Post by kmartturtle on Jan 17, 2015 8:09:48 GMT -5
"Listen sweetheart. I don't know what I did to you for you to keep this going. Since I offended you so much I apologize. We clearly hate one another. Please stop addressing me on these forums. I want nothing to do with people like you. I had hoped the feeling was mutual. I've stayed away from post you've create. Please do the same. Wouldn't that be a win/ win?"
How would you respond?
Clearly "she doesn't know what she did" so I don't get why she's apologizing.
The raging bitch is coming out of me and I need suggestions.
Post by quietdownfish on Jan 17, 2015 8:18:18 GMT -5
Dat bitch.
I wish I had words. I've been up since 430 with no coffee with a cranky little so I have zero words. I will have to come back after coffee and chocolate chip pancakes.
Just so I'm on the same page... is she the one that accused someone of being a horrible mother, and was that to you kmartturtle ?
She IS the one who said that, but not to me.
She told me to jump off a cliff and said she's coming for my jugular. Basically wants to attack me and then wants me to go kill myself. Ya know, real classy shit.
Yikes. Hmm.. can you just report her PM as harassing you? I mean really, if she "hates" you then she shouldn't even be reaching out. Gah, I can't stand her!
Just so I'm on the same page... is she the one that accused someone of being a horrible mother, and was that to you kmartturtle ?
She IS the one who said that, but not to me.
She told me to jump off a cliff and said she's coming for my jugular. Basically wants to attack me and then wants me to go kill myself. Ya know, real classy shit.
I would suggest to her that she really ought to apologize properly for the shit she said. Just saying "I'm sorry if I offended you" is not an apology, she might as well have said "I don't care that I'm fucking evil, just deal with it". She's not been remotely remorseful for any of her shit, and trying to come off as all high and mighty afterward isn't doing her any favours. I'd tell her that I don't reason with raving lunatics, and she can be upset all she likes about people calling her on her shit. She's not the innocent victim.
Yikes. Hmm.. can you just report her PM as harassing you? I mean really, if she "hates" you then she shouldn't even be reaching out. Gah, I can't stand her!
True true. Given her past, would this PM be considered stirring shit up? You could just report that and save even dignifying her with a response. However, telling her to fuck off would be lovely.
Post by hopefulreturn on Jan 17, 2015 8:41:31 GMT -5
I'm torn on recommending you go rage on her cause she deserves it verses ignoring it. She's clearly looking to egg you on and get a response. If it was me, I wouldn't give her the victory of getting banned over it.
Post by kmartturtle on Jan 17, 2015 8:43:26 GMT -5
Is this too nice? I think I was just touched by the hand of Jesus when I was writing this...
"I get the feeling you just don't understand anything that's happened. So let me lay it out for you. First, you will not call me sweetheart. That condescending shit is for the birds. You need someone to "sweetheart, hunny, or dear" go to your husband.
Second, "I don't know what I did to you for you to keep this going." This genuinely makes my heart hurt for you. You told a hard working, loving, and caring woman that she was a "horrible excuse for a mother." Your exact words. You also told me that you were "coming for my jugular," and to go jump off a cliff and die. Not just that, you told an entire community to jump off a cliff and die. A community of women I love and adore. Put yourself in our shoes. How would you react to that? Honestly? Because if I've seen one thing from you, it's overreaction. You would be upset. You'd be hurt and offended. Because those comments were beyond a level of "rude" or "mean." You don't get to wish death upon a group of women, and then tell them they are the mean girls. So, I do not accept you apology because, as you so clearly stated, you don't even know what you did, so how can you apologize for it?
I do not hate you. You piss me off. You anger me. Your holier than thou routine is a crock of shit. But I do not hate you. Learn the value of your words. I repeat, I do not hate you. But, it is true that I do not like you. It's unfortunate that you hate me, I'd completely understand if you disliked me.
Finally, "Please stop addressing me on these forums. I want nothing to do with people like you. I had hoped the feeling was mutual. I've stayed away from post you've create. Please do the same. Wouldn't that be a win/ win?"
No. Because this is a public forum. You can't dictate where I go. It's unfortunate that you burned so many bridges on TB, but that doesn't mean you should dictate where and when I respond on the forum. It's public, if you, or anyone else for that matter, is spewing bullshit, I have the right to comment. For the record, I don't follow you around TB. I don't know what you can and cannot see, but we've actually been able to coexist is some threads. I actually do ignore you quite often. But when you start talking about the community or my girls in such a disrespectful and horrible manner, I will address it. These women are my family. You told them to die, in so many words. So, no, it's not a win-win. Steer clear of me, if you want. I don't care. But I will be doing what I want. And right now, that's protecting my family from the hateful spiteful things you have to say."
Is this too nice? I think I was just touched by the hand of Jesus when I was writing this...
"I get the feeling you just don't understand anything that's happened. So let me lay it out for you. First, you will not call me sweetheart. That condescending shit is for the birds. You need someone to "sweetheart, hunny, or dear" go to your husband.
