Happy St Patrick's day people! Did you put your kids in green?
I gave mine the option of his green care bear birthday shirt or the kiss me I'm Irish tuxedo tee that was a wee big last year. He chose the tuxedo shirt. No picture because I'm bad at that part of being a mom.
He wore his only green shirt earlier this week. So today he's wearing the green sweater I got him for Christmas. It's a v-neck like you're supposed to put a collared shirt under it. So he's showing a little skin at the top. His new teachers are going to think we're hipsters.
FFFC: I'm realizing this is the first year that one of the grandparents didn't send a St. Patrick's Day T-shirt. Apparently it never occurred to me that this should be my own responsibility. LOL
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on Mar 17, 2017 7:32:07 GMT -5
H took today off so he could get his teeth cleaned, he will be home with me once his appointment is over. I'm annoyed and considering getting dressed to go into the office instead of working from home. Also, who takes then entire day off work to get your teeth cleaned at 8am?
Post by chrispy1122 on Mar 17, 2017 7:32:55 GMT -5
vlagroupie still weighing all the options. Had a phone interview with a nanny that seems awesome. H is looking at a daycare today and next Thursday we are checking out the Montessori school. H's mom also texted us last night saying that she would be interested in nannying for us, but would need to be paid since she would have to quit her job.
FFFC: I'm realizing this is the first year that one of the grandparents didn't send a St. Patrick's Day T-shirt. Apparently it never occurred to me that this should be my own responsibility. LOL
I know. I never think of it. But I also hate buying something she'll probably only wear once. But grandma got this shirt for her and I think she could probably wear it again.
vlagroupie still weighing all the options. Had a phone interview with a nanny that seems awesome. H is looking at a daycare today and next Thursday we are checking out the Montessori school. H's mom also texted us last night saying that she would be interested in nannying for us, but would need to be paid since she would have to quit her job.
This process is wearing me out.
That's interesting about his mom. Would you want her to do it? Is she asking for payment that fits your budget? If she's close to retirement age that might be a good option for you guys if she's cool to quit her job.
vlagroupie still weighing all the options. Had a phone interview with a nanny that seems awesome. H is looking at a daycare today and next Thursday we are checking out the Montessori school. H's mom also texted us last night saying that she would be interested in nannying for us, but would need to be paid since she would have to quit her job.
This process is wearing me out.
I think it would make me nervous to hire my mom or MIL for this. An anecdote: Our neighbors at our old house did this. Grandma quit her job to watch the baby when their first daughter was born, and then they had another baby 2 years later. It has worked out pretty well for the most part. However, there are some things they aren't happy with. For instance, they both work downtown (ish), live over near Forest Park, and Grandma lives in West Chester. So their commute to pick up the kids from grandma's house and drive back home in the evenings is terrible. They didn't really expect that. They compromised so that grandma comes to their house 2 days a week, and the kids go to hers 3 days. Then at some point last year, they started talking about moving. the problem is, they ideally want to be on the west side, but now they're locked into this childcare arrangement. They can't look for different child care, because it would be nearly impossible for grandma to go back into the workforce at this point. So moving closer to West Chester is pretty much their only option and they're struggling to be able to afford it.
So I guess the reason it would make me nervous is because there's no going back. It's hard to anticipate what sort of problems/inconvenience there could be in that arrangement, and if you're not happy with it, you're still just kind of stuck.
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on Mar 17, 2017 7:51:26 GMT -5
chrispy1122 That's essentially what we did with my mom for 3 years. It was nice in a lot of ways, but because it was my mom, I had a hard time addressing things I didn't want her doing. Another thing, since you'll be paying her, you may want to make sure you're on the same page for tax purposes. If you plan to claim her wages as childcare expenses, then she needs to report it as earned income. If she doesn't, it may come back to bite her or both of you in the ass. We paid my mom "under the table", it was just easier that way.
Here. Boys went in green today, but I failed to get the obligatory picture.
Random, but if any of you ladies are wanting to stockup on RTU formula, the terra firma Kroger had these this morning. Regularly 5.69. I dunno, is that a good deal? I'll be back that way later if anyone wants me to grab for them.
