Post by sleepymonkey on Mar 27, 2017 14:50:08 GMT -5
We're taking DD to a sibling class at the hospital tomorrow evening. I have called and left messages twice in the past week to make sure it's ok for both me and H to be there or if there's only room for one parent. No call back. So we're both going and if they have a problem with it, that's their fault for not calling me back.
Post by sleepymonkey on Mar 27, 2017 15:24:02 GMT -5
@katerli, the last time I tried to purge DD's toys, she found the box I put them in and pulled them all out within 5 minutes. I swear even stuff she never plays with, she knows she has and will not allow it to leave. I have no idea where we're going to put baby boy's toys once he's old enough to be interested!
Post by sleepymonkey on Mar 27, 2017 15:31:18 GMT -5
H just called and said Echo kitty seems to be feeling much better. She came out from the nursery and was whining at him, demanding attention and food, which is her normal behavior. That makes me feel so much better.
My doula was supposed to be here half an hour ago for our first prenatal visit. H left work early for it and everything. She's not here yet, and we can't get through on the phone (either it just hangs up, or we're told it's not available).
She's been kind of flakey and hard to get a hold of in general. I'm sitting here, likely overreacting, tearing up and feeling like I just want to fire her.
icedtea - Half an hour? With no contact? I'd be pissed. I don't blame you for your feelings. They are a rational reaction to me. Sorry she's been flakey in general. Once you get a hold of her, I think it's time to set expectations and/or hold her to her contract.
Post by wannabmama on Mar 27, 2017 15:35:14 GMT -5
That is no good icedtea!! A bad attribute for a doula for sure. Once she gets there or calls, I'd be very clear about no communication not being acceptable (not to mention the lateness...but not communicating is even worse)! Hope she gets there soon!
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Thanks, guys. I can't tell these days. I feel very vulnerable about it all, and I'm really annoyed that she's putting me in this position. We have to get dinner and go to a birth class, which she knew, so we're giving it till 4:45 and then I'm just going to tell her that she can consider the appointment canceled and that I want to discuss the future of our contract.
My doula was supposed to be here half an hour ago for our first prenatal visit. H left work early for it and everything. She's not here yet, and we can't get through on the phone (either it just hangs up, or we're told it's not available).
She's been kind of flakey and hard to get a hold of in general. I'm sitting here, likely overreacting, tearing up and feeling like I just want to fire her.
Maybe I'm harsh, but fire her. This is not a good representation of things to come and you have to know you can count on her.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Post by sleepymonkey on Mar 27, 2017 15:44:09 GMT -5
icedtea , that's not acceptable IMO. Even if she is currently assisting in another birth, she should have been able to step away for 2 minutes to call you and reschedule. What is it going to be like when you go in to labor? You're counting on her to be there when you need her to be. I would probably be in the fire her camp with mrsjene .
My doula was supposed to be here half an hour ago for our first prenatal visit. H left work early for it and everything. She's not here yet, and we can't get through on the phone (either it just hangs up, or we're told it's not available).
She's been kind of flakey and hard to get a hold of in general. I'm sitting here, likely overreacting, tearing up and feeling like I just want to fire her.
Maybe I'm harsh, but fire her. This is not a good representation of things to come and you have to know you can count on her.
^^ That's where I'd be with the situation too icedtea.
If she's been hard to get a hold of before, and is now late/not showing up and not communicating with you about it, I'd be done with her. I'd be worried about going into labor and not being able to get a hold of her, which is the whole purpose of hiring her.
Post by wannabmama on Mar 27, 2017 15:47:49 GMT -5
Ugh I'm so tired...I wanted to take a nap but work pushed it so they first minute I could have was after 3...and that's just dangerous. So I'm trying to work but struggling to keep my eyes open.
Also...found out that bc my new insurance sucks I have to pay for my maternit21 test bc it's diagnostic so it's "covered" but counts against my deductible (I still don't understand what it means that it's covered but I still have to pay for it?!). Good news is that it means my deductible is just about hit, I guess...but that is a really painful check to write. Though I guess with all the more medical costs coming this year, hitting the deductible early is good, too...or something else to tell myself not to cry about this unexpected cost.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Thanks, all. I think you're right. It makes me really upset, because she was the only person nearby. I'm not sure I can get someone else at this point, and I don't really want to shell out more money either (I'm 99% sure our contract says there's no refund if we cancel).
We can do all this without a doula, of course, I was just really excited about her (she supposedly gave great breastfeeding support). But I don't see how we can come back from this. Ugh. ugh ugh ugh ugh
Ugh I'm so tired...I wanted to take a nap but work pushed it so they first minute I could have was after 3...and that's just dangerous. So I'm trying to work but struggling to keep my eyes open.
Also...found out that bc my new insurance sucks I have to pay for my maternit21 test bc it's diagnostic so it's "covered" but counts against my deductible (I still don't understand what it means that it's covered but I still have to pay for it?!). Good news is that it means my deductible is just about hit, I guess...but that is a really painful check to write. Though I guess with all the more medical costs coming this year, hitting the deductible early is good, too...or something else to tell myself not to cry about this unexpected cost.