Second, "I don't know what I did to you for you to keep this going." This genuinely makes my heart hurt for you. You told a hard working, loving, and caring woman that she was a "horrible excuse for a mother." Your exact words. You also told me that you were "coming for my jugular," and to go jump off a cliff and die. Not just that, you told an entire community to jump off a cliff and die. A community of women I love and adore. Put yourself in our shoes. How would you react to that? Honestly? Because if I've seen one thing from you, it's overreaction. You would be upset. You'd be hurt and offended. Because those comments were beyond a level of "rude" or "mean." You don't get to wish death upon a group of women, and then tell them they are the mean girls. So, I do not accept you apology because, as you so clearly stated, you don't even know what you did, so how can you apologize for it?
I do not hate you. You piss me off. You anger me. Your holier than thou routine is a crock of shit. But I do not hate you. Learn the value of your words. I repeat, I do not hate you. But, it is true that I do not like you. It's unfortunate that you hate me, I'd completely understand if you disliked me.
Finally, "Please stop addressing me on these forums. I want nothing to do with people like you. I had hoped the feeling was mutual. I've stayed away from post you've create. Please do the same. Wouldn't that be a win/ win?"
No. Because this is a public forum. You can't dictate where I go. It's unfortunate that you burned so many bridges on TB, but that doesn't mean you should dictate where and when I respond on the forum. It's public, if you, or anyone else for that matter, is spewing bullshit, I have the right to comment. For the record, I don't follow you around TB. I don't know what you can and cannot see, but we've actually been able to coexist is some threads. I actually do ignore you quite often. But when you start talking about the community or my girls in such a disrespectful and horrible manner, I will address it. These women are my family. You told them to die, in so many words. So, no, it's not a win-win. Steer clear of me, if you want. I don't care. But I will be doing what I want. And right now, that's protecting my family from the hateful spiteful things you have to say."
I don't think that's too nice. You're covering everything that needs to be covered, and she can't run off and cry to the admin over it.
I think it's actually a great reply. Addresses everything she said ams nothing that's forbidden to say in return. Although maybe a little less satisfying than a straight out fuck you.
Is this too nice? I think I was just touched by the hand of Jesus when I was writing this...
"I get the feeling you just don't understand anything that's happened. So let me lay it out for you. First, you will not call me sweetheart. That condescending shit is for the birds. You need someone to "sweetheart, hunny, or dear" go to your husband.
Second, "I don't know what I did to you for you to keep this going." This genuinely makes my heart hurt for you. You told a hard working, loving, and caring woman that she was a "horrible excuse for a mother." Your exact words. You also told me that you were "coming for my jugular," and to go jump off a cliff and die. Not just that, you told an entire community to jump off a cliff and die. A community of women I love and adore. Put yourself in our shoes. How would you react to that? Honestly? Because if I've seen one thing from you, it's overreaction. You would be upset. You'd be hurt and offended. Because those comments were beyond a level of "rude" or "mean." You don't get to wish death upon a group of women, and then tell them they are the mean girls. So, I do not accept you apology because, as you so clearly stated, you don't even know what you did, so how can you apologize for it?
I do not hate you. You piss me off. You anger me. Your holier than thou routine is a crock of shit. But I do not hate you. Learn the value of your words. I repeat, I do not hate you. But, it is true that I do not like you. It's unfortunate that you hate me, I'd completely understand if you disliked me.
Finally, "Please stop addressing me on these forums. I want nothing to do with people like you. I had hoped the feeling was mutual. I've stayed away from post you've create. Please do the same. Wouldn't that be a win/ win?"
No. Because this is a public forum. You can't dictate where I go. It's unfortunate that you burned so many bridges on TB, but that doesn't mean you should dictate where and when I respond on the forum. It's public, if you, or anyone else for that matter, is spewing bullshit, I have the right to comment. For the record, I don't follow you around TB. I don't know what you can and cannot see, but we've actually been able to coexist is some threads. I actually do ignore you quite often. But when you start talking about the community or my girls in such a disrespectful and horrible manner, I will address it. These women are my family. You told them to die, in so many words. So, no, it's not a win-win. Steer clear of me, if you want. I don't care. But I will be doing what I want. And right now, that's protecting my family from the hateful spiteful things you have to say."
Couldn't have said it better myself. These words are inspired.
Is this too nice? I think I was just touched by the hand of Jesus when I was writing this...
"I get the feeling you just don't understand anything that's happened. So let me lay it out for you. First, you will not call me sweetheart. That condescending shit is for the birds. You need someone to "sweetheart, hunny, or dear" go to your husband.
Second, "I don't know what I did to you for you to keep this going." This genuinely makes my heart hurt for you. You told a hard working, loving, and caring woman that she was a "horrible excuse for a mother." Your exact words. You also told me that you were "coming for my jugular," and to go jump off a cliff and die. Not just that, you told an entire community to jump off a cliff and die. A community of women I love and adore. Put yourself in our shoes. How would you react to that? Honestly? Because if I've seen one thing from you, it's overreaction. You would be upset. You'd be hurt and offended. Because those comments were beyond a level of "rude" or "mean." You don't get to wish death upon a group of women, and then tell them they are the mean girls. So, I do not accept you apology because, as you so clearly stated, you don't even know what you did, so how can you apologize for it?
