Recently I was hanging out with two good friends who bf their babies. I guess I haven't really been up close when people are bfing before. Anyways (how do I say this without sounding so weird), I noticed that they both had nipples that stick out. My nipples are really flat - like, really flat! I wonder if that's why E could never latch, there was just nothing to latch on to. Maybe it's not just this baby, but that *I* can't breast feed.
So the question is - do nipples stretch? Maybe my friends just happen to have longer nipples?
I feel like breastfeeding made my nipples bigger/longer. I had a nurse the second time around comment to the effect that mine were some of the longest she had ever seen. It made me feel a little self-concious, actually, but neither of my kids had any latching issues, and they never went for the typical "mouthful of areola" when latching on. They both just suck in the nipple and get face to face with my big boobs. I might just be the long nipple freak of nature!
spicysalmonroll I don't think you should feel guilty at all. An only child gets so much love and attention from their parents. There's pros and cons to having any number of kids really. I would have happily been one and done, but both my kids were oopsies lol.
remylove1011 ouch! I didn't know that was possible. I can't have a vbac either, although for a different reason
Exciting news: Mr. Boca got a job! It is overwhelming and emotional because we have to move but very exciting. The job search process was sooo stressful and it's such a relief to be done.
And I'm struggling internally with the decision to have another baby or not. We've always said one and done. We see so many benefits to only having one. Neither of us want another. But then we hang out with my brother's family and see how much fun the kids all have together (he has 3) and it makes us sad that we are "robbing" DS of that companion. It sucks, I want him to have that...but I don't want the responsibility lol. I don't want to be pregnant again, I don't want to give birth again, I don't want the newborn stage again, I don't want to shuttle 2 kids around. So I mean it's a pretty clear cut decision, yet I can't seem to shake the guilt that he will be missing out. I guess that probably sounds really stupid.
I just want to throw out there... your kid will get tons of playmates and socialozation at school. There is no guarantee that siblings will get along or like each other! Having kids is such an intensely personal decision, please don't let others' projected guilt make you think twice about your choices! Your son will thrive with loving parents providing him with every opportunity.
I am personally struggling with baby rabies and wanting #3 all at once, when I never thought I wanted any. It is SO personal, and so not anyone else's choice. It can be hard to shut out the external influences, but please take heart in knowing you make the right choices for your family!
Exciting news: Mr. Boca got a job! It is overwhelming and emotional because we have to move but very exciting. The job search process was sooo stressful and it's such a relief to be done.
I wholeheartedly commiserate and cheer for you and Mr. Boca. I am so happy for you guys to have that weight lifted.
bocaburger, Congrats to Mr, Boca on his job. Are you happy about the area you will be moving to?
spicysalmonroll, You don't need to decide now whether or not to have more children. I don't know how old you are or if you needed medical intervention to conceive, but to me it seems you have plenty of time to decide whether you want to expand your family. I would revisit the idea in a year from now and in the meantime just enjoy your son.
Formerly MoFree on the other board. TTC since 2008 Diagnosis of Severe MFI 3-2009 IVF#1 Nov 2011, BFP DD born @31 weeks gestation, 6-24-12 FET#1, Nov 2013,, BFN FET#2, Feb 2014, BFN Freeze only cycle with PGD August 2014 FET #3 another BFN FET canceled due to cysts FET #4 Dec 2015, BFP Baby Boy born 8-28-16 via VBAC
Saturday is the first annual gaming convention in my town. SO is one of the founding sponsors. He will be running games and demos and magic drafts and stuff... it is going to almost be like a break for me, since I will be helping with the money at the booth, and my mom will be at my house with the kiddos. I haven't gotten any real dedicated hobby time in ages. I won't be playing or anything, but its fun to think about.
