When are you telling work?

[grumpycat88]

I have a weird work situation so I'll be telling my boss in the next few weeks. I don't get FMLA or any sort of mat leave so I will most likely have to resign. And I don't want to deal with the commute or stress when I have a newborn. I want to give him ample time to find a replacement and have time to train them while I'm still able to be there.

I also had preterm labor 3x last pregnancy starting after 24 weeks so I want to make sure I have myself covered.

[Deleted]

I only work between 1-3 days a week, but I'm pretty close to most of my co-workers. I'll probably tell my main boss and the girl I work with the most in the next few weeks since they know we've been trying. Then I'll probably just let the news spread from there.

I'm hoping to just take the end of the year off after the baby is born and come back in January. The last woman who had a baby took off six months (unpaid), so I'm pretty sure I could ask for more if I wanted, but I probably won't.

[spacedcadet]

I've debated on telling some of my coworkers already. Mostly because we are a pretty close group. Right now I'm trying to wait at least until my first appt ina couple of weeks. I'm not sure I can make it through first tri this time. With DS I think I told my boss around 14 weeks and my other coworkers around 18 weeks.

[Rogue]

I started meds today that i cant do part of my job functions while on so i told them i wouldnt be able to do those functions. I have not specified that i would be on said meds for approximately 9 months.

Last time i told HR before boss because there was a lot of issues at work. Im not eligible for FMLA Until after october. Im concerned this may cause issues since work is trying to find ways to reduce costs and they may choose to let me go instead of letting me take time off.

[cnf2013]

The joy of being a teacher; tell one kid and they do all the word spreading for you.

But in all honesty, I'm not sure. My mentor and the teacher I share a room with know. That's it. I'm in a weird split position where I'm in one building for the first semester then a second building for second semester. I will be back from leave in time to start at my second building, but I don't plan to go to the building I'm out until September to say anything. I'm just going to let them be surprised as fuck when I show up enormously huge in September. I may or may not mention my pregnancy to my administrators here at my current building. I think they forget I exist sometimes, so it doesn't even feel important to bother doing so. I will be showing significantly by the end of June when school lets out though, so they'll figure it out. I'll say something at some point, but when or how is to be determined.

[jax1182014]

I'll tell work soon. They have to figure out who will cover me and I'll likely take 3 months off so I want to give them time.

[esgrunner]

At work, only my work BFF knows b/c she is also TTC. We were hoping to get KU the same month so we could share it with our other co-workers together, but she's still trying!

I will tell my principal probably around 12 weeks when we start telling other people too. Then I will let HR know so we can figure out a plan with my paychecks for the next contract year. Last time, they waited until like 2 weeks before they needed a long-term sub for me to start looking and had the nerve to email me when I was 40 weeks pregnant and ask if I had any recommendations! Um, no, you are HR, that is your job! Put up a listing! This is a sore spot for me obviously and I will gently encourage them to start looking earlier this time.

[pootsen]

I've only told two of my closest co-workers but I think others are starting to figure it out. I have someone asking me almost daily if I'm pregnant and I'm sick of deflecting the question so I'll probably tell more people soon.

[jekasi]

I am a first year teacher at a school where admin is known for mixing things up with teacher grade level assignments. I am happy with my grade (kindergarten) and have spent an enormous amount of time, energy, and money into my room and curriculum related resources. I have requested to have the grade again next year and am waiting for the official word of assignment before I dare breathe a word about it to anyone. We are supposed to hear in the next few weeks and I am anxious about it. I can't imagine starting over, learning a new curriculum, setting up a new room, etc all over again while 6 months pregnant.

[blabbermouth]

Good luck jekasi!

This is a timely post for me. Like esgrunner, only my work bff knows because we were both trying at the same time. She just asked me that if I do a big announcement at one of our office-wide meetings I tell her in advance so she won't show up We have a staff of about 40.

I'm not sure if I want to tell my manager soon, maybe after next week's midwife appointment (9 weeks) and not tell anyone else until later, or wait and tell everyone at the end of April. I'm torn. A month won't really change anything planning wise, so I might just wait it out. If it comes up in conversation, I might tell her. I've been at this company for 7 years and have a really stable job, but unfortunately the person just below me just put in their notice, so that will affect things.