I do not hate you. You piss me off. You anger me. Your holier than thou routine is a crock of shit. But I do not hate you. Learn the value of your words. I repeat, I do not hate you. But, it is true that I do not like you. It's unfortunate that you hate me, I'd completely understand if you disliked me.
Finally, "Please stop addressing me on these forums. I want nothing to do with people like you. I had hoped the feeling was mutual. I've stayed away from post you've create. Please do the same. Wouldn't that be a win/ win?"
No. Because this is a public forum. You can't dictate where I go. It's unfortunate that you burned so many bridges on TB, but that doesn't mean you should dictate where and when I respond on the forum. It's public, if you, or anyone else for that matter, is spewing bullshit, I have the right to comment. For the record, I don't follow you around TB. I don't know what you can and cannot see, but we've actually been able to coexist is some threads. I actually do ignore you quite often. But when you start talking about the community or my girls in such a disrespectful and horrible manner, I will address it. These women are my family. You told them to die, in so many words. So, no, it's not a win-win. Steer clear of me, if you want. I don't care. But I will be doing what I want. And right now, that's protecting my family from the hateful spiteful things you have to say."
That is very well said and avoids banning. While I would love for us all to get banned from TB, I think the board is in DIRER need of some snark. You provide snark very well
Not "too nice" but also not just the simple "fuck off" email - you're smart and calculated in your response.
This might be too much work, but would it be beneficial to screen shot the things she said vs. the responses she got? I think sometimes the flow of a conversation gets muddled over the forums and she might be focusing on the negative reactions she got while conveniently forgetting the trash she spewed out in the first place.
That might also be enlightening for admin to see... just a thought!
"Listen sweetheart. I don't know what I did to you for you to keep this going. Since I offended you so much I apologize. We clearly hate one another. Please stop addressing me on these forums. I want nothing to do with people like you. I had hoped the feeling was mutual. I've stayed away from post you've create. Please do the same. Wouldn't that be a win/ win?"
How would you respond?
Clearly "she doesn't know what she did" so I don't get why she's apologizing.
The raging bitch is coming out of me and I need suggestions.
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Is this too nice? I think I was just touched by the hand of Jesus when I was writing this...
"I get the feeling you just don't understand anything that's happened. So let me lay it out for you. First, you will not call me sweetheart. That condescending shit is for the birds. You need someone to "sweetheart, hunny, or dear" go to your husband.
Second, "I don't know what I did to you for you to keep this going." This genuinely makes my heart hurt for you. You told a hard working, loving, and caring woman that she was a "horrible excuse for a mother." Your exact words. You also told me that you were "coming for my jugular," and to go jump off a cliff and die. Not just that, you told an entire community to jump off a cliff and die. A community of women I love and adore. Put yourself in our shoes. How would you react to that? Honestly? Because if I've seen one thing from you, it's overreaction. You would be upset. You'd be hurt and offended. Because those comments were beyond a level of "rude" or "mean." You don't get to wish death upon a group of women, and then tell them they are the mean girls. So, I do not accept you apology because, as you so clearly stated, you don't even know what you did, so how can you apologize for it?
I do not hate you. You piss me off. You anger me. Your holier than thou routine is a crock of shit. But I do not hate you. Learn the value of your words. I repeat, I do not hate you. But, it is true that I do not like you. It's unfortunate that you hate me, I'd completely understand if you disliked me.
Finally, "Please stop addressing me on these forums. I want nothing to do with people like you. I had hoped the feeling was mutual. I've stayed away from post you've create. Please do the same. Wouldn't that be a win/ win?"
No. Because this is a public forum. You can't dictate where I go. It's unfortunate that you burned so many bridges on TB, but that doesn't mean you should dictate where and when I respond on the forum. It's public, if you, or anyone else for that matter, is spewing bullshit, I have the right to comment. For the record, I don't follow you around TB. I don't know what you can and cannot see, but we've actually been able to coexist is some threads. I actually do ignore you quite often. But when you start talking about the community or my girls in such a disrespectful and horrible manner, I will address it. These women are my family. You told them to die, in so many words. So, no, it's not a win-win. Steer clear of me, if you want. I don't care. But I will be doing what I want. And right now, that's protecting my family from the hateful spiteful things you have to say."
Perfect response. I really think she thinks she is the good guy here, so a fuck off would just convince her more. You have eloquently stated why she is a terrible human being without giving her fuel to turn it on you.
You're better than me with words. I don't see that getting you banned. You told the truth and highlighted facts to get your point across. All without being rude or condescending back. Well done.
Post by heavenwhip on Jan 17, 2015 10:16:05 GMT -5
Damn I wish I was as good with words as you ladies are. I probably would have muddled my whole response. I get mad and lose my train of thought, then things get convoluted. Well done!
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