It's covered in the sense that your insurance agrees that it's appropriate for you, so if you had already met your deductible for the year they would pay it.
Thanks, all. I think you're right. It makes me really upset, because she was the only person nearby. I'm not sure I can get someone else at this point, and I don't really want to shell out more money either (I'm 99% sure our contract says there's no refund if we cancel).
We can do all this without a doula, of course, I was just really excited about her (she supposedly gave great breastfeeding support). But I don't see how we can come back from this. Ugh. ugh ugh ugh ugh
If you try to cancel and they say they won't refund, given the circumstances, I'd push back. There are usually ways to get around contract language like that, or at least threaten it. I'll take a look at the contract if it comes to that and give you some stuff to use in "discussions" to get the money back.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Thanks, all. I think you're right. It makes me really upset, because she was the only person nearby. I'm not sure I can get someone else at this point, and I don't really want to shell out more money either (I'm 99% sure our contract says there's no refund if we cancel).
We can do all this without a doula, of course, I was just really excited about her (she supposedly gave great breastfeeding support). But I don't see how we can come back from this. Ugh. ugh ugh ugh ugh
If you try to cancel and they say they won't refund, given the circumstances, I'd push back. There are usually ways to get around contract language like that, or at least threaten it. I'll take a look at the contract if it comes to that and give you some stuff to use in "discussions" to get the money back.
Ugh I'm so tired...I wanted to take a nap but work pushed it so they first minute I could have was after 3...and that's just dangerous. So I'm trying to work but struggling to keep my eyes open.
Also...found out that bc my new insurance sucks I have to pay for my maternit21 test bc it's diagnostic so it's "covered" but counts against my deductible (I still don't understand what it means that it's covered but I still have to pay for it?!). Good news is that it means my deductible is just about hit, I guess...but that is a really painful check to write. Though I guess with all the more medical costs coming this year, hitting the deductible early is good, too...or something else to tell myself not to cry about this unexpected cost.
It's covered in the sense that your insurance agrees that it's appropriate for you, so if you had already met your deductible for the year they would pay it.
Yeah I get that I guess...doesn't mean I like it, ha!
I hated my last job...but damn I loved that insurance (my deductible was super low and I paid almost nothing for all IF out of pocket...this year I'm hitting a huge deductible in March).
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Thanks, all. I think you're right. It makes me really upset, because she was the only person nearby. I'm not sure I can get someone else at this point, and I don't really want to shell out more money either (I'm 99% sure our contract says there's no refund if we cancel).
We can do all this without a doula, of course, I was just really excited about her (she supposedly gave great breastfeeding support). But I don't see how we can come back from this. Ugh. ugh ugh ugh ugh
If you try to cancel and they say they won't refund, given the circumstances, I'd push back. There are usually ways to get around contract language like that, or at least threaten it. I'll take a look at the contract if it comes to that and give you some stuff to use in "discussions" to get the money back.
+1. Look at your contract. If she's not upholding her responsibilities, then a refund is warranted. Look at what is spelled out in terms of communication and timeliness, etc.
Ugh I'm so tired...I wanted to take a nap but work pushed it so they first minute I could have was after 3...and that's just dangerous. So I'm trying to work but struggling to keep my eyes open.
Also...found out that bc my new insurance sucks I have to pay for my maternit21 test bc it's diagnostic so it's "covered" but counts against my deductible (I still don't understand what it means that it's covered but I still have to pay for it?!). Good news is that it means my deductible is just about hit, I guess...but that is a really painful check to write. Though I guess with all the more medical costs coming this year, hitting the deductible early is good, too...or something else to tell myself not to cry about this unexpected cost.
Do they have an option to self-pay rather than go through insurance (they did in 2013 when I had maternit21 with DD)? That's what I did with Counsyl, which is what my current ob uses for NIPT. I would've owed $1K if I went through my insurance since I hadn't met my deductible but I chose self-pay and paid a lot less. I also did that because my insurance wouldn't pay for both NIPT and the NT scan and I wanted both for peace of mind. It was cheaper to pay OOP for the NIPT than if I paid for the NT scan.
It's covered in the sense that your insurance agrees that it's appropriate for you, so if you had already met your deductible for the year they would pay it.
Yeah I get that I guess...doesn't mean I like it, ha!
I hated my last job...but damn I loved that insurance (my deductible was super low and I paid almost nothing for all IF out of pocket...this year I'm hitting a huge deductible in March).
I've already hit 10% of our AGI and have spent $85 toward my $5k deductible.
It's covered in the sense that your insurance agrees that it's appropriate for you, so if you had already met your deductible for the year they would pay it.
Yeah I get that I guess...doesn't mean I like it, ha!
I hated my last job...but damn I loved that insurance (my deductible was super low and I paid almost nothing for all IF out of pocket...this year I'm hitting a huge deductible in March).
My old insurance was that way. I hit my deductible in 2014 solely from doing pregnancy lost testing. I still got slammed with coinsurance on everything else because it was all done at the hospital (and damn, ultrasounds are expensive). When DS was born 19 days into the new year, I got hit with the deductible again because it reset at the ball drop Jan 1.
they said everything was covered but didn't elaborate. It totally sucks :/
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