I always want to post on Parenting but look how long it took for me to join you guys.
I have a big box of papers that need filing sitting on a shelf in the basement. I hate doing the filing- so I found some stuff that could have been important maybe 2 years ago and I just shredded it. It was mostly DH's stuff.
Trying to participate in Parenting is giving me anxiety. I think I'll have to quit cold turkey.
I can't keep up on the daily threads. Maybe pick something of interest and just stay there for a while? I keep up with the Blinds, Whole Life Challenge, and Kon Mari. It's pretty rare that I'm caught up enough to be able to comment in real time on other things there.
We still haven't gotten around to getting DS1's birth certificate. Oops. Guess we'll be killing two birds with one stone and getting both our boys' birth certificates at the same time.
I only got S's only because she was in the hospital 9 weeks. I had time to pop in and get it, then go see her. I probably wouldn't have gotten it until we had to fly last year, if she had come home with me right away.
1st BFP: 07/24/2014 Due: 04/08/2015 MC: 08/31/2014 2nd BFP 10/22/2014 Due: 07/06/2015 Surprise preemie born 4/25/2015 at 29 weeks and 5 days My Rainbow is Here!
1st BFP: 07/24/2014 Due: 04/08/2015 MC: 08/31/2014 2nd BFP 10/22/2014 Due: 07/06/2015 Surprise preemie born 4/25/2015 at 29 weeks and 5 days My Rainbow is Here!
MIL got a job offer in NY for 4 weeks, but wasn't able to go since she couldn't get there right away. Part of me wanted her to take it, because sometimes she gets on my nerves (she lives with us). Part of me is okay with her not getting it, because I'll need her to watch S a few days in the next few weeks.
1st BFP: 07/24/2014 Due: 04/08/2015 MC: 08/31/2014 2nd BFP 10/22/2014 Due: 07/06/2015 Surprise preemie born 4/25/2015 at 29 weeks and 5 days My Rainbow is Here!
1. A journalist here has been widely criticized for claiming that having children (she recently had twins) has meant a lower quality of life for her. A male journalist laid into her yesterday (For some serious mansplaining of maternity en español: www.telecinco.es/msplayer/popup.html?contentId=MDSVID20170309_0043&clippingId=12.jpg&clippingContentId=MDSVID20170309_0043&boardId=4000001&start=7.636) I agree with her. I think the reason she's getting criticized so much is that those of us who feel this way keep silent. I ended up crying on the floor with DS the other day because I just couldn't do it anymore. I adore him and do not regret having him at all but I simply cannot deny that my quality of life has "gone down"/changed dramatically. I used to work thirteen hour days and earn triple what my husband did. I now work part time and earn half what he does. Work's not everything, but the transition is still tough some days - and DS is 20 months old. My relationship has also changed hugely, not necessarily for the better. How can this man blame Samanta for alleging that her quality of life has gone down? What gives him the balls to even think he has the right to judge her? If ya ain't been there, don't even speculate, bud. She makes a great rebuttal at the end of the clip. I wish I could thank her for making such a taboo statement.
2. I bought chocolate cake and hid it from my husband. It's not in the car, but I'm seriously hoping he can't find it. Dude ate ALL the chocolate that I had bought to make cookies. He claims he's on a diet.
1st BFP: 07/24/2014 Due: 04/08/2015 MC: 08/31/2014 2nd BFP 10/22/2014 Due: 07/06/2015 Surprise preemie born 4/25/2015 at 29 weeks and 5 days My Rainbow is Here!
Post by lovemyirishtwins on Mar 10, 2017 10:18:17 GMT -5
Viv has been so upset this morning with her ears and the antibiotic has given her diarrhea. So at this point I am giving her what she wants to appease her. It's tic tacs and iPad.
DS is still going to daycare almost everyday (not the full 8 hrs though) even though I'm home on mat leave. I told the daycare teachers I'm working from home, even though I don't start WFH for two more weeks. Since they handle eleventy kids at once, I was worried they'd side eye me for not wanting to take on my own children full time.
DS is still going to daycare almost everyday (not the full 8 hrs though) even though I'm home on mat leave. I told the daycare teachers I'm working from home, even though I don't start WFH for two more weeks. Since they handle eleventy kids at once, I was worried they'd side eye me for not wanting to take on my own children full time.
Not flame worthy at all!!! Do not feel bad or guilty about this! I sent DS1 to daycare too during mat leave. It wasn't for the full 8 hours either but it was totally worth it. His schedule was not interrupted and he could still learn and play with his friends. It helped my mental state tremendously and it helped him with the transition. He would have been bored with me at home while trying to juggle newborn with no sleep.