He just told me an average first year convention might presale 200 tickets and expect another 300 to just show up and buy tix day of. Apparently this con's presale is already well over 400. They are projecting over 1000 people in the 8 hour convention window, and already discussing running for 2 days next year instead of just 1. Crazy.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
blueinred I know- I keep telling myself to just not think about it for a year. But then when DS has me up at 2am and I can't sleep, my evil mind can't help but go there lol. Doesn't help that my husband is all "let's donate his clothes and swings the SECOND he's done with them" and I'm like but wait...what if I want to hold on to them just in case...
bocaburger, congrats!! Are you moving far? To a completely new place, or a place you know people?
remylove1011, omg I wonder if that happened to me...sex has still been so painful and I keep saying I swear DS broke me on his way out...does sex hurt for you?
bocaburger, congrats!! Are you moving far? To a completely new place, or a place you know people?
Its a couple hours away. It's not too far from H's family but we don't have any friends in the area. The biggest change is that we will be in pretty classic suburbia. I grew up pretty rural and we are currently living in a big city. So I have never really experienced suburbs. It is what we had said we wanted but now that it's really happening I am freaking out a bit...
Post by remylove1011 on Apr 4, 2017 15:51:54 GMT -5
@spiceysalmonroll yes, sex is uncomfortable so we honestly havent had it in months. Did your doctor mention any tearing? You would have needed stitches for a tear. The type of tear I had really only happens in specific circumstances and wouldn't happen in a vaginal birth. ****gory details alert**** I labored for almost 24 hours and pushed for 3 before my emergency c-section. My daughter was stuck in the birth canal right at my pelvic bone and was large (8 lbs 14oz). To get her out during my c-section a nurse had to put her hand into my vagina and push her back up so the doctor could get her out. My husband says I was in there for a long time after he left with our DD (I was way out of it at that point) so my assumption us it required a lot of repair. I lost a lot of blood and was monitored for possibly needing a transfusion. I remember all of that process, just didn't realize it was the tear that had resulted in the extra blood loss.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
@spiceysalmonroll yes, sex is uncomfortable so we honestly havent had it in months. Did your doctor mention any tearing? You would have needed stitches for a tear. The type of tear I had really only happens in specific circumstances and wouldn't happen in a vaginal birth. ****gory details alert**** I labored for almost 24 hours and pushed for 3 before my emergency c-section. My daughter was stuck in the birth canal right at my pelvic bone and was large (8 lbs 14oz). To get her out during my c-section a nurse had to put her hand into my vagina and push her back up so the doctor could get her out. My husband says I was in there for a long time after he left with our DD (I was way out of it at that point) so my assumption us it required a lot of repair. I lost a lot of blood and was monitored for possibly needing a transfusion. I remember all of that process, just didn't realize it was the tear that had resulted in the extra blood loss.
WOW! I'm sorry you had to deal with all of this. I also had a c-section due to my daughter being stuck in birth canal & am not eligible for vbac in the future either. That whole process sounds a bit traumatic.
hannahbear I had flat nipples and my friend had 1 nipple that was inverted. The baby does pull them out with proper latch which we both experienced eventually. Now they are always pointy looking but back when we had major latch issues they were not. I had to use a nipple shield for the first 3 months. My daughter used to sleep constantly at the breast too and lost a ton of weight. I had to EP to maintain supply. It was exhausting. Glad those days are behind us.
Guys, my daughter is only 8.5 months and not even STTN and I am already getting baby #2 itch. What is wrong with me?? Our daughter was an IVF frozen embryo transfer and we have a few embryos in the freezer at the RE still but they aren't as good quality and of course no guarantee they will work. Maybe we will try another FET in the fall. The main thing delaying is breastfeeding.
katelm, around 5 months pp with both my girls, I started getting the itch for another baby. I figure it is because I miss the super potato stage. And hormones. It hit me real hard a week or two back again. I have long-term bc right now, so any potential third baby is gonna have a LOT of thought and planning. But that doesn't stop the daydreams.
My sister warned me about the baby fever. She swears if she could hand them off between 18mo and 3years, she would keep having babies indefinitely. She stopped at 4, all boys, though. Haha
Baby fever hit here too a few months ago, both H and I. Thankfully, I have an IUD, so there will be no snap decisions. We agreed to not to start trying again until DS is closer to 18 months. We just want to get the "no sleep" phase over with as quickly as possible.
