is absolutely not about her and it's not her place to share your news. I'd definitely have a conversation about it once you can do it with a cool head. I remember being absolutely frantic in my first two months post loss and cannot imagine having had to deal with additional drama on top of that.

[scoutradley]

MsG I'm sorry about your cycles. I hope they don't get too irregular. Also, I hope you don't get too much past one year before getting pregnant.

They (MIL and step-fil) have repeatedly run all over our direct wishes no matter how many times we go to them and explain that their behavior is unacceptable. In fact we went about 6 months without speaking with them last year because they downright refused to respect our decisions. I'm trying to decide if this is worth the headache of bringing it up, as fussing about it now won't take it back. Although at this point I'm definitely rethinking telling them about a pregnancy in the future.

[MsG]

scoutradley, Eek that's super frustrating. If it were me, I definitely wouldn't tell them about anything until I was ready for everyone to know. But you'll have to do what feels right for you. Hang in there and kudos for keeping your cool!

[scoutradley]

Mar 12, 2017 9:05:25 GMT -5 MsG said:

scoutradley, Eek that's super frustrating. If it were me, I definitely wouldn't tell them about anything until I was ready for everyone to know. But you'll have to do what feels right for you. Hang in there and kudos for keeping your cool!

I'm all for not telling. I just have to get H to agree.