TTCAL 3/21

[smores]

**TW LC**
scoutradley - A care basket is a great idea. I know for me personally, I would have appreciated that way more than a long visit.

[scoutradley]

Mar 23, 2017 17:12:19 GMT -5 smores said:

**TW LC**
scoutradley - A care basket is a great idea. I know for me personally, I would have appreciated that way more than a long visit.

I honestly would have too which is why I decided to try and do that now. Visits exhausted me.

[notelsie]

Mar 23, 2017 12:40:35 GMT -5 smores said:

How are you doing? I'm doing ok, better than last week. I've been keeping very busy.

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): Benched. D&C was exactly one week ago and I'm still spotting.

Diagnosis (if applicable): N/A

Updates/questions: None.

Debbie downer (a place to vent): I've realized there's no possible way for me to have a 2017 baby. For some reason that is hitting me pretty hard this week.

QOTW: What was your favorite extracurricular activity in school? I did cheerleading in high school. Some of my best memories are from that and I'm still really close friends with one of the girls I met on the squad.

So many hugs  

[notelsie]

Mar 23, 2017 16:56:20 GMT -5 @officedronette said:

TW;LC notelsie - those feelings make a lot of sense. The one bright spot is that though sadly you do know what loss feels like, and it does in my experience, never go away, and that sucks for future pregnancies because they aren't ever "carefree", you have a toddler, and so you know things can and do end happily. Not always, sadly and unfairly, but they can and do. I think that will be helpful for me/my anxiety if we are able to conceive again - unlike with my pregnancy with my daughter, while I know what it feels like to get the worst news of your life and I'm always going to be guarding against it, I also know what it feels like to have things end happily, and I'll be able to turn to that for some balance and comfort to the shitty.

Thank you  

[MsG]

Mar 21, 2017 10:36:08 GMT -5 scoutradley said:

How are you doing? I'm okay. I have severe baby fever now. I didn't even have it this bad when we first started TTC in October.

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTC

Diagnosis (if applicable): PID related fertility issues.

Updates/questions: AF finally ended, took forever. I'm in my fertile week now. I'm supposed to O around the 24th but idk. Anyway, I have a massage scheduled for Saturday and your not supposed to have a massage first tri... should I cancel and wait to see what happens? It would only be the day after O, but then... ugh.

Debbie downer (a place to vent): **TW LC mentioned** a friend just had a baby and I want to visit (when the mom is ready) but I also don't want to. It's so difficult to not be pregnant right now. **end TW**

QOTW: Uh? I'm not sure. I'll have to think about it.

I was the same way after my loss. Before that, I was fine with it taking however long it was going to take, but after I felt desperate to GKU quickly. That feeling did start to ease with time though - thank goodness since I'm still not KU 6 months later.

[MsG]

OPP TW

How are you doing? This week has been pretty terrible to be honest. See my debbie downer comment but OPP/LC TW is in it.

Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTC

Diagnosis (if applicable): PCOS

Updates/questions: I'm at the year mark, and starting to think about fertility testing. I had thought last month I'd give it more time, but after this week, I'm thinking I might go sooner rather than later. Anyone who has been through it, I'd love to know about first steps. Do I just call my regular OB and start there?


Debbie downer (a place to vent): For some dumb reason, I felt really optimistic this month, which made the disappointment of a negative test all the more upsetting. To top that off, my bff gave birth the day I had a negative test, and I met the LO on CD1. It just came together to feel like a real punch to my gut. Still struggling to overcome the negative feelings and get back to the better place I'd been in the last couple of months.

QOTW: What was your favorite extracurricular activity in school? In college, it was my broadcast journalism club. I had a blast creating broadcast shows. I was not into extracurriculars in high school.

[ldubhawksfan]

MsG I started by getting be done with my OB, but then my RE reordered it, so my opinion would be to start with your insurance and find out if you have any coverage (some will cover testing up until diagnosis with basic coverage) and find what REs are in your network. That narrowed down the list ALOT! Then find out if your insurance requires your primary dr to refer you to the RE (hmo) or if you can just start by making an appt with the RE. You will get bloodwork done, get a HSG, and your SO will do a SA, and then meet with your RE again to discuss what the results are and what they plan. ((Hugs)) it's a big and scary decision, but starting with the RE helped me feel more in control than I had in a long time. Best of luck.

[MsG]

ldubhawksfan, Thanks. That's really helpful advice. Now if only insurance was so helpful at providing info

[ldubhawksfan]

Mar 26, 2017 10:30:35 GMT -5 MsG said:

ldubhawksfan, Thanks. That's really helpful advice. Now if only insurance was so helpful at providing info

The insurance part is such a PITA!! Once you pick a dr, let them help communicate with the insurance. They do it all the time and can really help. My insurance was trying to deny my meds and a nurse spent an hr on the phone with them and got me preapproved for something like 10 cycles and it was a tier 2 drug, rather than it being all OOP. The insurance phone reps for us know nothing about IF, so they really need to work with higher ups to understand the needs and coverage. ::::TW LO mentioned:::: I had my insurance deny paying for my testing for a full year, even after birth, until the right rep reviewed it.

[MsG]

ldubhawksfan, That sounds incredibly awful. It's awesome that your doctor helped with the insurance stuff though. It would have never occurred to me to even ask them to.

[mflowers929]

So I had a call last week from a number I didn't recognize, and there was no info on it when I googled it. I had a weird feeling though, so I called on lunch and it was the specialist office. D'oh! Left a message and I'm waiting on a call back.