Exciting news: Mr. Boca got a job! It is overwhelming and emotional because we have to move but very exciting. The job search process was sooo stressful and it's such a relief to be done.
Congrats Mr Boca! When are you moving? Do you like the new location?
Exciting news: Mr. Boca got a job! It is overwhelming and emotional because we have to move but very exciting. The job search process was sooo stressful and it's such a relief to be done.
Congrats Mr Boca! When are you moving? Do you like the new location?
Early summer. I am still getting used to the idea but starting to get more excited. My sister sent me a list of fun things to do in the area which helped a lot. I think we will be happy there. We can afford a lot more space than we currently have, and the best perk of the new job is free daycare!
Re baby fever: with my first we always knew we wanted at least another one. But baby fever hit around 8/9 months. I went off BC when she was 12 months and now there's DS. With him I've said we're done. And I don't have any baby fever. This time I'm ready to give all things away. Meanwhile I think DH is getting baby fever. Nope!
Congrats Mr Boca! When are you moving? Do you like the new location?
Early summer. I am still getting used to the idea but starting to get more excited. My sister sent me a list of fun things to do in the area which helped a lot. I think we will be happy there. We can afford a lot more space than we currently have, and the best perk of the new job is free daycare!
That's great! Free daycare is reason alone to take a job when you have twins! Haha.
Post by spicysalmonroll on Apr 5, 2017 8:10:56 GMT -5
remylove1011, oh holy crap, sorry you had such a rough delivery. I definitely did tear and got about 15 stitches but I felt those stitches happening on the "outside" if you will. I'm wondering if he tore/broke something further up inside because that's where sex hurts.
bocaburger, holy fuck free daycare, who even offers such a thing?!?! amazing.
joy, Yup me too! No part of me wants another... I posted earlier my internal struggle with not giving him a sibling but when I really stop and think about it, I'm like no way. That is not reason enough to have another when I don't want another. I visited a friend last week with a 7 week old and I was not in love at all...I was like this baby is boring AF. So much more in love with our stage stage where he crawls and laughs!
joy, I also have zero baby fever. I spent a disproportionately large part of the last 9 years focused on family building and am glad to move away from that. Of course I miss N being a tiny squish who melts into my arms but I love the stage where he is now, learning how to negotiate the world and developing new skills almost daily.
Formerly MoFree on the other board. TTC since 2008 Diagnosis of Severe MFI 3-2009 IVF#1 Nov 2011, BFP DD born @31 weeks gestation, 6-24-12 FET#1, Nov 2013,, BFN FET#2, Feb 2014, BFN Freeze only cycle with PGD August 2014 FET #3 another BFN FET canceled due to cysts FET #4 Dec 2015, BFP Baby Boy born 8-28-16 via VBAC
Post by remylove1011 on Apr 5, 2017 10:15:12 GMT -5
@spiceysalmonroll maybe schedule an appt with your ob/gyn to talk about your discomfort. There could always be something else going on or things haven't moved back in place properly.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
pbandjelly I have the ameda bags and they're freaking awful. But they're free, my insurance company sends them, so I just keep using them. My all time fave bags are actually the target brand ones.
I got some bad news today and I'm so stressed out. Basically I don't know where we're going to live in a couple months and I have a couple days to figure it out. I'm going to go visit some family soon to see if I can get some advice and/or help. I mean, I know that if worst comes to absolute worst my mom would welcome us into her home so it's not like we're going to end up on the street. But I'm so stressed out not having an answer or knowing what to do.
I got some bad news today and I'm so stressed out. Basically I don't know where we're going to live in a couple months and I have a couple days to figure it out. I'm going to go visit some family soon to see if I can get some advice and/or help. I mean, I know that if worst comes to absolute worst my mom would welcome us into her home so it's not like we're going to end up on the street. But I'm so stressed out not having an answer or knowing what to do.
Oh, lady, I'm so sorry. Is there anything we can do to help?
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