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on Mar 17, 2017 7:58:56 GMT -5
I also had the commute issue JoBub mentioned. I lost over 2 hours of my day, just commuting and drop off/pick up (25 min to my parents, 20 min drop off, 20 min to work, then repeat in the afternoon)
Post by babylove518 on Mar 17, 2017 8:05:05 GMT -5
The twins grandma quit her job to watch them full time before I offered to help. It worked out well, but I think you definitely have to be on the same parenting page so that the kids don't get cookies and juice for lunch every day (just an example).
I totally forgot it was St Patrick's day. I went out for a margarita (or 2) last night and they decided to make them extra strong. So I had to have an extra cup of coffee this morning. So neither DD or me are in green. I at least plan on doing a st Patrick's day craft with the kids today though.
Our basketball is playing in the state final four game today. I wasn't sure if I was supposed to wear blue for the team, or green for the holiday. I wore green, and apparently I chose wrong. Oops.
If either grandparent wanted to watch my kid for money, they would be coming to my house. I get that it's kind of a favor but typically a nanny comes to your house. It would also depend on how well that person listens and values what you want done with your kid. It's one thing to be the spoiling grandma on the weekend and then doing that same thing all week. My kid would be a legit mess with either of our parents. My mom would give him candy all day and let him do anything and he would be rotten.
Post by chrispy1122 on Mar 17, 2017 8:15:00 GMT -5
Thanks guys! I think it could work, but I want to make sure that her expectations and our expectations line up. Im not sure how much she currently makes, but I think we could come up with something that works. Even though she is almost 60, she is really active and would want to take the kids out to do stuff. The commute isn't going to be an issue for us since she lives five minutes away. One thing we do need to talk to her about is whether she plans to watch the kids at our house or her house, since one of the primary reasons I was exploring nanny was so I could let the kids sleep in a little longer. I have a good relationship with my MIL, but I know I'd have a hard time telling her if there were things I was unhappy about, so H would need to take care of that. We're going to talk to her tonight to see what she is thinking in terms of hours, pay, etc. and talk about what H and I would need from her (or any nanny for that matter). She mentioned to someone that this could give her more flexibility than her current job--I'm not sure what she means by that, but I want to make sure she knows what H and I need for childcare (which is reliable full time care).
If either grandparent wanted to watch my kid for money, they would be coming to my house. I get that it's kind of a favor but typically a nanny comes to your house. It would also depend on how well that person listens and values what you want done with your kid. It's one thing to be the spoiling grandma on the weekend and then doing that same thing all week. My kid would be a legit mess with either of our parents. My mom would give him candy all day and let him do anything and he would be rotten.
I agree with coming to my house. I told H that I would need her to come to our house in the morning, but if she wants to take the kids to her house later that's fine. H passes her house on the way home anyway.
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on Mar 17, 2017 8:25:05 GMT -5
Apparently I also feel the need to WK my decision this morning. We were comfortable using my mom because early childhood dev. was her background. They did crafts and lessons each week. She still spoiled him, but for the most part, she did a good job balancing between nanny and Grandma. Most of the issues I had were things that I probably needed to release, like giving him juice drinks full of HFCS and food coloring (not all the time, but it's not something we would offer)
Apparently I also feel the need to WK my decision this morning. We were comfortable using my mom because early childhood dev. was her background. They did crafts and lessons each week. She still spoiled him, but for the most part, she did a good job balancing between nanny and Grandma. Most of the issues I had were things that I probably needed to release, like giving him juice drinks full of HFCS and food coloring (not all the time, but it's not something we would offer)
I don't think there's any need to WK. I know my neighbors mom watches her kids but she is more strict than the mom with structure/ schedules/ and food- like she's the grandma that wouldn't let the kids have candy. Every situation is different. I just know my mom and mil would be lax not only on food but also naps, schedules, manners, - basically everything.
Apparently I also feel the need to WK my decision this morning. We were comfortable using my mom because early childhood dev. was her background. They did crafts and lessons each week. She still spoiled him, but for the most part, she did a good job balancing between nanny and Grandma. Most of the issues I had were things that I probably needed to release, like giving him juice drinks full of HFCS and food coloring (not all the time, but it's not something we would offer)
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