Thursday...errr, Friday TWERKS

[akafred]

I think we missed it.

I sent out my survey for my family reunion today. Expecting drama in 3, 2, 1...

[shakinros]

DH has a blown disc is his lumbar. He's in serious pain, basically immobile, and can't parent or help with the house. This has been the state of things for a couple weeks while we wait (and wait and wait) for insurance to approve an MRI and meds, then wait for a doctor to read his MRI.

Of course it's worst for him but it's crappy for me too. Every minute I'm not in the office is a full scale assault on Things That Need To Get Done. I so look forward to Monday every week. Even when it's stressful at the office, there are other people who can help.

[erinshelley21]

shakinros I've been there. Except Dh broke his foot. He had a big surgery that required pins and was on crutches for 2 months. Ds was 7 months old and I was in my busy season at work. It was not a pretty time in my life.

[akafred]

shakinros, I am so sorry for both of you. Can you outsource? What about all those people who would offer to help if they knew how hard it is? Call one and ask for help. Hang in there.

[tas1883]

I had a re-exam at the chiropractor's yesterday for insurance purposes. I'm actually getting better! My neck and upper back show about a 75-80% improvement since the accident. My lower back not so much and we did new x-rays. Good news is that I'm now down to seeing him once a week. He did tell me that I need to start resuming normal life activities after tax season is over as that is going to be the biggest test for me.

[sudokufan]

shakinros, my H has some kind of disc problem that put pressure on the nerve running down his right arm. It was awful (for both of us, tbh), all my sorries. H tried the epidural shots, but they didn't help much, and some kind of nerve blocker pills that did help but left him loopy, and months of PT. The good news is he's feeling a lot better and helping with stuff again and avoided surgery; the bad news is it took nearly a year :-( We outsourced all his outside yard jobs, I took over what I could inside, and we let stuff slide where we could.

[rere26]

Dh is off to his MRI, I am sitting in the pediatrician office with Ds getting tested for strep, still sore from my last week surgery and not feeling well. Imma gonna put Dd in a bubble.

[2chatter]

DH and I had a dinner date last Thursday when he landed early (patio, gorgeous) and then for lunch Sunday because we came back early from camping (storms) and the kids just wanted to stay home together.

We talked a lot - at his initiation - and he said he was having a full on mid life crisis and he's so sorry and he doesn't know WTF was wrong with him. He went on to semi rant about how stupid the ultra conservatives he was aligned with are and was mystified by his blind, aggressive allegiance. He sounded like himself. He acted like himself. I flat out asked him if he was manic and how he can be sure it was a horrible period of months - as opposed to something clinical. He will continue with the psych and get them to write an RX for his new dose of Zoloft - he doubled it himself (still a low dose, so more room to increase as needed). I also talked him through how if we snowball my car payment, his student loans and with the reduction in day care when DS goes to Kinder and child support when SD graduates in June - in a couple years he could take a bit of a pay cut and a much less stressful job and have retirement on track, a year of expenses in savings/investment and still pay 1k a month for all the kids while in college.

I am relieved and cautiously optimistic. And TMI but we finally DTD - it's been three months.

[akafred]

2chatter, that is an AMAZING start to getting back on track with your H.

[akafred]

Like, I want to love tit that post like 50 times.

[sudokufan]

2chatter, I'm with akafred, love the update. I would be super cautiously optimistic too. I hope it's a real turn around.

[erinshelley21]

2chatter I am so happy to read that update. I hope you are on track to having your H back.

[mae0111]

2chatter - I'm so happy to see your update. Gives me so much hope!!

My TWERK - my proposal to extend my current position in exchange for a severance was rejected by HR... but would I still stay on longer for a smooth transition? Um... I gave you like 11 weeks notice. So no. I'm done now. Officially out of sh!ts to give.

I'm done at the end of May. Right now I'm like 75% YAAAAAAYYYY! And 25% omygodomygodomygod what did I do?

[mustardseed2007]

2chatter, I'm so glad to hear that!

[erinshelley21]

I followed up with the general surgeon that dealt with my last 2 cysts today. I spoke with his nurse and she thinks I caught the cyst very early in the infected stage which is great. It's too early to drain and may even go away with antibiotics and hot baths without even draining. That would be ideal.

It's a good thing I am 99.9% sure I'm done being pregnant since I'm 2/2 so far on getting a cyst following childbirth due to sitting on my ass so much in the newborn stage.