Post by nutmeg8484 on Mar 10, 2017 10:42:31 GMT -5
I'm irrationally upset that Disney channel isn't playing Tangled today as a lead up to Tangled Before Ever After. Mostly because now I'm going to have to dig out my copy and hook up the Blu Ray player.
Diagnosis: PCOS TTC since 1/12 IUI x 3- BFN IVF #1- OCT/ NOV 2013-BFN FET #1- February 12 2014- M/C at 5+4 FET #2- July 2014- BFN IVF #2- 11/9/14 Transferred 1 BB expanding blast Baby girl born 7/26/15 Hysteroscopy/D&C/Polyp removal- 10/16 Unexpected BFP 12/16- EDD: 8/11/17- It's a Boy!
DS is still going to daycare almost everyday (not the full 8 hrs though) even though I'm home on mat leave. I told the daycare teachers I'm working from home, even though I don't start WFH for two more weeks. Since they handle eleventy kids at once, I was worried they'd side eye me for not wanting to take on my own children full time.
Absolutely no flames! I did this with DD2 and it was so worth it to be able to focus on her (and me) without needing to keep an active toddler entertained. I also think it was good for the toddler to be able to keep her regular routine. I don't think any teacher would side eye you for this. Obviously it isn't always feasible (or affordable), but if you can do it, I absolutely agree.
Related FFFC: I want to be a SAHM, but I also want to have a 3rd kid. Part of the reason I'm not SAH now is because I want my other kids to be in daycare during my "maternity leave" for #3. The other part is because I haven't gotten my husband on board with the plan yet...
DS is still going to daycare almost everyday (not the full 8 hrs though) even though I'm home on mat leave. I told the daycare teachers I'm working from home, even though I don't start WFH for two more weeks. Since they handle eleventy kids at once, I was worried they'd side eye me for not wanting to take on my own children full time.
I have already been wishing we had a little mom's morning out program or something around here where I will get a morning of peace after H goes back to work. And H WFH, so if there's an emergency I'll still have backup. But I'm kind of terrified about what next week is going to look like 😐 Maybe my confession is that I'm kind of terrified of being alone with both of my children at the same time?? Haha
My kids go to daycare when I have school vacation, days off for holidays, and a reduced schedule during the summer. I pay for it so we use it. They both love school- their friends and teachers, and they need the routine. Also, since DH gets home late every night sometimes I pick them up later than usual, like 5ish instead of 4 cause 2 on 1, especially 2 overactive boys, is very overwhelming sometimes.
My coworker is in a shitty situation. Her husband lost his tech job, she's 20 weeks pregnant, they have a 14 month old baby. Husband took off to India for a month for a vacation with a former coworker (female) who is there for work. So he's having like his own mid-30s Eat Pray Love crisis. So coworker is solo parenting for this month while he's off doing yoga in India.
I'm super duper judging the fact that she CANNOT get to work on time with him gone. And I'm super duper patting myself on the back for getting myself and two kids out of the house, and getting to work on time every.single.day.
I'm the worst.
I'd be depressed AF if that were me and wouldn't want to move a muscle. I don't know her, but maybe this is why? That's a sad situation to be in. I'd be so pissed at my husband for traveling and spending money after losing his job and especially to go with another woman? NOPE. I'd be miserable.
On the flip side, I'm a lot like you. I'm on time every damn day. A takes forever getting ready but I allot for that time in our routine to get us out the door every morning.
Post by mrsbeachcat on Mar 10, 2017 11:46:02 GMT -5
elenetxu I feel like there hasn't been a good public discourse about how having children changes your life... it's all either "children are a blessing/you chose this and how dare you complain" or "children will make your life a living hell and you'll want to drown yourself in wine everyday". For me, the truth is somewhere in the middle, but knowing that when I return to work full time I'll be penalized for the time I took off definitely chaps my hide.
My kids go to daycare when I have school vacation, days off for holidays, and a reduced schedule during the summer. I pay for it so we use it. They both love school- their friends and teachers, and they need the routine. Also, since DH gets home late every night sometimes I pick them up later than usual, like 5ish instead of 4 cause 2 on 1, especially 2 overactive boys, is very overwhelming sometimes.
Sam currently say "cool dudes" instead of sunglasses and I'm pretty sure I am never going to correct him because its so cute. He'll figure it.out eventually, right?
I was talking with an old friend this morning and I just started spilling out all the emotions I've been having lately. I've been super moody the past couple of days and I get so annoyed with my son way faster than I should.
FFFC: I feel like 25-30% of the time I really don't like being a parent... and I feel horrible feeling that way.
elenetxu I'm so afraid DH is going to eat all the GS cookies. I hid a box of thin mints because those are my favorite. I can only eat like 2 a day, so I'm afraid he is just going to outpace me.
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