[theloveparade]

I'm not sure yet. Definitely will wait till 2nd tri, even though some of my close work friends will be told/figure it out/ask me much sooner than that. (Not having drinks at happy hour or Friday lunches is a dead giveaway for me!) Last time I waited till I was almost 5 months to tell my boss but this time I'm sure I won't be able to hide it nearly that long.

[beefinch]

With DS I told my boss right away. Because with being a carer, I couldn't do the physical side of lifting the clients etc or using the heavy equipment anymore. Luckily to save any awkward convos with my colleagues she just put me on our 'easier' clients where no physical was needed. I didn't really tell any of my colleagues, they just found out from FB, and spread the word around. The clients found out when I couldn't zip up my work top anymore, I used to have to wear a tank top underneath so I'd just have an open work top, nobody said anything as I guess it wasn't the uniform but you could clearly see the bump. And I was not going to spend £20 on another top when I only had around 7 weeks before I went on MAT leave.

This time around, my current work is actually taking me on pregnant. So everyone will already know by the time I start in a couple weeks. Only got the job as my mums does a couple jobs for them and they mentioned that they needed night staff, so she said about me and my caring experience but I was pregnant. Didn't bother them as the clients will be asleep so I don't really need to do anything. Never done night shifts before so it'll be nice to see a change of things.

[pootsen]

Mar 29, 2017 20:59:56 GMT -5 Miss Killjoy said:

Mar 29, 2017 20:43:28 GMT -5 pootsen said:

I've only told two of my closest co-workers but I think others are starting to figure it out. I have someone asking me almost daily if I'm pregnant and I'm sick of deflecting the question so I'll probably tell more people soon.

WTAF to someone asking you this on a regular basis. I get questions from young children at work (because they're kids) and from strangers due to being overweight, but I cannot fathom an adult coworker asking you regularly.

It's not malicious and I'm not offended - other than the fact that I think it's kind of nosey (and I hate lying but I'm just not ready to tell everyone yet).

Our son is almost three years old so we were always getting the "when are you having another baby?" question and I answered honestly that we would start trying winter 2016/2017 so I guess it's that time. Add in an offhanded comment from me that I'm tired or a discussion about another coworkers baby and the "are you pregnant?" question comes up.

[laurensc927]

I have one coworker that knows because I told her the cycle didn't work (because that's what I thought) then when she checked on me the day after my official bloodwork I couldn't lie to her. I'm thinking I'll tell everyone else closer to 12 weeks. I don't want to wait too long because they will need to find a temp for while I'm out as I take care of HR and Payroll for 4 locations and Marketing for 1. Too much work to try and divey it up amongst other people.

[Deleted]

I'll be telling work likely the day I go back (on April 19th). I cannot work with our cytotoxic patients so I have to let the charge nurse know at least.

[lgraceh]

I'm really not sure here. I just requested a hardship transfer because DH just accepted a new job across the state. Our house goes on the market in a few days. And he starts his new position 4/24. I'm not sure if dropping the pregnancy card for the transfer request would help or hinder. I have 3 months of leave saved in the job and was planning on taking 3 months of LWOP so I really don't want to leave the government and lose my leave.

[bethkate]

Two of my coworkers that I'm closest to know already. I'll probably tell my boss after the 12 week mark or so at the end of April. I won't sit down with HR until summer time, though.

[cnf2013]

I won't deal with the HR end until I go back to work in Spetember. My last school district was small and I knew the one HR lady in charge of that kind of stuff by name. How to navigate it in one of the biggest districts in the state feels daunting. Will procrastinate.

[theloveparade]

Told my two work (and real life) close friends today. They knew we'd been trying and wanted to know if I'd be able to drink w them at an upcoming function. Haha, sorry, no.

[spacedcadet]

Mar 29, 2017 22:42:37 GMT -5 @thatgolfbitch said:

Miss Killjoy I am also way more breezy this time around.

Add me to the breezy list. Last time I was a nervous wreck through my whole pregnancy, thinking that something was going to go wrong.  This time I keep stopping myself from telling everyone. 

[theloveparade]

I'm so jealous of the breezy people! But good for you guys! I love it! ❤️

[blabbermouth]

I'm telling my manager this weekend. Our DHs are friends (now that we've introduced them), so we're going to have the two of them over for a drink. I'm nervous to tell her!

[bethkate]

Mar 31, 2017 11:50:10 GMT -5 theloveparade said:

I'm so jealous of the breezy people! But good for you guys! I love it! ❤️

Right? I wish I wasn't a nervous wreck about this pregnancy like 80% of the time.